I like a shy guy. First I made an eye contact and he didn't turn away just started at me back, but days and weeks passed and he didn't do anything. We couldn't really talk to each other as we always got nervous. So I decided to ask about him his friend, but he said my crush is not looking for relationship really so that's why he wasn't doing anything. Well, I was sad but stood friendly. The thing is he started like warming up to me time to time, but really slowly. First we were really awkward around each other and he sometimes even ignored me. Then I just started to smile at him, he was bit scared at the beginning but began to get used to it and even started to smile a bit back, but then some days he like became like annoyed by me or something as greeted me and smiled only when he wanted and felt so. So I really stepped back and the next thing he did called me drunk just to talk to a friend (so he said). After that drunk conversation he kinda never was annoyed and never ignored me anymore. Then I thought maybe he is really shy and I scarred him at the beginning, so I decided to give him a call just to chat, but he never answered and never called back. I took it as not really interested and ended every attempt on him, even sort of tried to avoid him, but was polite at the same time. The thing was he started to show interest - looked at me boldly (he never did that, just glanced shyly or turned away quickly as I looked at him) until I look at him, smiled every time he saw me, was always in a good mood around me. But I waited for him to make some move, but he didn't, so again I backed off. Now I think he is starting to show all these signs shy guy shows when likes someone. He gets all shy around me, blushes, gets really loud or talkative whenever I'm near. For the first time heard him flirting with another girl and later with other and every time when I was near. The second time he glanced in my direction while flirting with her. He didn't flirt heavy, just one flirty sentence, but that's BIG for him as I never hear him flirting not with me or other girls. I have a feeling he soooo intimidated by me, but I try to be so friendly but he still is frozen in front of me and just nervously showing off but doesn't say anything. Maybe he just likes attention I give him, but why does he need it if he doesn't like me. For example If I don't like a guy I'm annoyed by attention he gives me, I would try to avoid him as much as possible and would be happy he backed off, but my crush does opposite. Whenever I'm like - He doesn't like you, Move on! And I step back and don't give any attention, he is showing off, appears in places so he can bump into me, flirts with those other two girls (they both are his friends, not random girls... oh, and one of them even sometimes looks at me and smiles to herself when passes me), but doesn't really talk to me.
theres a lot of questions just like this so its obivous if your shy your not gonna make the first move so do him a favor and just do it rather than sit there and wait
do you like me? I need to know cos you're confusing me. you're a cool bloke and your someone id consider definately but I need to know what's up with you. if no - well your a great guy but it was very confusing. move on. if yes ... shut up and kiss me ya twat or the preppy ameican translation of the aforementioned will do.
As a shy guy myself, I see only two possibilities: 1) He's really trying to sort out his feelings--he thinks he likes you but has no idea how /is afraid to to deal with you directly, so he's drawing out the "game" as long as possible, or 2) He's just trying to play with your head, because he knows you'll give him attention every time you seem to withdraw--some guys get hooked on a silly ego boost like this. The only solution I see is for you to approach him directly and get him into conversation. I don't really know how you can do that, it seems to be easier said than done. In conversation he may reveal his feelings. You may try to confront him (in a friendly, flirty way that is) about his behavior, or invite him out yourself on a low-pressure date ("wanna get a cup of coffee/lunch sometime?") and see his reaction.
BTW, what was his flirty sentence to that other girl if you don't mind? Having a hard time flirting with girls and just wanted to get some idea.
Yea it's kinda hard to get him to talk as we don't run very often into each other and as I mentioned he doesn't return my calls (well, it was just one call, bet the thing he didn't bother to return call leaves me with not calling him ever again). During his drunk call I kinda said that he acts weird and he said he is a Air sign (Gemini) so he is like that. He shyly hinted he likes me but didn't say exactly. Then again sober he first days couldn't really look me in eyes as he promised... - 2 months ago
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...to call and never did. So I have no idea how to get him to talk to me. I tried to speak up to him, but he always replies with one word or one sentence and looks for the nearest excape route:), cause he is so nervous around me and it makes me also nervous and I really can't make conversation going:) - 2 months ago
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I hear you. It can be a real headache to deal with someone like this (he even said that you can expect him to act weird), so if I were you, I'd probably cut my losses and move on. His behavior now is an indicator of how he might be in a relationship. Best of luck. - 2 months ago
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Yea, but the thing is I just kinda want to get to know him not really a relationship, but he is freaked out only by a thought being or talking with me alone. You as a shy guy maybe can explain why is that happening, if he shows signs of liking me, but when it comes to TALKING he is like almost running away. - 2 months ago
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I recommend this webpage: http://www.succeedsocially.com/shyguys which explains things in a lot of detail. Basically it's the very definition of "shy" to be afraid of close, personal contact with someone you're obviously interested in--hard to understand if you're outgoing. Maybe he's well versed in flirting but his conversation and "normal" everyday interaction skills are poor, and this insecurity causes him to avoid you. Maybe he's afraid you'll see the "real him" in normal conversation. - 2 months ago
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Anyway, your best bet is to *somehow* get him into conversation...if he's set on avoiding your attempts there may be nothing you can do about it. Maybe try waiting a couple of weeks--just ignore him entirely for that time--and come back to him and try shaking things up again. Maybe you could say something unexpected/kinda surprising to "grab" his attention. I really don't know what's going on inside his head, so this is pretty much the limit of my advice. I know that during certain periods.. - 2 months ago
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..of my life (like now, lol), when I'm dealing with personal issues, I've acted weird and avoidant of people and girls that I was attracted to; the more attractive a girl is, the more "weird" you can expect a shy guy to behave, ESPECIALLY if he's dealing with other stuff in his life. In a few short words, take it easy, give it some time, keep trying--and check out the website I mentioned above, I think you'll find it insightful. Good luck : ) - 2 months ago
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Thanks. It kinda sounds like him. As there are days he is like really himself and days he is kinda awkward with everybody, especially me. Anyway I will definitely visit that home page you suggested. Again tnx. - 2 months ago
I stopped reading halfway ... sorry too many words. But for the first part about the awkwardness, the staring, the no talking, everything... I have the same problem. It's really frustrating sometimes, and it makes me so confused. Hang in there, I can't give you good advice on this because I need some too but at least I'm stuck in the same situation :/
If he acted strangely around everyone else too, I'd say that he likes you and is just extremely awkward in social situations... but the fact that he can interact with people and even flirt with girls is really throwing me off. It sounds like he likes you but for some reason he's not letting you get close. Maybe he's been hurt before.
When you say that I kinda could agree, cause he definitely acts really awkward around me. Only when drunk kinda admitted he likes me. He said something like he is shy especially around beautiful women and thet he already had given up to find nice girl until I came. The hext day he acts like he doesn't remember anything. And I'm just a human as well and don't like to be treated like that so I just pull away and he notices that and like tries to regain my attention. - 2 months ago
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Now it's really a silent time, cause after he didn't return my call I still smile at him and act friendly, but don't go out of my way to start speaking to him, to say Hi or meet him (even try to run into him as less as possible), so he is also kinda backing off. First week he tried to get my attention with that flirting, loud talking and laughing, smiling every time he saw me, but I didn't buy it anymore and until he calls me or starts to speak to me, I won't take him serious anymore. - 2 months ago
Omg me and my crush does the exact same thing as you, I have come to the conclusion that they just like the game and are probably doing to overs as well, and I know it sucks because I am a single woman and I love being single I do get asked out by men but I have never bean interested in relationships but what makes it worse you know that you would come out of single hood to give it a chance a shot with this guy :(
OMG. That's exactly how I feel. I'm single for two years now and enjoy being single just recently felt like I have a crush on him, but I also don't want relationship, but he kinda thought that if I approach him it automatically means relationship. I don't have a huge crush on him, but I would like to get to know him. He seems interesting and we always can stay friends, but he's freaked out by only a thought we might be somewhere alone. He even always tries to sit as far as possible from me. - 2 months ago
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...and we somehow end up sitting close he acts so nervous. Like jumps up often, like to put something away, grab something and becomes all quiet I berely can hear him. It's like for both of us as we can't really breath whenever we are close. But when he is in a "safe" distance from me with those female friends or male friends jokes and laughs loudly, is very talkative active with his hands. Sometimes I have a feeling he is showing off. Oh, and when he called drunk was really talkative. - 2 months ago
Surprise him one day and tell him to relax and why being so nervous and that you feel he can't take his breathe and what's wrong with him !!!.....and if he is okay or what and see how he will react :D:D...... - 2 months ago
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