What is the best thing a shy guy can do to help find a girlfriend?

"Shy" is a nice word people use to describe "fearful". Girls aren't attracted to guys who are afraid, especially of them. Believe in yourself and women will come. Express yourself. Share your opinions, thoughts, and feelings. Learn to be open to that. Learn how to hold conversations (mutual ones, don't just talk about you or her the whole time). Look her in the eye, have open body language (no crossed limbs), keep the focus on her, pay her compliments, make her feel special. Build up your own inner strength, evolve into who you want to be doing whatever will help you reach that comfort level with yourself. At that point, it will all be much easier.

why do you find it hard to talk to girls?
think of it this way, girls fear rejection the same as guys do.

if you get rejected by a girl, move to the next one, and then the next one and so on until you find someone who doesn't.
that's what we women do if we're rejected by guys
rejection works both ways.
you need to stop feeling so inferior and relax

If you have her msn then fab :)

You should try small talk at first, get to know her better.
Then start to talk about bigger things. interests and such and that should lead you onto a rather strong relationship becasue you'll know what she likes and things that she doesn't.

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Yahoo chatrooms.

Read "The mystery method" by mystery. I'm serious! I helped out my cousin with this book, and to be honest, I thought he was hopeless.

find a girl with the same interest as you.
go out to bookstores or such.
if they like the same book as you, say so.
you guys will be able to talk about stuff you both like.
and then you won't be as shy around her.
and you'll be friends eventually.
and maybe if you really like her,
and she likes you too, you guys can go out?

step up, maybe not a whole lot... but try getting out of your shell a little bit... ask her what's up... or comment her on her outfit or something... bring up some kind of topic that you won't be completely akward talking about with a girl and just get into it, then maybe you will warm up to her a little more and the relationship will bloom! GOOD LUCK!

Have female friends and hopefully one of those relationships will turn into something special.

From my experience...confidence is not always everything. But I can tell you that if you want to make a girl feel special and maybe indicate slight interest on your part...make eye contact with her but do not look away quickly. Do not be afraid to hold it for a few seconds longer then normal. This will definitely make her feel special and if she looks back then she may like you!

I know where you are coming from I am very shy around people I don't know but I kind of got over that it is hard to talk to guys when I joined a new club at my school that meets every day and I made lots of friends consisting of girls and guys and I realized that it is just as easy to talk to guys as it is to talk to girls. just start by acting that she is one of the guys just say hey what's up and if they are not snobs they will respond and try to keep the conversation going. we are all not that much different from each other.

Atomizer is 100% right.

For the mean time, I got an idea go to a place where no one knows you and try to hit on a girl your are not attracted to. Orr simply hit on a girl you are not attracted to.
You won't be bothered as much if you get rejected...
If you are lucky the way you will treat her will make you look confident,
I guess its all about faking confidence, until you are confident yourself.

Plus its always nice when someone discovers your little insecurities.

Atomizer summed it up perfectly. Eye contact very important, and a smile too if she gives eye contact too. You'll be fine just don't overthink stuff.

Hit on everything that has two legs! Seriously! If you get rejected, it's a good thing. It will only make you stronger!

And, the more you put yourself out there, the more your chances will broaden. Think about it: If you hit on 10 girls this week, and nine of them reject you, then there still is that one you were able to steal away. Multiply this by four weeks in a month, and what do you get? That''s four girls in one month, dude! Pretty good odds if you ask me. Right?

And as far as rejection goes, and being shy, girls are -- for the most part -- totally cool when it comes to that. If you approach them, and it's not meant to be, they won't totally embarrass you. Meaning: they won't point, laugh, send you away without your dignity intact, etc.

Women are totally proud; They are totally respectful. At worst, they will just ignore you, or tell you that "it's just not going to happen." This is totally cool, because, with the right mind-set, you can just say "cool, it was nice to meet you'," then walk away thinking: "what a mistake she just made. Does she realize the gift I was about to give her? I mean, to get to know me better? Guess she just didn't want to be enlightened."

Put yourself in the driver's seat, dude. Become a "chooser," meaning: GUIDE YOUR OWN FATE. When it comes to having quality women in your life, you choose them, and not vise-versa. Think like this, and only good things will follow -- including that elusive confidence you speak of.

Earn some confidence.

Shyness is not forever. I used to be painfully shy. But over a few years, I trained myself to be more outgoing and confident. I still tend to be quiet and shy in some settings, but I'm far different from how I was.

The best and easiest thing you can do is practice talking to everyone. Young and old, male and female. Store clerks are perfect, because they're paid to talk with customers. Make a daily goal of making small talk with 5 people. Ask them simple questions about the weather; about where they bought that blouse because your sister has a birthday soon and needs a gift; about how they like their job. Ask a lot of question of a lot of people, and you'll get more comfortable with conversation in general. So when you have a chance with a cute girl, you'll be better prepared.

Exercise every day. If you build physical strength and endurance, you hold your body differently. You move differently. You become more aware of your masculinity. Girls notice that, and they like it.

Get ambitious. You have strengths and talents. Use 'em. Be proud of yourself for what you can do well. That'll give you confidence, too. You have goals in life. Pursue 'em, and track your progress day-by-day. It's important that at least some of your goals involve meeting new people. The gym, college or community ed. courses, hobby clubs, church groups, etc. are all great ways to meet new people and earn confidence. And as you meet new people, mention that you're single and looking for a set-up or blind date. You know more people, and _they_ know more people, and they'll all start talking about this cute, quiet guy who can do 40 pushups without breaking a sweat, and who needs a date. Use gossip to your advantage.

None of this happens overnight. But it's worth the effort, I promise. Do it and you'll amaze yourself at the progress you make in only 6 to 12 months.

Good luck!

have someone deliver her a gift from u, that kinda starts if off, or you can stay up all night, and talk to her the next day while ur kinda loopy from not getting sleep. please don't hate me for my honesty.
i hope dis helps