So I was talking to this guy for about two weeks. We hit it off really well and saw each other basically everyday for those two weeks. All of my girlfriends couldn't believe how often we were hanging out. He would call me during the day just to say hi even though I was at work and I thought it was the most adorable thing in the world! Not to mention, how excited I was that I FINALLY found a guy that I liked. Then all of a sudden out of no where he kind of started to back away. And I didn't think anything of it because I had been thinking as well "wow we're kinda pushing it here" anyway, one night we were on the phone and I can't remember how it came up but he told me "I thought I wanted a relationship but I'm not ready. I really like you , but I don't think I'm ready for a commitment, I'm really scared" so I was like "okay" and he was like "but I still like you I just don't want a girlfriend right now" and I was like "okay". So we agreed to take things slow and continue doing what we were doing. However, it's been a week in like 3 days since I've seen him. And he is doing this thing like calling me every other day wanting to hear everything about my day and is so chatty and then will say "okay I'll call you tomorrow" but then doesn't call till the day after. I'm so confused. Obviously his feelings have changed because his actions have. But if he didn't still like me why would he be calling at all? I know he's had a rough couple years but I always thought if a guy liked you enough he wouldn't let you get away? I'm so confused about the entire situation, esp. Because it came out of no where. One day he was calling me baby and hunny bun and the next he was taking space and calling me every other day.
He could've had a bad experience with a relationship in the past, and now he wants to be careful. Or, he might just want a sex buddy, and not have to put effort into a real relationship. You should test him. Put the question of sex to him, and see what he says.
Maybe he's worried he was looking too needy? One thing us guys have learned the hard way is a needy guy always ends up single it seems. It definitely looks like he likes you, maybe he's just trying to make a challenge for you, or maybe he's genuinely afraid right now. I know when I had a girl I really wanted to be with I was scared to make the next move forward because I didn't want to mess it up and lose her.
He was very straight up that he was a bit scared and wanted to take things slow, by still calling you and seeing how you are doing he is showing a genuine interest and is just sticking to his word. I wouldn't let your doubts cloud your judgment, the guy likes you! You yourself felt things were going a bit too fast at first so maybe you aren't used to this pace. Just take things slow and see how they work out.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 9 months ago
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