If you hug a girl and she tells you she never usually hugs anyone and that it's a little weird, does this mean to keep doing so or to forget it? She doesn't seem mad at all, I told her I would keep giving her hugs and she just kind of laughed it off. Confusing.
I've been in that girls position lately. I'm not use to hugging people, but I actually like it when he hugs me. He's told me before that he isn't sure if he should hug me sometimes because he's worried that I don't like it, and even though I wouldn't tell him I like it, I actually LOVE hugs. I never go to him for hugs though, I just always hope that he hugs me, (he's a good friend of mine). I know it sounds silly, it's just that I don't get much hugs or anything at home ect.
It's possible that she's just not used to a lot of physical contact. Some people just aren't very touchy-feely, so it might have made her a little uncomfortable. I am that sort and people just don't normally touch me much, so when someone randomly hugs me, it usually catches me a little off guard. In spite of that, I do like being hugged though. :) So, if she doesn't seem offended or uncomfortable, I think it is probably okay. If you try to hug her again, give her the chance to "escape" in case she doesn't want to be touched. Or you can try opening your arms and asking for a hug so she can initiate the actual contact if she wants. That way, she is in control and can refuse if she is uncomfortable. I had a friend who disliked being hugged unless she was VERY close to someone because she had been abused in the past, so there is a possibility that there is a reason for her to not want to be hugged. It's hard to tell, so just be understanding and don't take it too personally if she just doesn't want to be touched.
Don't make too much of it. Like Ashewark said she may not be the emotional type or get a lot of hugs. It is unique and you are the one making her feel something. Maybe try asking her for a hug you can even do it sarcastically and see how she reacts. She may even enjoy it and just be afraid to admit it. If you stop hugging her she may get low self esteem and look for someone else to hug her. If she tells you to stop or it makes her uncomfortable than by all means back off but she hasn't told you that so just be yourself and don't make something out of nothing.
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