But every time, I get grunts, or rolling of the eyes, if not some pretty rude answer.
As a result, I've pretty much stopped doing compliments. So I just feel really weird about giving compliments, even if I'm being genuine, because it seems like if I give a compliment, I'm treated as though I'm the biggest weirdo/pervert on the planet.
It's not like I'm being a perv (hey, those pants must be made of little mirrors, cause I can totally see myself in them, yeah!)
What's up with that?
There's an older guy who complimented a woman I have a mild crush on, and she seemed happy about it. I know that I've given her similar compliments, (I've joked with her, etc) it's gotten a grunt. "It's true!" ::grunt again:: Then I feel really awkward, so I give up. I was amazed. I was stunned. I said to him. "You know, I was thinking of saying that, but every time I try to give her or any women a compliment, they always act like I'm weird!" They just shrugged and said "You just have to do it." ::Again, when I do, I get treated like I'm a creep::
I was heading out, and I saw this beautiful woman with these cool glasses, and she said goodbye to some friends of mine. I asked her about her glasses, and she answered (ok, so no grunt... yay!), well, I think they fit your style. They look nice on you :demeanor change - uh oh. :grunt: "thanks." Well, it was a thanks, at least... but I have to admit I felt stupid and awkward.
I didn't stare at her, grab her, lick my lips and make obscene gestures, pick my nose or anything weird like that, so why do some women have trouble with compliments?
Sometimes yeah, I do think that the woman is a babe or that she's incredibly beautiful, but I get really shy and business like around them, which feels more awkward.
But sometimes, I'm just trying to give you ladies a nice compliment because I want to and it's just a genuine compliment, and absolutely there's no desire to pick out curtains or bathroom linens with you.
But I want to learn how to do it without getting chewed out or treated like a slimeball.
Personally I don't like complements id much rather a guy show how much he likes me than him telling me how pretty I am etc . And when I say show I don't mean gifts or anything like that ! And as for complimenting a girl on her sunglasses and saying they fit your style id be kinda like eh erm ok that's weird ! In my opinion give the compliments a rest find a girl you like and go on a few dates compliment her every now and then with genuine compliments ! No girl wants to hear a compliment all the time as its not as special and just becomes the same as asking the time ! And maybe the way you say your compliments might not seem weird to you but do to women !
Wow it sounds like you have had some very disappointing encounters with ladies . The thing is, I'm not really good at receiving compliments but it's not because I think the guys a perv or a creep as much as it's that I don't feel like the nice things he says about me are true or that he feels obligated to say something to me because I've obviously spent some time picking out my outfit, doing my make up, etc...
For me it's more of a "You don't have to say that" than a "This guy is a creep".
As far as how to get girls to accept your nice comments (which, by the way, we can totally recognize as compliments when aimed at another female) I'd say keep saying what you genuinely feel. If there's a girl you're somewhat close to you might even try asking her why it is that she doesn't accept them .
While you may genuinely mean to compliment them you also need to make sure that your body language is also fully behind you . I've seen some shy guys try to compliment women while either joking or being sarcastic as a defense mechanism in case it backfires at which time they try to play it cool .
Most women will appreciate a sincere compliment as long as it has no string attached and you, the whole of you - not just your mouth, is fully behind it . And if in doubt, why not ask a lady friend to critique you on your approach as she may have more insight into this .
I think the problem with the compliment to the lady with the glasses is that there seems to be no connection before hand . I would think that you are weird (if I was a chick) when you compliment me while I was walking out the door. The lady had to be there for awhile and you should have made the effort to get to know her, or at least be around her while you were around your friends. If you are going to compliment her makes sure that it is not a pick up line. What I mean by that is you need to have some sort of other communications with her before you just throw out some compliment. Maybe approach her by asking what type of glasses that she is wearing, and after she answers then move on to that you think that they look good on her. Maybe throw in there that the glasses bring out her, I don't know her eyes. But makes sure you do this while she has time, not while she is heading for the door.
She wasn't heading out the door . My friends and I were, it was close to closing time .
And I did a little talking before, but not much, cause I could tell she was busy at the time . But it quickly thinned out, so I got to talk a little more, even though I was a bit nervous about it .
As for the cutie before her, We've joked around for a while, so it's not like I just walked up and gave these girls a compliment point blank; Although as a conversation starter, a compliment shouldn't be bad . - 9 months ago
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Well I can understand that it is difficult to talk to girls just out of the blue . I think if you take the time and get to know these girls instead of just throwing yourself out there by telling her how good she looks, girls might respond to you better . You have to show them that you care about them and not just want to get into their pants . Good Luck, it is rough out there - 9 months ago
Hah ! For the fun of it, what you should do is say the opposite of what your compliment is . Take the glasses for example. Walk up to the woman, and say, those are interesting glasses---too bad they don't fit you. And walk away . What do you have to lose? If you give them a compliment they will treat you like a creep; insult them a bit, and now they will talk to you cause they will want to insult you back. Gotta love reverse psychology ! :)
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