Just when I think maybe we are heading in the right direction, things start to slow down. I am to a point where I don't even really want to look back anymore, and just try to focus on just friendship. I have feelings for this guy really for a very long time. I don't want to lose what we have built for the last six or seven months, however for my own sanity I think I need to tell him how I feel and wear my heart of my sleeve. I need to prepare for any response, if any, that I may get. He works so hard, and I appreciate that, really I do. The distance thing for me, is no big deal. I even suggested next month we go away for a night to get away to a resort. I sent him that email a few days ago, with no response to that, but have had a couple of emails since then. I want to date other people to truly find what I am looking for and I am trying. I may go on a date this weekend with a fireman. Sounds promising. It is just hard to let this one go. I want to be in his life and just when I think I am ok with just being his friend, we start flirting again. I am not sure what to think. I feel very confused, not sure where I stand. We kissed the last time we saw each other and he sat with his arm around me, we went to a convention together (tattoo) and it was fun, but now, work is taking over again and I hardly talk to him. I think I need to see if I can see him this weekend, make an attempt to get to him and talk to him. The last two times we were together, we were with my daughter and then a friend of mine. No alone time. We have talked on the phone for a long time last week, but I just don't know. We send very personal photos of ourselves to each other a couple of weeks ago. I just am not sure why he does not make an effort to try to get together. I know he is moving and working a lot. But come on.
I have a rule: if there's no spark within 2 weeks of knowing someone - there a friend or associate. Same applies here. I'm Sorry, I realize dating with a child is ridiculously difficult - even if you do find a guy that's even worth the effort at this late stage in the game.
We dated for 3 months and then he wanted to slow down. We have remained friends, but there is chemistry, oh very much chemistry. He loves my child. He even buys her stuff it is cute. He also has a son. Not sure it is the kid thing, but thanks - 7 months ago
It sounds like he's not really committed to the relationship. That may be because of the distance, or because you have a daughter, or for any number of reasons. One thing that always confuses me is why girls think that they will lose what they have if they tell a bloke their true feelings. If a girl tells a guy they like him - it's the best feeling in the world. Even if he doesn't feel the same, he won't suddenly run a mile from you! What you must do is make up your mind that if he doesn't feel the same and tell you almost instantly, that you will not push the relationship further - as that could drive him away.
Men need to be guided through complicated relationships. We are not good at reading signals and are terrified of making a wrong move. You have a daughter that he is probably terrified of. I mean that he will always know he's second best to her, he might not have kids of his own and fears getting involved with somebody else's. So take the lead in this relationship and tell him what you want from it.
Distance is always hard in a relationship. If you can be close together - organize this at any cost. If that means one of you changing jobs in order to be closer - so be it.
Good luck and don't worry if he doesn't feel the same, it means you can concentrate your efforts in other places, like on the fireman!
Thanks. He adores my daughter, and he is a father as well. I know that is not it. I am going to see if I can see him this weekend. If not, I need to continue my quest to find what I am looking for. - 7 months ago
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