Should I date an older man?

Don't go out with him. You may have a connection with him, but there are plenty of other people who can have that same connection but is not married. Be careful what you wish for. If he would be willing to cheat on his wife, who's to say he wouldn't cheat on you?

You should have phrased your question "Should I date a married man? ", because that's more relevant to your question than the age gap. In fact the age gap is nothing compared to the marriage/sex question here. It sounds like you have already made up your mind to pursue this affair, and are just looking for someone to validate it for you. It won't be me! I think you are a fool! Even if you manage to pull this affair off without making an idiot of yourself, I hope you realize how much pain you are going to cause. Breaking up a marriage is no game, and shouldn't be treated as one like you are doing. Its nothing to be lighthearted about. If you ever get married, and your husband does this to you, you will know what true pain and heartache is. I wish you would reconsider your reckless, immature course of action here, but you probably won't. So I'll just say good-bye, and good luck!

I think you should ask him out -- at least for drinks or something. Tell him you just want to thank him for a job well done. That way you can also try and get him drunk, which will improve your chances of having sex with him. At the very least, it will score you a discount for your next procedure!

As for the wife, don't worry about her -- as you've said, she's probably unhappy and doesn't deserve him -- but if you're really concerned about her, make your tawdry affair with this surgeon as PUBLIC as possible. That way she will have plenty of evidence and grounds for a divorce in which she will most likely get a nice hefty divorce settlement.

It's a win-win-WIN situation for all. Just don't sign a prenup because you know you won't be the last fling.

He is married Move on to someone else that's single

Well I think that you should move on and find somebody else, but if you are stuck on this one guy then maybe you should tell him how you feel. I wouldn't go on any date or anything with this guy until he is divorced. I would be up front with him and tell him that. To be honest with you, I don't see this relationship going anywhere. Sorry

I believe what you do to others will come back on you 7 times! One day, you will be married with all your heart and soul, and a sexy airhead (thinking she has the best sex moves or something) will move in on your man.and then your words I don't care about the wife will come back loud and clear. No one else may ever know, but you will ! And you will regret that you had such harsh and selfish regard to all involved. I noticed you don't take heed to the ones who tell you to run. If he does have sex with you, then you are not the first, only or last! And you better get a very good medical work up. Everyone knows, that the more sexual partners you have, the higher risk of STD's. And some do not show up for years after exposure. One other question.are you one of those girls that think if you get boob jobs every man will want you? Because in reality it is a lot deeper for majority of men. You must look for only shallow men. Hope you don't love with any regrets! Believe me, anyone that see you together, well he won't look bad, you will! The woman is always the tramp in this kind of situation. And I only say that, because I have been there too. Doctors are the biggest cheaters in the world. So take heed, listen to the us who say, find a sexy single guy, there are even sexy single doctors. But have a little self respect! You are more then just an object.

Sorry, Married spells trouble, heartache and he is a man with issues if he will cheat ! He is in a profession that EVERY woman thinks they are loved . Because of the nature of his work . Anybody can appreciate a good looking person without the threat or desire to be with that person . And if your right, that he won't be unethical . Well then he won't agree with having dinner with you either . I would not suggest to find another older guy, I would say find yourself first . Why would you want to date someone that you paid for a service ? Do you think you are the first pretty woman in his office ? If you don't want to part of a home wrecker (though nobody can break up a HAPPY home) then why are you even thinking about going down this path ? And remember one very valuable warning, If he will cheat on his wife, then he will cheat on you and every woman he goes after . Because there is always someone younger, prettier, happier . Or maybe he likes to admire his work . You have not mentioned anything that would indicate that he no more interest in you then he would for his patient . Good luck, you'll need it if you follow emotion and not logic .

He's married so maybe that's why he won't ask you on a date. If I were you, I'd take this older man obsession elsewhere because if he has a moment of weakness and gives in to you, then yes, you will be a home wrecker. Maybe he just innocently flirts with you but doesn't mean anything by it. I think this is just wrong. If it was just the age gap, that wouldn't be a bad idea, but why have your sights on someone that's already made vows to be with someone for the rest of their life? That's awful to even think of it. Sorry I'm not blowing sunshine up your ass and telling you to go for it, I don't think you'll find a decent person to say that to you.

Ok that shirt idea is terrible! Even if he is unhappy, I really don't think you should be the one that initiates his infidelity. Why can' you at least wait until HE makes the 1st move. Won't you feel better knowing that HE was the one that made the choice on his own, rather than you being the one that pushed (or at least influenced) him?