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How do I get a girlfriend after everything hasn't worked?
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(Age:18 to 24)
When: 5 months ago
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I have been single for more than 5 years now and I have been trying to get a girlfriend since I have been single I have tried almost every trick in the book and all the cliches (just be confident, start as a friend, etc.) and none of them work. I don't want to seem desperate or like a pedo. I am not out for Sex I just want a woman to be my girlfriend and I don't want to ruin the friendship that is already established. I refuse to do dating websites partially because I don't have the money or time for it and partially because I don't like that kind of dating (from experience and seeing family do it I have determined that its just not for me) and I don't want to just walk up to her and kiss her or whatever (cause to me that would seem like I'm creepy or a Pedo). how do I get a girlfriend after all of this hasn't worked? please help. just to add on/reiterate I have tons of friends (over 600-700+) so the get a big circle of friends thing isn't a problem. and I also trust and talk to most if not all of them so that's not a problem. and like I said above I have tried all the Cliches (be yourself, be confident, dress nicely, etc.) and none of them have worked. also a lot of my friends are females (I am very friendly, nice, kind, etc. especially to women) so getting female friends isn't the problem. I have been told and myself think that I am not ugly at all so looks isn't a problem. if you notice I do everything right but nothing seems to be working and like I said above I don't want to ruin the already established relationships that I have with the women as friends, I'm not looking for sex like most guys are, Dating Websites aren't for me (again seen through experience and not just being judgemental), I don't wanna seem like a creeper or a pedo, and I don't just wanna walk up and like kiss her or grab her butt or something (I'm just not that type of guy). and I am friends and attracted to many different kinds of women so Its not like I'm singling out one type so having a broader spectrum isn't the problem. so please if you have something other than cliches (cause again I've tried them all and they Haven't worked) that can help please let me know. all the girls I have tried asking all show some form of interest in me. so that's not the problem. I am pretty cool around women and don't stutter or look at my feet or anything so that's not the problem. I do flirt in a lot of conversations with Women but that hasn't worked (which is a cliche which I already said Haven't worked). I laugh at Jokes that women say I have a very good sense of humor and can find a lot of things funny I also make them laugh as well but that hasn't worked either as it is a cliche which I said Haven't worked. please don't send cliches as answers I have already said that I have tried them all and none of them have worked. no matter what happens (if I flirt or if I don't if I'm nice or if I'm not) the girls always end up in the friend Zone to start with no matter what I do even if I don't want them to.
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What Girls Said
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How do I get a girlfriend after trying everything and having none of it work?
Possibly by either dating foreign gals, lowering your standards, or increasing your attractiveness, wealth, status, appeal, or personality.
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So I've read that you've tried every cliché ... Have you tried being a real gentlemen ... For me that's the biggest turn on ever when a guy opens doors, thinks of my needs (ex. Bringing me soup and tea when I'm sick) with out being told or asked. It shows you're trying to impress them. It shows that they are special to you without anything in return. It shows that you are different than every other guy by not trying all the cliché's/lame pick up lines. And any girl that would actually be worth it would see you as someone they could be with ... Why? Because a gentleman is so hard to find. I mean ... Have you asked them out? I would assume so, but I didn't read anywhere that you did. So if you don't make a move ... A real move ... They won't end up your girlfriend and will go into the friend zone.
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What is it with you and the word "pedo"? If you want to date, but don't want to seem like a pedo... I'm sorry, how old are the girls you're going for?
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What Guys Said
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have you tried rape?
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hello there
i can relate as I have a similier problem. the solution is simple. go to england. there are lot of the women over there who I would class as being sexually aggressive as in they will approach you. I am heading over there soon just because of that
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Start by learning how to paragraph.
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What do you look like? How tall are you? What build are you? A picture would be most useful here.
Have you previously tried to date women at all? Have you always been rejected or just never asked many out?
If you are within the realm of normal personality wise (you say you do well socially so I'm assuming you are) you shouldn't have any problems with women, provided you are realistic with your standards compared to how attractive you are.
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The best thing to do is to start from a common interest. Whatever activities that you like, that can be done in groups and have women participating are great. You might also want to take up a group activity that girls like. That puts you where women are that like what you like. Get to know them and when you find one that you like...just tell her and ask her out if she doesn't kick you to the curb immediately. Beyond that it's a numbers game. Keep trying until you find one that you like who says yes.
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In my opinion compliments by gals in relationships/not ready for relationships are like compliments from women a guy's mothers age meaning they're basically worthless or bullsh*t since they come from gals that aren't interested in having sex with him, dating him, or being his girlfriend.
You didn't easily disproved it rather you proved I my guess correct that you basically not having standards mean average looking.
You also proved my other guess right that the gals were in relationships or saying that they weren't ready for relationships. In my experience you'll find such gals are quite quick to tell guys how good their looks and personality are even it isn't true.
I thought you said you tried everything to get a girlfriend so how come you didn't try asking out any of these multiple gals that told you that you were handsome and had an awesome personality?
Again care to provide a pic of what you consider average looking for a gal. I highly doubt you don't really care about height, weight, looks otherwise you'd quite easily get a girlfriend in an obese ugly gal.
The answer for the other part of the question were any of these gals that complimented you willing to have sex with you, date you, or be your girlfriend? If not seems like bullsh*t as people tend to give bs compliments.
When they told you this was it during you questioning/complaining about your romantic failures and were any of these these gals that told you that you willing to have sex with you, date you, or be your girlfriend?
If these compliments came during a time you were talking about your lacking love life and the gals wouldn't date you they may be bullsh*t.
Care to post a pic of your idea of basically having no standards as in my observations when guys claim such it tends to mean average looking.
In my opinion if you did have an awesome personality and were handsome you'd have a girlfriend or have gals pursuing you as my guy pals and the hot guys I know tend to be heavily pursued by gals.