I'm a 20 year old guy,There's this girl, I knew back in grammar school, but didn't actually know her, just knew who she was, I hadn't seen her since 6th grade. I saw her at the gym bout a month ago and we started talking. For the next 3 days, she constantly IMed me, left me facebook comments, said she wanted to hang out, and gave me her number without me even asking for it. So we go get ice cream, then she says why don't we watch a movie? So we go back to my house, I try to make a move on her and she backs off. I didn't act mad or anything. However, ever since that day, she hast Imed me or called or texted me ONCE. AND every time I try to talk to her now she just says she has to go right away or just doesn't answer, so I texted her and apologized for making a move on her because it made her feel uncomfortable and she said no problem, and that as soon as things at home settle down for her (her grandma was really sick and went to the hospital) she wanted to hang out again. SO I saw her at the gym a week ago for the first time since we hung out. We hadn't talked in about 2 weeks, cause like I said she hadn't contacted me since we hung out. As soon as she saw me at the gym she asks me to go on the treadmill with her, then asks me if I wanna workout abs and legs wit her, etc etc. And she was going wherever I was going at the gym. And even asked me to go to a & p with her lol. But ever since then she hasn't contacted me once. And like the whole time at the gym, I could tell something was on her mind, but I didn't know what, she was acting so shy, but yet she still wanted me to be with her at the gym? Idk, and also, it seems weird to me that she would have nooo interest me whatsoever after all this shit she is pulling, her just wanting to be my friend would surprised me greatly. I'm just confused cause she sending mixed signals
Well she probably is scared. She hasn't seen you since 6th grade and now you see each other. You talked for a while and now you like her. She likes you too. Try to talk to her but don't be obsessed like texting her every second of the day. If she doesn't talk to you there is no point on trying to stay with her she is only going to make you wonder more. But trying to talk to her might work. Like when your at the gym say "how about after this, you wanna go to get a bite to eat" or something and talk to her. You might be surprised if she listens
I have to say that in my opinion it seems as if she was just looking for comfort in her time of need, when her grandma was sick. Like anyone in that situation we are all looking for someone to lean on and to come to for protection. I think at this point in her life she is just looking for a solid friendship kind of relationship. But with all the signals she's been firing you way I have a feeling that her intentions toward you might change when she becomes more comfortable. For right now I would just focus on being her friend and then let fate do the rest.
avoid her in gym - do not even look at her - and make no effort to contact her - act like you don't even know her.
wait 4 to 6 weeks - does she stare at you? does she keep trying to look you in the eyes? does she try to flirt?
if so, break the silence by casually walking up and talking to her - then skip your next gym class - then when you come back - hang near enough to her to let her walk up to you, but don't look at her and act like she's not even there - if she walks up to you - give her a big smile and show her how happy you are to see her - tell her something funny - does she laugh? if she does - ask her what she thinks about "going out" with you sometime.
You want to hear her say "Maybe"
tell her to think about and you'll see her next class > then propose what you would go do with her on the date - show, movie, club, whatever - make sure its something she might actually want to do on her own. she'll most likely say yes > if not > rinse and repeat
If you do this long enough you'll eventually wear her down and she'll say yes.
It sounds like to me that she was really excited to see you when she first bumped into you at the gym. She wanted to catch up with you, but when you made a move she backed off. I would think that you moved way to fast for her. Or she was having issues at home and just needed someone to "take her mind" off of the realities of life. If I was in your shoes, I would contact her and set up times for you guys to interact without any pressure on physical things, like going to the gym together. Just give her a little bit of time to digest everything that is happening with her.
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