Do you think I'm dateable even though I'm a big girl?

There is the political correct answer, and there is the reality answer. First, there are guys out there that love the bigger girls. One of my close friends is one of those. However, when he says bigger, he likes them with 'extra meat' as he calls it, but extra meat with some curves, which is different from just being big.

You also need to be aware that guys also love to show off their acquisition. For example, I was once at a bar with my colleagues, and the gf of one of the guys showed up. This guy wasn't the best looking guy out there, but hell, his gf could easily have been a model. Once the girl left the bar, we all started high-fiving the guy, congratulating him, and hell, we even got him free drinks cause in our eyes, he was a complete stud. The point of the story is to illustrate how guys seek the approval of other guys, cause there is nothing like having the respect of your male colleagues. With that in mind, most guys don't want to be seen with bigger girls cause they know they could be ridiculed, and thus, I think that's why many guys out there, don't go for the bigger girls.

Of course, this is not always the case, but for sure, it's the most common scenario.
Now, my other friend, who is a female, she used to be on the thin side, but then, she gained around 200 lbs, and went from being hot, to being a big girl. After 2 years of as she said, 'feeling like a blob of shit', she started exercising, and after 1.5 years, she is also back to almost her previous weight. As she said, she went from being looked with disgust on the streets, to now, being wined and dined by guys; so yea, from that experience along, you can draw the conclusion, that being lighter does help the cause of getting dates.

I myself at one point gained 50 lbs or so, and well, I had a hard time getting dates; I remember one girl telling me, you're cute, but a bit too fat for me. After I heard that, I felt like crap, and I made it a point to lose the weight. After I did so, I was once again 'date-able' material. So yes, not getting dates could be related to your size. And even though another person answered that if size is a problem for a guy, then that guy is not for them, I can also tell you that your dating pool will probably quadruple, if you were on the 'smaller' side.

Also, I looked at your pic, and you're a cute girl. If you were to add some exercising to your daily routine, not only is it good for your health, you will feel better after exercising, and eventually, you might be one of those delicious, thick girls out there. Good luck and just do it!!!

I think you need to project yourself with more confidence. I know big girls who have some dating success and they are always very vivacious, they take time in their appearance, and are confident.

Buuuut, you will get a lot more dates if you lose weight. It's not that big girls are un-datable, but like sexwiseman said, you're gonna have more options if you are in shape.

I'm 5ft and 125 pounds and guys call me fat which hurts really bad I'm not stick thin but so what...if your happy in your own skin then good on you if you think you need to lose weight whether it be to be healthier or to feel better about yourself do it for you never do it to get a boyfriend..be happy with who you are.. I know that's easy said than done and pretty rich coming from me who hates my looks and weight but good on to anyone out there that excepts them selves!! and just cause your a big girl does not mean you can't be dateable <3 <3 xxxx

Hey Girl,
Well all I have to say is that .. I think any girl regardless of her weight, height, looks, intelligence, personality is dateable if she is confident with herself. I know it sounds really cliche but its the truth. If you are confident and comfortable in your own skin then you somehow become more appealing to guys.

I have heard so many stories about guys who have dated really good looking model type girls and the majority (after the novelty has worn off) can't stand the girl, because she is so insecure in herself and is so worried about her looks and what other people think.

I'm sure that you have a great personality, just go do things that you make you happy and comfortable in your own skin. The more you love YOU the more other guys will catch on =)

Hope this helps

Hot Alpha Female

Kassie, I'm also a big girl, and life has taught me the following:

1. I'm perfect just as I am.

2. If my size is a problem to any guy, he's not the guy for me.

3. I will first take care of myself, meaning that if you are well groomed and well spoken, you will know that when you end up in a conversation, you can hold your own.

4. please take care not to fall into the age old trap of being sexually used by guys because they think that you are afraid of not finding "Mr Right". It is common knowledge that some guys have that outlook on life, fortunately not all of them do, but it pays to be aware of that.

5. Never let anybody be abusive towards you. you are beautiful as you are, enjoy your life.... C.