When it comes to online dating, how come a guy's profile, his description, the text, the writing, etc. Matters a lot more than a girls profile description. What I mean is, if a guy does not have a lot of detail in his profile, but he at least has pictures, but he only has a few sentences, most girls will avoid him, they will reject him. It doesn't seem to matter for girls as much, girls can have a little bit of details in their profile, but they will still get tons of messages. I know that generally most of the time, girls expect the guy to take the initiative, like they wait for the guy to come to them in general, but it seems they want the guy to have a huge list of qualities before considering him a potential date, potential boyfriend, or hook-up, etc.
Update: Why do you think women want more qualities in a man before considering to date or sleep with him, but guys don't go looking for that many qualities, it seems most of the time, if a woman is hot, pretty, nice face and body, she will be desired.
9 months ago
Update: Traditionally speaking, have women always been less picky about looks?
9 months ago
Basically, girls need the details in order to decided if the guy is a decent enough guy for them. For example, a guy could be really cute and a dummy and some girls will go for that while others may not; the details help us decide whether he is too laid back, smart, active, dull, etc . Personality matters for us just like looks matters for guys. I bet that guys would never contact a girl based on her profile alone. She could be the ideal (internally) but if she doesn't have a picture then she will be overlooked.
Yeah, makes sense, so in a way, do you think most girls are more picky than guys overall when it comes to dating? - 9 months ago
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I think the pickiness level is almost the same (give or take the few people who go to the extremes when s/he are picking who they want to date, such as guys who only date model look-a-likes and girls who only date guys whose personality is identical to a romance character). I think it's because guys and girls initial focuses are on different things that it appears as if one gender is pickier than another. - 9 months ago
I guess it depends on which side you are looking at this from. From my point of view and experience, over half of girls base their initial decision on looks/income/ideal personality. Another 20% require detailed personality fits. I admit I look at photo first...but I look at profiles before I decide to chase. They just need not to bore or annoy me and I am willing to explore the match even if they aren't my ideal. I've learned different personalities can add flavor. - guy dating site vet. - 9 months ago
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So pretty much, personality matters to women as much as looks matter to men? - 9 months ago
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Basically yes personality matters as much as looks matter to men. - 9 months ago
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Yeah, I guess that means if a woman is physically unattractive, it will hurt her even more than a man who is physically unattractive? - 9 months ago
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Yes, at least it makes sense to me because it's usually easier for a younger single women to get a man easier than a older women because younger women are perceived to be more physically attractive. Usually younger women date slightly older men because they have a mature look or their personality is more mature than a younger guy. I know a couple of attractive girls who are dating some unattractive men and the fact that the guys aren't attractive doesn't seem to phase them. - 9 months ago
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Do you think it's just on how women's Brains are wired? is that why personality matters more to Women than it does for Men? - 9 months ago
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I think it's because society has always presented girls with the image that they deserve a guy that possess a personality that suits them and girls have been told and presented this all their lives so when they get older it's wired into them. Example,think of beauty and the beast, Bell fell in love with the Beast because of who he was not what he looked like and that's a kid's movie. - 9 months ago
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Yeah you have a good point. I read a section of a dating book, that gives advice on how men and women think differently. It says that there is an evolutionary, biological reason, and scientific theory, or reason as to why men are more picky about a women's appearence and looks. Scientists say that the reason why Men are more attracted to younger women is for Fertility reasons, because the younger Women are, the more likely they are able to have children. - 9 months ago
Because the main reason why Sex exists is for human reproduction, or "making babies", they also did Scientific studies, and it says that Women who are in good shape, like have curves, a V-shaped body, good body weight, are more likely to not have problems giving birth to a baby, like they are more likely to have a healthy labor process. Also they said women have higher estrogen levels when they have good body weight. Because men are programmed to "spread his seed". - 9 months ago
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I agree that men are attracted because of those instinct type reasons, but they also say that say is suppose to cause women to form a stronger bond with a male (that's why women can become very attached to the man she is sleeping with) and a male is more attached to the woman who is having or has had his baby. Yet there is a rise in divorce and an increase in babies. So something is off. I think there is a limit to where humans can use primal instinct as an excuse. - 9 months ago
Again, I don't think women are less picky about looks. You can win them over with other things and they can deal with lesser looks...but initially, especially online, I think they are even more critical of looks. They are more critical of everything.
Girls will settle for lesser looks if someone intrigues them enough but you have to be pretty near perfect (I don't care what you girls say!)...so they only pick one or a few pursuits.
Guys simply base their initial decision on looks. They don't have to be perfect looks, but they need to be acceptable. A guy will spam pursuit on ALL those that look interesting and don't appear too freaky. They are more likely to choose the more attractive responses I'm guessing...then again I think the girls would to if they actually showed interest in more than one person.
So a girl is more picky period...while the guy is not...but the guy gets to be more picky down the line because he has a bigger pool of candidates.
Women have it so much easier since they always have the final word, or final say to any situation regarding dating, relationships, and sex. I guess the reason why us Men have to take the initiative and make the first move when it comes to dating, relationships and sex, is because it is traditional, and since our culture and society has made that the status quo, why would they bothing risk being rejected when they can let all the men come to them? they can get away with doing nothing. - 9 months ago
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Haha they do have it easier on initial meetings...but I think they tend to carry the lion's share of communication and family life...even though they shouldn't have to...so, on average, I'd say they have a rougher time of it over time. - 9 months ago
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Yeah, at least us men don't get pregnant and have to endure the pain of childbirth. Us men, all we gotta do is have a fun, great time in bed, and then a baby is one the way. Women have to carry them in their stomach for 9 months, have periods before and after. Half the battle is finding the girl, and getting her to go out with you. The other half of the battle is keeping the girl, keeping the relationship intact. - 9 months ago
guys are more bold and less selective gals are VERY selective and VERY un-bold
Guys really don't care who turns them down. They don't care about who he chases and who he drops. He creates an open field with his selections and chooses the best people that are interested in him later down the road.
Gals see a bunch of profiles...compare them...decide who they want...only of those guys that actually contacted them because they won't contact the guy. They end up with very few people to chase...often only one.
The result is the guy doesn't care about anything but the looks and radical scary profiles. The gals are reading the details. The girls end up being dumped in mass while the guys get the pick of their litter. Gals need to be less selective in my opinion. They place too much emphasis on unimportant details and things they feel cannot be adjusted. Guys just go with the flow!
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