Are some guys just more affectionate than others?

Short answer: Yes, there are many different in which guys will show our affections (or fail to do so).

Long answer: How and when a guy shows his affection depends on what he was taught as a child, his surroundings, how well he knows you, how his parents treated him, whether he's been physically or emotionally abused, how his ex-girlfriends treated him, and all sorts of things you can't control. To make matters worse, much of our culture* teaches boys that showing affection is a sign of weakness, and weakness should be punished.

This makes our behavior inconsistent and hard to figure out, which must be incredibly frustrating for girls. Sorry! But yes, you should talk to him about it. If he listens and takes you seriously, be patient with him and help him learn how to relate to you better. Be sure to tell him that you like the cute stuff like cuddling and big hugs, too!

* By "our culture," I mean mainstream United States. It varies a lot from place to place, of course.

Every male is different. I have no idea how I turned out to be the affectionate type. It just happened. But every guy is different, and not everyone is affectionate. The holding hands/kissing pda type. If it bugs you that much, it's your choice but to stay or go. It doesn't seem like it's going to get any better, but that just seems to be his preference. He's more laid back.

Yes, some guys are just less affectionate than others. Same thing with girls. If your boyfriends behavior is a change from the way he used to act, or it is different from the way he acts with others you might want to look into it, maybe just ask him what's up. You might be better off dating, but not exclusively. There is no reason to be exclusive if you or he are not ready for that kind of commitment.

I think you should start doing some stuff back (not to sound mean, sorry if I did). Guys actually do love it if their girlfriend pays every once in a while, or if they say "oh wow you look great today" Other guys just don't like doing things like that, you can try to start to, but don't try forcing him into it.

The paying thing wears off. It shouldn't be one way all the time anyway. Also, don't always look for compliments. Besides, you shouldn't need to be reminded of anything like that anyway. Some guys just aren't all lovely dovey. I wouldn't worry too much.

well in the beginning of a relationship a guy might pay everything but as it stars to get serious-er then yall are going to have to start acting like a couple, since he is the guy that likes to do some stuff alone, try to get involved in SOME not ALL of the things he likes to do so he can see that you want to get more intimate and or touchier relationship..i used to be like that, it might be kind of hard at first but once you get to know him or what stuff he likes, and stuff like that, then you're going to be one of the happiest girls in the world!.. =)

My best friend is about as romantic as a 2x4. He wife confirms this to me frequently.
I, on the other hand, love to give and receive expressions of physical affection.

I think it is kind of like a physical form of Type-A and Type-B personalities. Or better yet, physical extroversion and introversion. But they don't have to match up with the social versions. For instance you could have an Introvert who loves to keep his arm around his honey. Or an extrovert who may talk your ear off and party with you and your friends but guards his personal space.

I don't think you should necessarily be worried. Some guys are just not as touchy-affectionate. These guys tend to show their affection in other ways -- they're indirect. Particularly if he's more of a lonerish, introverted guy.

Dating a new person always requires both partners adjusting to one another. So remember that this guy is an individual, with his own way of doing things. Not a better way, not a worse way ... just different.

If he doesn't always pay for everything, you should be very concerned. This is a clear sign that he expects you to contribute something -- an expectation which you must nip at the bud or face the risk of a meal ticket drying up when he notices that

- you guys rarely hold hands
- you almost never pay when you go out
- you don't compliment him

be careful with your next steps! Good luck!

Some men are affectionate, sometimes overly so. Others don't like showing their affection as much. If you can look past that and accept him for who he is - great. Otherwise, if it eats away at you so badly you can't look past it - perhaps re-evaluate things?

I myself used to not be affectionate, then became more affectionate. It was a phase for me.

You should just accept that he is the kind of guy who likes to be affectionate sometimes and then other times he really just wants to be left alone. Guys need their own space sometimes, and when we feel like "our" time is being taken over we tend to shut down.

But anywho, you really don't have anything to worry about. If he asked you to hang out on his day off then you and him are fine. He's just an overtly affectionate guy. The compliments will come and go during the course of your relationship, that just happens. And nowadays most guys feel like a relationship should be mutual which is probably why he stopped paying for everything all the time. We like to be taken out too.

RED FLAG! RED FLAG! This should NOT be happening after only two months. You need to talk to him because this will only get worse.

sometimes, after a guy a guy gets a girl he no longer feels the need to put effort into her. It's nothing to worry about, it just means he comfortable with you and doesn't have to worry about "catching" you because he already has.

First off, there's no badgering a guy to date you. They will or they won't, and they're not ones who are easily persuaded...or maybe I just have no game.

Second, time is very valuable to a guy. If he's wanting to spend it with you, you can be sure there's interest. Maybe what this really points to is your need for a more affectionate boyfriend, not whether or not your current one is into you.

Yes some guys are just less affectionate, but then I have also known guys that are very affectionate and they aren't wanting a relationship.

Honey, I've been with my boyfriend for over two years and we still hold hands everywhere we go. Apparently we still look like we're in puppy love. He sounds like he's getting bored.

Not all guys are affectionate all the time just like not all girls are. It's clear he's into you since he does call you and ask you to hang out. Perhaps this is a personal issue you need to look into. Why do you need constant validation in form of compliments and hugs? He hugs you from time to time so that's good.

He's just not that affectionate like you are. He 's just not the type of guy to be all over you or make you feel on top of the world and since he stopped doin a lot of what he used to, shows he doesn't feel like he has to anymore, got lazy, and maybe a little bored now. So do something sponteaneous or just be really goofy, make him laugh ands yes talk to him about this, hon. Guys can not read our minds.