She's in her early 20s - I'm in my mid 20s. I was attracted to her the first time I saw her walk by and when she caught me looking at her she froze like a deer in headlights and just looked back at me. I started chatting her up a bit, and after a handful of brief encounters I asked her out for coffee, she turned me down saying she was too busy.
I avoided her for two months, I felt crushed.
She suddenly starts trying to get my attention one week - staring at me with "that look", being more dressed up then usual and going out of her way to walk by me then slow down while I watched her, following me, and then finally she stood over me while I was reading a book until I looked up to find her there just staring me in the eyes before walking away - so I bit the bullet and started talking to her again, briefly, and I would be the one to end the chats and say, cya.
After a couple brief chats, I asked her if she would want to do something with me sometime, she said "maybe" - I asked her to think about it - she smiled.
The next time I saw her, I asked her again about getting coffee, she said she's leaving in a couple days for spring break and we should plan to get together when she's back
Is she warming up to me? Blowing me off? What do all of you think? Advise?
-----------------------------------ADDITIONAL INFO------------------------------- Word on the street indicates she may have gone through a break up with a 4-month boyfriend around Valentine's day. It sounds like she was dumped. I have NOT confirmed that with her yet, I honestly don't even know if she is single.
I know she seems to brighten up when I start talking to her, its one of the only times I see her smile. She also laughs easily at my jokes and has the crows feet around her eyes that I hear indicates genuine laughter..
It sounds like she might be confused about her own feelings. If you are consistent and keep making yourself available, I think you have a chance. If she doesn't end up going for it, then it sounds like it would be a problem with her and not with you. All you can do is be around, keep giving her opportunities to see how patient/kind/awesome you are, and hope for the best. Go ahead and attempt to make some kind of plans with her after her break. Starting with something small like grabbing coffee together is a good idea since it is less threatening than a full dinner or something. If she did just dumped like that, then a great deal of her halting attitude is probably due to that and not something personal with you. Just give her the chance to trust you. I probably wouldn't bring up the past relationship, but she may need to talk about it if she can bring it up on her own terms. Just asking if she is seeing anyone leaves this possibility open and will also answer that particular question at the same time.
The fact that she smiles around you and you are able to make her laugh is definitely a good thing. At the very, very worst, she sees you as a friend who brightens her day. If she is dressing up around you and seeking you out though, it sounds like you're already more than a friend in her mind. The leaning over you as you were reading was a pretty obvious flirt, though she might've gotten shy before she could say anything that time.
In short, what you're doing is good, if she is having issues deciding whether or not to go for you, it is probably something she will have to work out on her own. As long as you keep presenting yourself as a consistent, kind person, she should know what the right choice is. :)
It sounds like she has liked you all that time but had a boyfriend so she couldn't say yes to you before because it would have put her in an awkward position. Now that she's single, she has her opportunity to let you know that she likes you. I would take the opportunity if I were you because she is evidently wanting to get to know you better. However, since she said, "Maybe," I would take it slowly and easily with her. Play her a bit like you would play a fish - reel her in a little bit at a time! Girls love it when guys play a little bit of hard to get - just don't over do it! Good luck bro!
Don't be vague when you ask her out. Plan something and ask her to accompany you. "Maybe" is usually a "Yes", but the woman doesn't want to dedicate herself because she has no clue what you are thinking.
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