Everyone gets into a funk at some time or another. Sometimes, it takes a while to crawl back out of that hole. You'll make it out. Meanwhile, my advice is for you to surround yourself with positive people. Be it at the gym or wherever. Just don't sit around and drink to kill the time and numb the emotions. After developing a belly from drinking, you'll still end up at the gym and wasted a lot of time/money in the process.
Find something you enjoy doing, even if it's just reading, do that. Just do it in a park, a coffee shop, a bookstore, a library. You get the picture. Right now, dating may not be the best answer because we can all be very vulnerable when depressed. Some women will prey on that by stroking your ego. Soul-sucking vampires will leave you in much worse shape if you end up getting attached to them. Get your head right first and foremost so you'll see them for what they are.
Yeah your right its just everything I do seems to remind me of her whatever I do. I have to get my mind off of her sober or not. I just want to replace her. But your right I'll just surround myself with good people. Thank You. - 6 months ago
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Hon, it doesn't work. Drinking only makes you more depressed. I like to drink too and I'm not an alcoholic, so I'm not preaching. Drinking will also make you want to call her. Bad idea. Talking it out is better. Message me if you need to vent. - 6 months ago
If I were a guy id definitely hit the gym there's nothing better than working out and plus there's nothing sexier then a guy sweating it out maybe you'd even walk out with a few numbers.
There are several things you can do depending on your personality. A) continue to mope and get no where in love or your depression B) Go out for girls with depression and allow yourself to be happy and help lift depression and get a girl C) Help your depression then your need for a girl.
Work on yourself and getting your mind and soul together. I would just get back out there when you are not depressed and feel good about yourself. Self esteem and confidence attracts women.
I swear if I do anymore soul searching I'll become a god! The last thing Id think I needed was to pull in shouldn't I be going out. I'm always in introverted mode I want to get away from that. - 6 months ago
Go out and buy a superbike (crotch-rocket), it will enhance your clarity of mind, heighten your reflexes, and develop your ability to analyze a situation effectively and take immediate, appropriate action. You will then develop an intimate relationship with your fears and inadequacies, gaining an otherwise unobtainable level of control over them, helping to liberate you from their debilitating grasp. Plus, chicks dig motorcycles.
Great! Nows all I need is about $70 grand right? - 6 months ago
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Lol. Only if you're racing in the AMA (you can get a street version for about 10 grand). And seriously, don't be depressed -- life's too short. Do something that moves you and have some fun! - 6 months ago
If you are depressed, chances are you are not at your best mentally. For some reason, girls seem to be very keen when it comes to picking up subtle body languages. When depressed, your body language may reveal that you are not to confident, not to energetic, outgoing, manly, etc. These missing qualities turn girls off. So when you try to market yourself during this time, you'll be setting yourself up for failure. This failure will turn into a vicious cycle that is self fulfilling. My advice: CHILL out, get your mindset to optimal condition or close to it, then self market.
Right on. It cracks me up when I read about how nurturing women are, when the truth is what you have written - show up with weakness and you'll be kicked to the curb, not given a pat on the back and encouragement. - 6 months ago
We are nurturing to an extent. If we were already with you then we will be, but if a woman wants to pursue a weak man then something is wrong with her. Do you like ugly girls? Probably not. Well that's how we feel about weak men. - 6 months ago
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Women in my opinion are cruel and I really don't consider myself weak, sensitive maybe a good listener yeah but weak, everyone has their weaknesses. What do you mean weakness? What is a weak man? - 6 months ago
I met this guy just a few weeks ago. After our first meeting (in an outing with friends), I got news (passed on from this guy's friend to my friend...
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
I think for the first date we would go out to eat, that way we could talk and get to know eachother.Then we would go for a walk on the beach or in a park.to finish up if it has been good so far we would go back to my place and watch a movie and cuddle.
I guess I would wear clothes...lol
If the date was good it would end with a kiss and maybe plans for another date. ;)
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
I am a very open person...most of the time so pretty much if I'm having a good time they will know whatever they want to know.
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