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What is the best, and easiest way to expose your feelings to a guy without coming off as if you're in love?

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dazedandconfused2 (Age:25 to 29)     When: More than a year ago
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I have feelings for a guy and I'm not sure of his feelings, although it seems to me and everyone else who knows our conversations that he has feelings for me too. He is obviously not going to say anything first and calls me a friend still.

I just want to express my feelings and have it out there and if he wants to take them fine, if not then I will no longer be wasting my time! I just don't want to feel like a fool and then turn our friendship into something strange! I could still be friends with him if he wasn't interested, that wouldn't be a problem...I just don't want to make it weird for him or myself...so what do I say? I've tried hinting but he either can't take hints or just wants me to come out and say it!

As for the poll question: Which would you do if you were me?


Update: Also for the poll, if you answer it, then tell me how I should do it or what to do unless its waiting, and I know how to do that!    More than a year ago

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Just come out and say it NOW!

Wait on him to tell me.

Never mention it, it will ruin your friendship regardless!

Give more hints.

Ask what he wants from all of this "constantly talking" and go from there because he rarely goes a day without talking!

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Anonymous User      When: More than a year ago
I just did that! lol and this is what I did to change his thoughts. But, do not do this unless you know FOR SURE he will reciprocate feelings, or else you may screw things up for the friendship.
A) You obviously have to test the waters first to find out if he's going to be down or not. How I did this, I asked him to do things, hang out, just me and him. Basically don't change anything and be yourself but with a little added nudge. I don't know what your personality is like, but I'm definitely a joker and really blunt...And always have been so I would make some type of little comment but to get them thinking I might want something more. I think we were talking about his outfit and I said something along the lines of "I'm pretty sure those jeans would look better on the floor of my room ha ha ha.." lol but like I said IM blunt like that, but he came back with "ohhh reaaaaally *wink* you could definitely be right" and then from that point it kind of got the ball rolling and I knew he would be interested.

B)Then when you get to the point of knowing he could definitely be in for something, you have to decide what feels like the right time to tell him your feelings. I would obviously hang out a little more just you and him and who knows, he may even ask you first, but basically everyones different, so every relationship will be different. You will definitely know when it feels right to tell him "you know I love hanging out with you and being your friend, but I just can't help wondering what it would be like to give us a shot, I think it could turn out to be something great."

Hope that made sense lol, and good luck! :)
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Question Asker Hahaha well I am a joker and blunt about everything BUT my feelings towards him! He'll make remarks kinda like that and I will just go along with them or like the other day I asked why he didn't stop to play when it was snowing cause he said he drove by (which he does a lot, but I kinda live on a cut thru road that he uses to go to work but that was night time and I don't know what he was doing!) but I don't know he's just either straight up friends that wants to joke and talk to me a lot or he has feelings! - More than a year ago
Answerer If your a joker, next time he compliments you, why don't you just say something like "wow why don't you just date me already" and then laugh, don't make it look all serious, and just see how he responds to that. Its kind of ballsy, but its something I would do lol. - More than a year ago
Question Asker Hmm yea I may have to try that if I haven't screwed things up already :-\ - More than a year ago
Answerer Did you already say something to him? - More than a year ago
Question Asker He made a comment of saying he was gonna go on dates but my name wasn't part of it he mentioned 2 other girls and so I've just been like ok we don't wanna hear that as girls lol and we're both confusing each other! I don't know lol its a mess maybe he doesn't like me more than a friend afterall but he has surely acted like it and progressed with it over the past few months which is why I'm clueless! I don't know if he's scared or what but I'm just about to say forget it and if he wants me he'll have to grow balls - More than a year ago
Answerer He could be trying to make you jealous, and see what kind of reaction you get from him telling you he's going on dates with other girls. Maybe the best thing for you to do is to just be honest with him, regardless. Just sit him down (face to face, do not do this over texts or an email) and just let him know, look I'm getting this feeling sometimes that your into me, but I was afraid to ask you about it because I didn't want to risk our friendship, and see what he says to that. - More than a year ago

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J_crash      When: More than a year ago
It could be something as simple as showing that you care about the same things that he cares about, or at least are interested. But don't come off too strong and appear that you love everything that he loves, because that can be somewhat of an annoyance for us. Just tell him that you really care about him and show it by stepping out of your comfort zone and doing something unexpected that he would like.
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rudybooty      When: 11 months ago
I would def. go with D or E, I however did pick D. I'm like currently in the same situation as you are except he's my boyfriend. I just have problems expressing my feelings.

Well good luck with everything.
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Rebellious      When: More than a year ago
Hi.. It's me again.. I pick giving a few more hints for a little while longer and then I guess I'd up, not saying you should but I guess I would.. it gets tiring after a while and maybe our guys are ignoring hints on purpose... ( Sound cynical don't I :p, sry.. maybe I'm having a bad day).. Oh and the movie thing that you said I should do, totally didn't work out... :(.. I'll let you know when I come up with something innovative :D...
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Question Asker Aww that sucks! lol yea something will work hahaha I asked him today why he talks to me and he said, why not I am just being friendly and talkin to you. I mean I haven't really tried to take anything from u. So I don't see where me being nice is using you. lol because earlier I said that its become a routine for us to text each other and he said yea but it will break because it always does and we'll find somethin else to hold our interest! ugh..then he asked why I text him lol I don't know wtf to say! :-\ - More than a year ago
 
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