How do I get him to love me back?

How long have you two been together? Sometimes people just need to feel 'ready' to move to that level in a relationship, because for many people the "I love you" step is an upgrade in seriousness of the relationship as well as the level of commitment.

The first time I encountered this drama when I told someone I loved them I later found out to be tied to a previous relationship where either they or the other person dropped the "L bomb" and it in some way directly or indirectly had some effect on it.

Unfortunately, for all of these 'symptoms' as to why he shies away when you tell him you love him there's absolutely nothing you can do about them. Unless you're one heck of a hypnotist there's no real way to 'get' someone to love you. You can't force it, and if it is forced it won't be true, so all you really have is a lie.

The best thing you can do is be understanding of the fact that he may just not be ready, or maybe he's just scared, and respect that by not forcing the issue. It won't be something he forgets about and its likely something that when the tides change, if they do, you'll know.

Its not a fun waiting game but unfortunately all you can really do to speed up the process is be accepting of the other person, because in the end their love rest on their terms, and not yours.

Hope this helps.

For now, I'd say don't initiate telephone calls or e-mails, let him make the effort ( it will be hard, but you can do it ). Wait and see how often he contacts you, and if it's only for sex when he does contact you. Then bring it up again when you know he wants something from you. You need to know where you stand, and putting a little pressure on him for a straight answer might just be the thing he needs, and you as well.

Hey well sorry I can't answer your question but when you find that out can you let me know?

There is no sure fire way to get a guy to fall in love with you! Besides you don't want a guy to love you for something that you had to make yourself do, you want him to love you for you! It sounds like your putting to much pressure on the whole love thing instead of just enjoying what the two of you have together. I say let life take it's course and just go with the flow of the relationship, he will fall for the real you before he falls for the person you try to be! Good luck!