I just recently started seeing this guy (about 10 days ago). On our 3rd date we went out to dinner and then did a little bar hopping. Neither of us were drunk...but we were kind of buzzing a bit. On the way home he told me that he wasn't interested in dating anybody else. We got back to my house and we ended up making out on my front porch pretty intensely for almost 10min. He said that he wanted us to be exclusive.
The making out was great...but I am a virgin and I know that I will not be comfortable with moving on to sex until I have known him a bit longer (say a month or so). Things are moving so fast...I don't want to lead him into thinking I am ready and then put the breaks on.
I really do like him...and it's not that I don't want to have sex...I just don't want to rush things. Are most guys okay with making out for a while or do they find that to be a tease? Any advice??
Guys are good with what we can get. If he's the kind of guy that wants a real relationship and is worthy of being your first, then he will be satisfied with the level that you are comfortable with. Personally I like to move more slowly because I think it's more fun if each date is part of the development of the relationship. There's a magic in a first kiss that is 100% not there if the first kiss is followed by sex that night.
There's no such thing as leading a guy on. Until you have indicated that you are ready, this place you were "leading him on" toward exists only in his head. If he is disappointed due to unreasonable expectations that he made up himself, well that's not your fault.
I agree with the other respondent with the odd name that you should be clear ahead of time. That will make it easier for him and for you.
Don't worry, he won't rush you. If he wanted to get into your pants early, he probably would have tried on the first date. Guys will wait on this. Now, the problem arises when you do start having sex and then just all of a sudden want to stop. - 11 months ago
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That's a good point, and all the more reason to be consistent in your approach. - 11 months ago
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That doesn't make you a tease. I think it's great that you don't want to rush into it. You must be honest with him, though.. Don't wait until he's putting the condom on to tell him that you aren't ready. If he's ready to be exclusive with you, then I'm sure he will love that you want to wait to get to know him better before you take such a huge step. It shows that you aren't trying to get into his pants and that you really care about him as a person. Sex is a big deal and we sometimes jump into it way too quickly.
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