On the first day of school this semester, right as I walk into class, this girl and I almost simultaneously stop in our tracks and look at each other in the eyes for a solid 10 seconds, then we both simultaneously walked parallel to each other and took seats opposite each other at the end of a black top desk table. After a minute we started talking, and then some bozo decided to sit right between us and started talking to her. She and I immediately stopped talking both to him and to each other for the rest of the class.
From that point forward, we talked in the the halls briefly before class, and while in class, until the same bozo would come in. This girl is very hawt, and every guy in that class has hit on her. They often wait till the end of class, and it leads to her walking to her next class very fast, she doesn't look at them and only nods and it appears they are following her. I didn't want to seem like a creep, so I waited. After a few weeks, I asked her if she'd like to grab coffee. She said she had class. I said, I meant after class. She replied, I have a class after my next class. There was a long pause while we looked at each other. I waited for her to suggest something. She didn't, and I just said, that's cool, cya.
From that point forward I was so hurt, I didn't go to school for a week. I was incredibly embarrassed and couldn't face her.
When I got over it and went back to school, I moved as far from her in class as I could and avoided all eye contact and tried my best to ignore her and forget she existed. I caught her looking at me with a mildly shocked expression, I just looked back at her blankly before looking away.
For 2 months, I continued to completely ignore her, and frankly, everyone in that class. I still felt embarrassed and just wanted the semester to be over. From time to time I'd catch her staring at me, when this would happen I'd turn my entire body to face away from her, occasionally I would hold her glance for a moment before turning my head down slowly to cut off eye contact.
Then last Friday she came to class in this really hawt outfit I couldn't help but notice, she caught me looking and then she adjusted her profile to be more hawt.
On Monday I was sitting at my desk looking down reading a book before class when I felt someone looking at me. As I slowly turned my head up I found her standing right in front of me in another hawt outfit just staring at me with a blank expression. When I looked up I slowly traced her body with my eyes before realizing it was her when our eyes met. We looked into each others eyes for a good solid 4 seconds before I quickly turned my head back down.
On Wednesday, I walked up to her at the end of the class and started talking to her. As I walked away she followed me and continued the talk while looking at me.
I want to ask her out again, but I'm afraid. Should I go for it? I was thinking about asking her, I wanna see The Bank Job, want to come with?
Does she like me? Advise?
Update: My concern, is she just flirting with me because she wants me to want her, and as soon as she can confirm that to herself, she'll lose interest? Her presence demands my attention, her speech blinds me from all others - no one has affected me like this b4
10 months ago
Update: Ladies, what do you think? I'm in college working on my under grad and normally have no problem what-so-ever with girls and am usually very out going - but this girl gets to me, and no one gets to me. Am I over thinking this? Am I a creep? Help me out.
10 months ago
Update: Doh, I overslept and missed this class, I wonder if that may be a good thing, since last class was the first time I talked to her in months. This way I can ask her out at the beginning of the week instead of on a Friday and risk it coming off last minute.
9 months ago
Update: I kinda lost my nerve and walked out of class on Monday without saying anything to her - low and behold, I "felt" her looking at me, and I turned around and she was right behind me in the halls - I gave her a big smile and her whole face lite up
9 months ago
Update: I made a joke about how I overslept and she laughed and said she almost did that too. I asked her if she would want to go do something with me sometime, she said maybe. I asked her to think about it and I'd see her in class on weds - she was all smiles.
9 months ago
Update: turned out to be a HUGE waste of time
5 months ago
What Backlash had said is basically right! But I also like to say that this "hawt" girl probably thought you're just like all those other boys who follow her every where! But then after she probably figured out that she thought wrong and now is starting to like you. So maybe you should go and ask her out. Seems like a good chance to ask her out since it seems to me that she really is trying to get your attention. Ooh and by the way never look away from a girl who is looking at you straight on, you should probably smile at her for a sec or two and look away or something. If you don't do something like that or what backlash had said, it could give a girl the wrong impression that you're not at all interested!
I thought I'd post some more regarding your update. If she's just flirting with you to get attention, then later she gives you the cold shoulder, it's all right! That's just plain immature, and she's not the type of girl you'd want anyways. Again, you're not any worse off than when you started. You might be over thinking this, and I know, I've been guilty of the exact same thing. Just let all your concerns go and promise yourself that whatever goes down, you won't let her run your life into the ground. It's easy to say, but hard to do. Best of luck!
Well first, don't worry so much about getting turned down. It happens to the best of us. However, you should probably stay in school if it happens again. Try to roll with the punches; the more reclusive your reactions are, the worse you'll feel and the more others will think badly of you (it's foolish, but it's the way society works).
Second, ignoring her is a bad idea. If you catch her staring at you, try smiling or giving her a friendly "what? " look. I think she likes you, but she might be confused by your passive-aggressive behavior. Friday-Monday, she was definitely trying to get your attention, there's no doubt about that. Good work talking to her on Wednesday! Be sure to stay engaged when she's talking to you, and look her in the eyes.
Definitely ask her out again! She seems like she's interested. How you ask her is up to you, but try to leave her options, like asking if there are any movies she'd like to see, or what time works best for her. Best of luck, and don't sweat it if it doesn't work out. Keep talking with each other!
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