Can you just be friends with someone you like?

u would have to kill ur heart to be friends with someone you like, am going through that right now, and it kills me knowinng that she knows and were not together. but I deeply feel for this girl so I guess my situation is worse.

Well, the last thing that you would want to do is risk the friendship for something more. They could have so many reasons why they didn't like you "that way" and they are totally right to think what they want. It would upset me, if she keeps complaining about how guys are jerks, and if she is gonna find someone, but there's nothing wrong with being friends. Odds are you are more likely to be friends longer, if you don't date. Plus if she knows how you feel, that's not enough for her to want to be with you, just cause you really really like her. There's a girl that I met, and I liked her a lot, cause she was goofy and just a ton of fun to be around. Now sure I was a bit upset when I found out that she was dating some guy, but I thought, if she is my friend, then I want her to be happy. I try to give her advice, and make sure that I am not telling her something that leads to them breaking up, so that I can move in. We are great friends, and she is someone that I can count on. People should be flattered that you like them, but it shows them how great you are, that you would want to still be their friend, even after feeling rejected. Plus that you actually try to be their friend.

Well, the more friends have you, the better. But, there is nothing that says you have to have him as a friend. If it's too uncomfortable, you can choose not to be near him.

It's way better to know someone awesome at all than to just be like 'well if you aren't gonna do me it's best we part ways'. This has happened to every guy before, and I think it's still cool getting to know someone and hanging out with them just as friends even if you love them. Yeah it hurts sometimes, and it can be a challenge to hold yourself off and not press your own desire on em. Some days it'll be harder (as in more difficult) than others, but it's doable for sure.

Some dudes can't handle it though, so I think it's an each guy has his own opinion thing.

I say it's better to find the love elsewhere. If you distance yourself from this person for a while, and just remain friendly with them in passing, then you won't be too crushed. Who knows, if the time away from each other works out right, he may come calling realizing his mistake. If not, then you are already looking for love elsewhere.

I have been faced a few times. I had three friends that I had a feeling of wanting more, but in there hearts felt that it was best to "Just be friends". Well, out of the three, I still talk to one of them and that is once in a while. I will still talk to someone who feels that way, but I don't think it is the same after the other knows you like them.

This is possible, if you believe in your friendship (and masturbation).

I have this friend. She is like my best friend, except that she has these delicious breasts, a great ass, and these big, beautiful green eyes, with orange sunbursts in her pupils. And when I say her name out loud, I her the angels singing.

Here's the thing. I stare at her ass HARD. I think deep down, I really wanna do her...bad. BUT, she is a great friend, and I would never want to disrespect her like that. Not ever. And, I am married, so that's not cool, either. So I live my life in a weird way... I am, in fact, a very lucky guy. I know these two HOT babes. One I respect as a friend, and the other I call my wife and my lover.

Truly, I am lucky.

I could, but my friends never can with me. They always want more.

No matter what, the person who likes the other is still going to pursue a relationship.. that can be good and bad for the other person.

Depends on your type of friendship. I'm kinda in love with this girl that just wants to be friends, and I'm completely cool with it. Because I care about her so much that I'm fine with letting her be if that will make her happier. We're still pretty good friends (if not the closest of close friends,) and I'm going through that again with someone else, and it's MUCH harder, but mostly because I'm still hoping the girl will turn around (she did like me only a couple weeks ago, but something made her decide against it.)

You should really read my situation. It's following this question exactly. I have a girl who called me her best friend. We hung out for 5 weeks non stop. Constant, I was perfectly fine with being friends even though I fell for this girl. The only problem is that now she's acting distant for some reason. I don't know if It's something I did or if she thinks I'm not fun to be around anymore. Or maybe she thought I was getting to close and is pushing me away because she thinks I'm trying for something more. To answer the question, I am happy with her being my best friend.

I would rather be with her having fun then never to have known her. I just wish she stopped acting so casual and carefree around me now when we were always hanging out. She doesn't even look at me when she talks or when I talk, and yet she does when talking to other people. It's really depressing because now I think she hates me or doesn't care about being best friends anymore when she's the one who called me her best friend. Even with all this pain I'm happy that she even talks to me or takes the time to e-mail me. Even if it is a lot less then before.(this doesn't sound to much like a yes but still It makes me feel better.)

I think it would be just too hard. the rejection every time you are with them would be tough on me. plus I like to give my all in a relationship so if I gave my heart to someone else then I wouldn't want to spend too much time with that member of the opposite sex anyway!

It's hard to tell from here, seeing as I have no idea on the situation, but sometimes it will just work itself out. I'd say it's better to be friends than nothing at all if you really like the guy, but don't get your hopes up. Guys tend to be less than intelligent or thoughtful most of the time. I'd say until you find someone else, do what you've been doing -- it wouldn't hurt anything. Just know when is too much and when you think it's time to move on.
It's hard, but you'll just have to either wait 'til he changes his mind, or you find someone else.

I don't think you should try to force anything.