Okay, so ALL my friends have been pushing me to ask this dude out because they say there's a really good chance that he'll say yes, but this one friend of mind whose had lots of experience with guys says... that a) I shouldn't do anything at all. Because if he really likes me, chances are HE'LL do something and make the move.
BUT I'M GETTING IMPATIENT
b) a guy friend said that if he knows a girl likes him already, it kind of ruins the game
... so in a boy's point of view... what do you think of girls who ask you out? Should I go for this dude if I really like him?
WindChaser
(Age:25 to 29)
When: More than a year ago
Well point A and B does have a bit of truth in them. But for point A, what if the guy is shy? How likely is it for a shy guy to ask a girl out, let alone approaching them. If you've done some searching on this site, you'll find TONS of topics like this about women asking men out. This is the 21st century, and men are DYING, SCREAMING, WISHING for women to ask them out. If you ever want equality between men and women, take this first step.
Point B can go both ways. It's our typical nature to not want things that we can have or get easily. Of course, I'm not saying this is true for EVERYONE, but a majority of people are like this. So how to defeat this bad side of human nature? Be subtle. Just ask him out without giving him the impression that you are TOTALLY into him. Don't let him sense that you are desperate/impatient for a man. Just play it cool, but at the same time you have to give some SMALL but vital hints that you MAY be interested in a relationship. I think this balancing act of showing interest and playing it cool is very hard. But to pull it off successfully, I think you have to find your balance. Best of luck
I definitely agree with you on the point A thing.. That's exactly what I said to this other girl that I gave advise to! I'm talking about the 21stcentury thing,cause once again that's exactly what I said to another girl. - 11 months ago
If you know the guy well, and you know that he likes you, then it's perfectly fine to ask him out, but if he doesn't know you well, asking him out will be a bigger risk.
I don't think that you should be worried about "ruining the game," unless you're interested in playing games. If you want a more serious relationship, just be honest and straightforward.
I'm not sure if he likes me.... =[ WE flirt a lot that's for sure. But some guys are just shameless flirts! I want to ask him out because I really like him, but my friend is SCARING me! She keeps saying not to so know I'm second-guessing myself. - More than a year ago
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Just ask him out on a casual date. That way, you'll have more of an opportunity to talk about relationships, including the potential one between him and you. Otherwise, you could wait around in limbo forever--something I'm sure you don't want to do. - More than a year ago
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