Theres a girl in the school that (supposedly) thinks I'm cute. I think she's cute and I want to talk to her to see if she's actually an interesting person.
BUT ( and this is big but) I have never had any classes with her, never spoken to her, and have almost nothing in common with her (that I know of, I probably have loads in common but I don't know yet).
I didn't even know she existed until I found out she thought I was cute (the intensive looking tipped me off). Everything I've learned about her (which is that she likes to draw, dance) I've found out from other people.
Now I'm trying to think of something to say (probably over email) that would let me get to know her and open her up a little. Now she is very shy and probably not an expert on relationships/flirting so I don't want to do the standard "ive seen you around and I think your cute tell me a little about yourself" ordeal because I believe she might mis-interpret it.
Does anyone have anything that I could possibly say that would start up a conversation while making it look like I'm genuinely interested in getting to know her?
Preferably: something that I could send as an email or message, but if you have something good that I can use in school and in person that would be good too.
Man up, walk up, and talk to her. Introduce yourself and end with an invitation to do something sometime.
My biggest regret from high school as far as relationships go is that I took it too seriously and didn't take the chances I should have. So my advice is to just go for it, because there's literally *nothing* you can lose.
You're right! I really do have nothing to lose. Save for some fun with the whole "who does she like" guessing and possibly $20 on a betting ring but that's just me being immoral!
But seriously your right, I'm outta there in a year so I might as well, it won't hurt me in any way (save for the beatings) but it could definitely help me. - 8 months ago
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(Age:25 to 29)
When: 8 months ago
Go to her if the timing is right, and don't do email, be a MAN and take up the courage and go to her, for all men its hard, but you have to do it. What you can say as an "opener". And say something "standard". The mistake most guys do they try to be original and come up with those crazy "cool original openers" which actually turn women down. So DON'T do it. Rather try this:
When you walk to her smile and then say in a calm, relaxed tone of voice like talking to a friend.
You: "hey, I think you are. (pause for 1 second). Really (pause for 2 second) beautiful. And I would like to find out what you are really like. " (the reason of the pause is to make her wonder what you are going to say next and gets her couriosity. )
Or try this:
"I think you are beautiful. BUT if you are more than a pretty face I would like to get know you better". Wait for her response. And then you can ask her for her number. "what's your number" but don't ask "can I have your number? " the second sounds weak.
Now I see what your saying and I agree, but the problem is that I think she might be scared off if I come on that strong. She's really shy and very quiet. - 8 months ago
For a starter, I suggest the next time you see her alone, look at her from a distance and when she looks at you, give her a wink and see if she smiles. If she doesn't, wait for another time - she might just have a bad day.
If she does smile, go over and say, "hi" with a smile on your face, look at her in the eye. Comment on something nice about her or what she's wearing, like her hair, or bracelet, jwerly whatever, or even her voice or eyes. Compliment on it, but don't just say she's pretty or cute, that's lame. If you want to overcome your fear of approaching, go see my stories and look for one that tells you how to overcome fear of rejection.
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 8 months ago
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