I'm 19 years old and there is this new guy I'm seeing who is 5 years older than me. He just got out of a 5 year relationship and says he doesn't know if him and his ex are gonna get back together. Now this is my dilemma we're just friends, I really like him and I wanna keep him for myself but I'm not a selfish person. So what do I do, let him go if it comes down to that or try my hardest to get what I want while I still have a fighting chance?
I really don't think its your place at all, and why would you want to come in between two people who may or may not be in love? You don't want to be that girl.
If he wants you, he knows your there, you may just be a crutch right now to get him through this, I thought getting over my ex of three years is hard, tack on two more years...hes just in no place to be able to even think about a relationship with someone else, even if he wants one, lets just put it that way.
Be there for him as a friend, but don't interfere with his love life because he may turn on you and start to resent you.
Also what's the sense in fighting for something you never even had in the first place? Just because you hang out doesn't mean he's yours, he will decide that, and then let you know about it.
If you start acting all crazy towards him you may not only loose your chance at a shot with him, but also loose him as a friend.
You have no control over his behavior. None. Zero.
All you can do is tell him what you want, tell him your opinion, your wishes.
Then, it's his decision.
I suggest you casually say that you'd like to date him if he's single. Then back off. He's already told you there's a chance he might get back with his ex. So spilling your guts and "fighting" for something you can't control will only shred your heart.
I agree with that last cmment. I mean 5 years is a long time and I'm sorry but you can't compare that to a few weeks. Let him know that you really like him and have feelings for him and then he'll decide what he wants to do. Good luck :)
Wait, your friends but you're seeing each other? Huh? How does that work? Here's the thing, if you really like him go ahead and tell him what you feel. However, you have to know that if he wants to get back with her he will. He obviously is thinking about it since he has let you know. That was his way of preparing you for his departure. Five years is a long time. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst.
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