Couldn't ask them out due to fear of rejection or shyness?

I have a really big crush on my friend and want to ask him out, but I'm scared that he doesn't like me anymore although I still like him.He could, but I don't know, I'm not a mind reader. I think there's still hope, but I'm really nervous and I just don't know how everything will turn out but he's the only guy I really like and want to date.Maybe I have a chance, he hasen't had a girlfriend since he met me, but, I don't want to scare him off.I did spend most of the summer thinking/ worring about him, wanting to see him. Ugh, I don't really want to forget about him or get over him, I think he's worth a fight. I can see your frustration in this situation, I WOULD KNOW.

yes, I agree with rebecca_d

all I can say to this is: if you don't ask the person out, you will regret it later and you will always wonder what they might have said. if they reject you, then you will be able to move on with your life that much sooner. hope that helps :) honestly you have nothing to lose, just go for it :)

In highschool I really liked this guy he wasn't the most attractive but he had such a great personality he was kinda the class clown, every day he didn't turn up at school I would feel sad and I would have a bad day. But when he was at school it's like he would walk into a room and immediately light up the room and make me feel happy, yet I have never had a conversation with him. I was too shy to even start talking to him. I had never felt this way about any one else before. When school ended I realised I would probably never see him again, and to this day I regret not talking to him more and getting to know him. I don't think I could ever forgive myself:(

Depends on the situation. As a girl, I like being asked, but I know some guys don't like asking cause they're shy or afraid of rejection. If I know the guy really well and I think I stand a chance, I'll try, I mean, I can handle rejection pretty well. I don't like cry or anything, I just feel a bit down, but I get over it. But if it's some random guy I just met, then NO WAY will I go for it, if he likes me, he can come get me but I won't regret not asking him if I barely know him. I'll get over it eventually though.

even more complicated...i love this guy..he loved me...then one day decided to be friends...then what should one do? (myself)

You wouldn't fear rejection if there wasn't a reason to. People fear the pain that it will cause them because if they didn't ever girl on the planet would get propositioned every 30 seconds. If you fear that you'll be rejected it's probably because it's absolutely possible that you will be, but you have to really judge your chances and see if that fear has a valid basis. If you know Girl #5 only likes big brooding types she's probably going to tell the shy type to jump in a lake or something far more vicious and belittling. In a case like that maybe it's a good thing you didnt, but if she's fairly normal and your only problem is shyness then maybe you're not as bad off as you think.

Yeah, I used to be like that. I woundup regretting it so much that I completely changed my outlook so I wouldn't do it again. I'm still a shy person, but I'm not intimidated by fear of rejection. If there is someone I like, I let them know, and to heck with the consequences!

As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my
so called best friend. I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine.
But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to
me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and handed them to her.
She said "thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want
her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy,
and I don't know why.

11th Grade

The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and
on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because
she didn't want to be alon, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared
at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie,
and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said "thanks!"
and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't
want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Senior Year

The day before prom she walked to my locker. "My date is sick" she said; he's
not going to go." Well , I didn't have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise
if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as "best friends". So we did.
Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared
at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine,
but she doesn't think of me like that, and I know it. The she said "I had the best time,
thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I
don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Graduation Day

A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day.
I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I
wanter her to be mine, but she didn't notice me like that, and knew it. Before everyone
went , she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. The she lifetd her
head from my shoulder and said, "You're my best friend, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on
the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends,
I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

haha this is pretty funny because I'm going through the same thing. I'm trying to subtley hang out with this girl I really like a lot but can't seem to make the first move. it's killing me. she's one of those girls who you'd hate to ask out and lose as a friend due to awkwardness