Guys, approach.

Oh man... anything really. Today's society won't allow men to make the first move, y'know, since insisting too much will be labeled as OMG SEXUAL HARASSMENT. Men are never offended by anything a woman will say or do to get him, as long as it's not a gross approach. In short, I LOVE it when women approach me. It means they have character and that's something every man likes.

This said, if you happen to smoke, you could ask the guy for a cigarette or a Honey Time cigarillo or whatever. He might even light your smoke.
If you go to college or university, you can sit next to the guy and joke around with him.

What you talk about isn't so important, as long as you smile and play with your hair a bit. That stuff is cute and if he isn't totally brain-dead, he should get the hint.

But if you MUST know what to talk about... here are a few suggestions:
1- Tell him you've watched this or that movie. Then ask him about his tastes in movies. If you both liked a particular movie, talk about that. It should catch his interest.
2- Ask him for his name. When he answer, tell him something along the lines of "hey, just like my friend's brother! You kind of look the same, but you're cuter..." Kind of forced, I know, but compliments will get to him. Usually they work better with women, but it still works good on men.
3- Damn, girl... whatever you feel like saying. He knows he musn't talk about himself, so if you do talk about yourself, everything's fine. Showing interest in HIS stuff will please him, but wait a while before asking him about his life, job, studies, hobbies, whatever he does.

okay.. first.. here are some un-natural scripts that I pulled off of msn and other such pages:

- Hi, my name is Shaniqua, I really like your pants. It has a nice zipper, were they on sale?
(that's right, they all pretty much sound like you're mentally retarded or doing a market research study)

okay.. first off.. what's wrong with opening up like this?
- It sounds lame (agreed)
- It's very unnatural (agreed)
- It makes me feel like I'm trying too hard (agreed)
- I sound nervous (agreed)
- It will probably make him uncomfortable (ehh.. that's debatable)

any alternatives that take care of these issues?

(No big deal casual intros)

- (if there's loud music just pretend ur dancing & literally grab his hand and get him to dance)
- Is anyone sitting HERE? Mind if I sit down? (this is called a "yes-bridge" aka "compliance-building"; where you are getting him to AGREE to ACCEPT interacting with you; notice HERE instead of THERE; more intimate word choice; US, WE, OUR instead of you, me, or I)
- Omg, are you that guy from X-factor? (break-ice) Are you sure, because you look exactly like him.. (hook) I'm guessing you don't watch non-american television.. (tease) Oh please.. name me two other channels you watch besides playboy and espn (tease).. You should've seen ur face.. you were like.. wtf is X-factor? (now you're flirting & comfortably engaged in conversation)

(Challenge/Flirting/Tease intros)

- Ugh.. how often do you shower? Every leap year?
- Do you mind closing your legs just enough so I can sit down? Thank you, it's always nice to meet a man who understands his balls aren't big enough to need that much space..
- (Smile at him like something is funny) I could tell you no longer live with your mother.. (how?) Because your shirt is untucked.. and no woman would let a man walk outside the house wearing those pants and shoes together (if he replies with girlfriend info.. then you can disengage while not losing face.. if he doesn't.. keep going!)
- Omg, what a cute puppy! What are you gonna use to pick up girls when it gets older?

okay.. word of warning with these.. do NOT use them on shy guys.. they will fail.. only use them on guys who you feel intimidated around.. it will lighten up the mood and make things more comfortable.. and that 'll get you acting like yourself and prevent any of those insecurities from causing nervous stupid moments..

if the guy can't handle it.. then.. he's either TOO sensitive (coupled with low-self esteem).. or he's just an @sshole who can't be playful and doesn't know how to have a fun time with people in general..

if it's an upbeat fun playful guy.. he'll love this..

no matter which one you chose.. just fall into the trap of getting lazy an not following through with the conversation.. IT'S OKAY TO TALK.. guys who don't like to hear you talk are @ssholes.. so TALK.. and he'll listen.. trust me..

It really doesn't matter what you start a conversation about with the guy, because most guys will appreciate the fact that you have the confidence to do the approaching. A lot of girls think they should just walk by and smile at a guy and he will instantly form a crush on you and approach you. This isn't really true most of the time. If you approach a guy just say Hi and say your name and have a random question to ask them that may start up a conversation. Or start out with a compliment like, Hi I'm Ashley, I just wanted to tell you I like your shirt. Where did you get it from? I'm sure you can think of other questions to build off of that. Maybe find out where they are going and comment on that. Girls should approach guys more I think, it will help you meet more great guys instead of just hoping one will approach you.

If a girl wants to approach me, she needs to be open, direct, and say what's on her mind.

I mean that too, if she plays around, or tries to bait me into saying something, I'll move on.