Where do I find guys that want real relationships?

First I want to say its probably not you, its who you choose to try with. What I mean by that is consider where you are looking and think about the things that attract you to a guy. If your in a bar chances are that the guys in there are looking for just that a quick screw. The guys who are looking to have a lasting relationship are probably going to be much harder to find. If you are attracted to bad boys that's probably what your going to get. The good ones I think are hidden in everyday life at grocery store clerks, restaurant waiters they guys who are probably tryng to make a life for themselves instead of drinking their weekends away. I know that I try to make a better life for myself in hopes that a women will see that and want to settle down with me. A guy who talks fast and approaches you might not be what your looking for. Most of the good guys in my opinion are shy and observant, they're the ones who sit quietly in the corner and watch everyone else. Yes they might notice you but, they are also watching to see if your the type of girl they want. A girl that will approach him and take the time to get and know him before wanting to take him home. Everyone has wants and desires but few are patient and controlled enough to wait for that special one. Consider a analogy: If your looking for a movie or a book and your picking based on the cover your chances of being disappointed are much greater. Sometimes you gotta pick up the book and read a few pages or ask someone what they thought of the movie to know whether its something that you really might like. I'm 32 and I go through long periods of being single after a break up. I consider myself and what I really am looking for in a mate.

I reflect on things I did and didn't like about previous relationships and the people I was with. The things I might have done wrong or right and try to use those as a guide. Over the past 10 years I've had only a few relationships and most of them lasted for several years. A man who is worthy of you will take the time to learn what you like and do his very best to make you happy. He will consider you as much as himself he will make an effort to do the little things that will make you day a little more special and want to spend all his free time by your side.
I hope this will help you and that your search will end in utter happiness.

Well, I can tell you that I did the bam bam thank you ma'am with girls I thought were not good enough to have a serious relationship. For example, if they were clingy, or they called me more than 2 times a day to find out how I was doing, or they were on any type of prescription drugs, or their dog or cat was their love of their life, etc, then I immediately saw them just good for sex... Of course, I could never tell them why they weren't good enough for a relationship, but I think some guys out there might have some type of measuring stick. However, it's well known that most guys just want to get laid, and like somebody mentioned, the older they get, the easier is for them to realize that they can't go doing the bam bam thank you ma'am routine all their life...

Oh yea, maybe try eharmony? 4 girls at work have found hubbies thru that....

I'm asking the same question to girls. It is just the majority of both males/females today are just looking for the short term relationships. The type of guy your looking for isn't just going to pop out of nowhere and come to rescue you on his bright white stallion.

Your going to have to search around and find the most compatible for your needs. You might experience some "wham bams" on the way so that's why you should play it safe and weed out the short term wanters from the long term wanters. It's going to be hard to figure out which is which so be prepared to possibly spend the rest of your life looking for Mr.Right.

There isn't a specific place to go looking for a guy whose interested in a commitment. Your going to have to use your own abilities to search, seek, and divide the "wham bams" from the guys who want to commit. Use your own tuition, be careful not to get played or used. Eventually you will find the guy who wants you for the right reasons.

Why is it every time I meet a girl, she is so overbearing and wants a relationship right away? Is there any girls out there who can shoe that she is emotionally stable and not a crazy bitch?

You just gotta keep searching. If you dig in the trash you probably going to find something smelly.

Happy searching bam ma'am.

I don't think that it is the age range. My son's father is 11 years older than I am and my current fiance is 3 years younger, but acts much older than my son's father. I think it just depends on how they were brought up and what types of relationships they have seen their parents in. I have always found that when I'm NOT looking for a relationship one finds me. You just have to be patient and the right person will find you. Good luck sweet heart

I have always had the same problem until I started dating older men. They seem to be much more willing to be faithful and mature than guys in our age range. My boyfriend now is 15 years older than me and everything is really great. He wants me around and he treats me like a lady. Just food for thought. :)

No it's not the age range.. it's the same with me too I'm nearly 20 and I can't find a guy who would want a relationship and I'm sorry but that guy is just, you know girls want a relationship not wham bam 24/7 yes sure get to know each other first. But that's what dating is all about getting to know each other see if you would stay with him/her or not. I really don't know what to tell you but a good friend/person told me not to give up, and to look for him. You know to have faith and be on a look-out... you know maybe we are looking in the wrong places... but I wish you good luck finding the right person you're looking for!!