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I called her confusing, she didn't respond to it? Thoughts?
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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)     When: 5 months ago
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Long story short is I got rejected by a girl in the past because she likes another guy, however me and her got talking again and got to be really close friends(not always a bad thing). Honestly from my perspective she is throwing signs of "just friends" AND "maybe more" and yes she DEF KNOWS I'm interested. Here's our txting convo and we're both in HS btw

(The texts before this were about the idea of us meeting up to talk, but she couldn't make it, so we're gonna discuss it at school tomorrow)

Me: (bla bla bla) and all I'm gonna say is you're really confusing
Her: (bla bla bla) and is that it?
Me: (bla bla bla) and if there's anything you wanna confess, you can text it now or tell me tomorrow when we talk
Her: Nothing comes to mind, what about you?
Me: Other then the fact you're a bit confusing, that's it
Her: (No reply back, not sure if I should text and talk about something else or leave it)

The fact she didn't clear anything up... says she's either thinking about the situation herself right? Otherwise would have she have said something like "Whats there to be confused about? We're just friends" or something similar? And yes I'm an optimist, but I still have my doubts and that's why I'm here asking this question lol.

FYI: The talk we're gonna have tomorrow is me asking her where we stand and if she wants to be more then friends(yeah, cute I know :3 LOL)
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  • Beetledove
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    Beetledove
    5 months ago
    Girls hate when you call the m confusing...

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    • Question Asker
      5 months ago
      She just texted back "Sorry fell asleep" LOL.

      Should I change topic, or keep this above conversation going?
    • Answerer
      5 months ago
      She's not interested if she doesn't text you back. Ah, don't text her... just wait and like see dude.
    • Question Asker
      5 months ago
      I can imagine... but it lets her know again that I still like her, and the fact she didn't clarify anything can either be seen as a sign of interest or neutral
 

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  • leax90
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    leax90
    5 months ago
    from your personal point of view what is more important is her liking you not you liking her.
    if you insist too much on showing that you are interested although you say she knows she might not have any interest.

    you either do something crazy and go all in or not do anything. don't keep sending small hints.

    I can't explain really why but in the past I stopped wanted to be with a girl only because she was over stating the fact that she was interested. you can call me stupid or think of it anything, it doesn't make it any less true. And it is the same for most people. follow the advice of Beetledove.
    GO to BED. and Have fun tomorrow in your discussion :D.

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    • Question Asker
      5 months ago
      Here's that "discussion" we had the next day. I do believe she is keeping me as a friend because of this other guy based off her second response, have a lookie and respond there :D

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    • Answerer
      5 months ago
      So I haven't said that she is not interested.

      I am saying, she might start losing interest. If you are too passive. Procrastinating too long won't help your cause, from my personal experience, you could either make a move with the risk of failing but still tried or look away and see if there isn't another girl that could help you get the extra attention you need.

      We always want what we cannot have.

    • Question Asker
      5 months ago
      i see, thanks!
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    • Answerer
      5 months ago
      What I meant is: Sometimes if you show too much that you are into someone (in your case a girl), she will lose interest. It doesn't always happen but I have seen it happen in the past.

      One example, a girl from my class was hitting on me a few months back, I was thinking "maybe, why not", she kept on sending very light hints for over a month and not do anything about it, I ended up losing interest and looked away. make me sound bad but it is what it is. The challenge was all gone.
    • Question Asker
      5 months ago
      Curious but you said she might not have any interest. So what part of our convo, (or what's NOT there) shows she's not interested in your opinion?

      Here's your quote:
      "if you insist too much on showing that you are interested although you say she knows she might not have any interest."
    • Answerer
      5 months ago
      I know I am confusing.
      I have just realized that I am probably on a different time zone from yours.
      Its 2:30am. here, I'm getting sleepy and can't focus on the way I make my sentences.

      I hope the message is still somewhat understandable.
    • Answerer
      5 months ago
      if she goes for just friends, Open your options but seriously, start looking at what is around you, do not focus too much about her. If you end up with another girl and she sees that you are not paying attention to her anymore, she will be shaken up a little, she may even become available, because your attention provides a nice feeling of confidence boost for her she is pretty and that's why you like her. if she loses that she will want it back. Also, you may meet someone better that way.
    • Answerer
      5 months ago
      I had a very similar situation that changed me completely: I was into a girl with whom I became virtually best friend within no time (given how caring I was with her). She was crazy about another guy, I kept on waiting for the right moment, but by then I was friend zoned. A year went by, a friend of mine made a move and made out with her. I was shattered. Changed completely got with a much better girl. Honestly it was the best thing that happenned to me, ironically. my point is
    • Question Asker
      5 months ago
      Btw.. if she does do the "just friends" option because of the other guy... do I remain a friend? Lol I know it sounds silly... but I always keep my options open.

      Also again, if she does do the "just friends" option, do I ask why? or is that insecure and awkward for her?

      I'm 100% confident though it'll be because ONLY of the other guy, I had a mutual friend ask about me to her and it did seem like that was the only reason she rejected me in the past
    • Question Asker
      5 months ago
      alrighty, thanks!
    • Answerer
      5 months ago
      I would keep the question short to be honest, you don't need to be pleading your case.

      Only advice I can give is keep cool whatever happens, if she is completely crazy about another guy she may go with the "just friend" option, in order to remain available for the other guy. (nothing you can really do about it right now).

      demonstrating interest for another girl could play in your favour, but need to be done in a smart way, don't push it till you get called names.
    • Question Asker
      5 months ago
      haha oh well, won't kill me this one time.

      Any other further advice? I'm still going through with my "So could we ever be more then friends?" quesiton plan.

      Should I also tell her how I genuinely feel(like we could have a future together because of all our life values and hobbies are all the same!), or just leave it at that simple question?
    • Answerer
      5 months ago
      Do not reply, and go to bed for real. Tomorrow, apologize and say that you didn't have your phone with you when she texted or that you were already sleeping.

      But now that I am reading your comments again, I am thinking that you have already sent a reply, showing that you are still awake and have your phone. lol

      The aim was to make her wait for a reply and put her in the position you were in when you "started freaking out a little" and posted your question ^^.
    • Question Asker
      5 months ago
      i'm sorry what you wrote was a bit confusing (harhar).

      Yes I do plan on going all out tomorrow by basically asking her where me and her stand...and I do believe she's interested... I mean she would ask what's wrong right? I don't know LOL

      and yes I'm going to bed soon :p
  • midozak
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    midozak
    5 months ago
    are you like 14 years old or something ?

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    • Answerer
      5 months ago
      listen dude she seems to like but she just confused herself. Talk to her and see where it leads too.
    • Question Asker
      5 months ago
      Yes.
  
   
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