Ok, so I have a question. How many people give someone a chance, even if they're not attracted to them? Is it a bad a idea to only give someone a chance if there's instant attraction?
No, you'd just be trying to force something to fill the void because your lonely. That would be like me getting a 400 pound female gorilla. Sound hawt, no?
I would give a chance at a friendship, a romantic friendship, and pursuing the rituals of romance with someone even if I do not find them very physically, mentally or sexually attractive in regards to how they compare with others. I can even be repulsed by the qualities of some people, but see a certain something that is perplexing or interesting that you want to find out about, that you care to preserve or explore or protect in that person by being with them, so the answer is yes.
I do think it's a bad idea to only give someone a chance due to instant attraction. I think this is a sort of shallow kind of rationalization people make. They don't pursue the possibilities with someone if they don't feel a 'spark'. This is due to magical thinking and stuff, the idea that such things are relevant, when really you can learn a lot about yourself, that person, make bonds and progress in life together, even if you're not carnivorously nibbling at each other's necks.
You can feel intimate with someone, connect with them in a very confusing way, even if you don't think they're cute, even if you are repulsed in some ways, because there is something there, even if you feel tempted to label something as sympathy or pity, I don't think that is all there is, because there is a reason you seek someone besides that or else you would for every person you felt such things for, which is probably not the case.
Unattractive people become more attractive after you get to know them. I met one girl who OK looking but has a great personality (fun to hang out with, great laugh) - I have a thing for her now.
I don't know how many people give someone a chance, even if they're not attracted to them. Myself, when I get approached by girls I'm not attracted to, hot or not, I always let them chat me/hit me, and I make fun of them when they begin touching :D. However, I don't give out my contact info. If I'm not attracted to the girl, the only condition I give my contact info is she can/want to benefit me, because I'm a young entrepreneur.
So if by "a chance" you mean giving your number, then, I think, it's a good idea to only give someone a chance if you like the guy. Besides, you never know if that person is a good or bad guy.
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