I'm considering telling one of my close guy friends that I like him, but I'm not sure if I should if I think he's not interested. It hurts to know that he doesn't know that I like him, but then he may not even feel the same way I feel for him--which I don't think he does. Personally, I feel I'm in a lose-lose situation. If I tell him, I could jeopardize our friendship. If I don't tell him, I have to feel the pain every time he tells me he's with someone else. I really value his friendship, and I don't want to lose it, but I don't want to be hurt anymore by liking him so much. I'm so lost. Any suggestions, please?
There is a way to play it safe. Since you are friends you should not be shy to have good conversations with him right? So you can flirt with him and give him signals that you like him by touching him during conversations. But make it natural.
When you laugh you can put your hand on his shoulder or back. When you first walk up to him to greet him you can pat him on the back or shoulder. Also when talking to him you can, at key times during the conversation, touch his hand. But you have to make that natural and use your instinct to know when that is. So just touching him is flirting and he should get the message. Smiling at him a lot is flirting too.
Also getting him to smile often at you is a good sign that he likes you. If he tries to say things to you that make you smile or laugh, that's a good sign he likes you. If he's just generally in a good mood when he's next to you, that's a clue too.
So you don't have to tell him up front first that you like him and you don't have to ask him upfront if he likes you. You can use body language. You have to read his body language too.
Thanks, that's really helpful. But, what things might he do to show how he feels? If you can say, what should I expect by reading his body language? - 9 months ago
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If you catch him looking at you often, your butt, below your neck, anything, that means at least he finds you good looking. The fact that he calls you is a good sign. He may not ask you out because he could be shy. If your conversations with him can just keep going and going without the two of you getting bored or without any awkward silence moments is a good sign. No one of these actions can conclude he is interested in being more than friends, but several of them together can. - 9 months ago
)#$(XX^-Z__zo0x. I have tried not talking to him, but he still calls from time to time. And no, I'm not sure if he's into me--i don't think he is, and no, he hasn't asked me out. We kinda have a complicated history together just as friends and I can't blame him if he did/does like me and he hasn't ever asked. . We're different races so I think that might have prevented him because he doesn't know if I would have considered him, and his ex is one of my best friends. See, complicated. - 9 months ago
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