Here is what happened: I kissed a marine on New Years eve- (we were both holidaying in california) after the party was over, the club was closed, we were waiting for our cabs, he came up to me, said something about how everybody deserves a new years kiss, and 2 mins later, we kissed. I spent the next 2 hours with him, out in the parking lot: we kissed some more, talked about war and peace, good and evil etc and he asked me to come over to his place- added that it didn't have to be anything more than "this", nothing sexual- just talk, hold hands. Said he really liked me, and really wanted to keep talking. Anyway, when my cab arrived, he gave me his number and told me to call him (I hadnt given him my number) when I got back. He was dissappointed that I didn't go with him, but I was with with other friends and it didn't seem right. We talked briefly that night, and he said things like he was thinking about me, had opened his heart out to me and would even like to visit me when I go back to school. The next day, he texted me and said he wanted to see me again. I said no because I had to leave later that day and fly back home to NJ. He said he would still call in a couple of days. But he didnt. So, on Jan 3 I texted him and it turned out he had not even saved my number. We still exchanged like 10 texts (random stuff) and he said he would add me on Myspace. Its Jan 6 today and he still has not texted/called or added me on Myspace. Interestingly, I can't find his Myspace profile - he is not on Facebook. Could it be because he is in training? He said he is in North Carolina - I am guessing that would Camp Lejeune. What do I do? Should I text him again? I didn't like him much when we first met outside the club but later, he emerged as a mature man and I loved his dont-bs-me attitude (he saw through my lack of interest initially). Should I text him again? Does that make me desperate? I am 21, he is 26. Help!
Update: So I texted him last night at 1 and he replied; we had a text conversation till 3am- he flirted, said he knew I liked him, that the kiss meant alot, he wants some one intelligent to talk to and asked if I could visit him. I replied --->to be cont.
10 months ago
Update: Cont: But he didn't reply. I called him & left him a message. he hasn't called back. no texts either. He possibly fell off to sleep last night - he is a marine in training and the texts would take forever to be delivered. What do you guys think?
10 months ago
Speaking from the other end of a similar situation.. I would just stop. If he was really interested in you he would be initiating as much contact as you are attempting. Yes, he might be busy, but most likely he is concentrating on someone that is nearby him. It doesn't make you desparate if you text him again, but when he doesn't respond after a while, I think the realization will show the he was just trying to pick you up that night.
He probably just looking for someone to have sex with that night or the next day after that. I have nothing against the guys in the military but I really don't like their attitude toward female. Most of them just looking for sex period because they are always on moves. Just text him again and if you don't hear from him again then that your answer. Good lucks!
Are you still talking to him now or did you stop? You guys just met, why would he wants you to visit him already? Why did you guys texted so late at 1am? I don't know if you should pursued anything with him because he doesn't sound like he is looking for relationship but more like friend with benefits type. - 10 months ago
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Well, I know 1 is late but I just texted it him anyway and then you know what happened after that. also, if he is not looking for sex, then why me - he knows I am too far away. besides, I am not looking for a relationship with him either- at least not now. I am just interested in him and I think he is in me as well... but he doesn't call, text...i dunno..but then again, why would he talk to me till 3am? why would he flirt? I am so confused!! - 10 months ago
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Why don't you just be friend with him and treat him like one of your guy friend. Get to know him and see what kind of person he is then you can decide later if you want to pursue a relationship with him. Military guys love it when girls call or text them because that kinda help make their day and time goes faster. I would just text him instead of calling him because I think you will be more successful get hold of him through texts. Good luck! - 10 months ago
I agree, he was on vacation looking for a good time...you happened to just be there, guys are interested in the hunt for the prey, type thing, but they don't ever plan on hanging out and making something long term out of it. I wouldn't get your hopes up on this one, let it go and find someone closer to you ...it seems to work out better that way..I would keep him as a friend nothing more...of course you have to be friends before you become any thing else anyway...see how that works out first. - 10 months ago
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