um, how can you get a guy to stay away? without hurting his feelings? I am so sick of this guy who keeps coming up to me, putting his arm around me and trying to hang onto my waist. it annoys the hell out of me. he has been trying to hook me up with his friends or himself. he wanted to buy me something from the cafe one day and I just want to be friends! I don't want to get any farther! but he seems to make that really hard... any tips on how to get him to back off? I really am sick of this. when I see him, I hide behind my friends so he won't see me. I have my work cut out for me at lunch cause I have him in lunch. he makes it his job to hunt me down and hug me. -growls- I'm just about to yell at him in front of all our classmates. I don't want to hurt his feelings but I want him to get off my back...
^.^ I don't know... would it work? ^__^ - 2 months ago
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Of course ^-^ - 2 months ago
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Really... -stares off- maybe if we were in the smae place it might work... ^.^ but I have a feeling were not in the same state and I don't think he will see it. - 2 months ago
Dont humiliate him. He's crushing on you had so take that as a compliment. Ask him if you can speak to him alone (do this when others aren't around so the rumors don't start) and just let him know straight up. Tell him he's a nice guy but you are not a touchy feely person and that you'd like to stay friends with him but you need your space. Set boundaries.
You've got to make it really clearly known he needs to back off before you go humiliating him in front of people; tell him to get the hell off your back and stop touching you, just like that. Or just "Dude. Stop. Now." should be fine. If he persists, get a restraining order, or yell at him in front of everyone.
I had one of those in high school. It went from my freshman year all the way til the end of my junior year when he graduated. Everyone told me to just give him a chance, but he was just not the kind of guy I wanted to date. It eventually came down to me telling him straight up "I know you have a thing for me, but I am not interested in you in that way. Now you can continue to pretty much stalk me and me doing something about it, or you can back off and we can at least be friends and you still get to be around me, but with boundaries". He backed off, and after he graduated, I only got the occasional MySpace message from him. You need to be upfront with him, even if it hurts his feelings. He's obviously not getting anything else.
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