Ok here goes! Me and my ex boyfriend were friends for a while before we got together as it took ages for both of us to admit we had feelings for each other and pluck up the courage to sort it out!. But we finally got together and everything was great, then completely out the blue he ended it and told me a couple of months later that he was going traveling round the world, which he had told me before he had always wanted to do. Things were awkward for a while but we remained friends and when he went away we kept in touch by email. When he came home he came straight to see me and bought me home a present as well,Since then we've carried on as friends and there have been a couple of times where I think his been trying to tell me something but he is quite shy and not v good at talking bout his feelings. Then a couple of weeks ago we met up just the 2 of us as mates for coffee,things were fine and we were just chatting normally when he dropped in to the conversation that he gets discount at the place he works at for family-of which he said he had put on the list. He then said he was allowed discount for a significant other and told me that he had put my name down. This completely took me by surprise as he could of put anyone down as he has loads of friends and to be honest I don't really shop in the place he works. I didn't really know how to react so just said "oh ok, thanks" which I know sounds stupid! I told couple of friends and they said they reckon he still has feelings for me and that because he is shy it was his way of trying to tell me. Thing is I still have feelings for him and I kinda want to bring it up in conversation and see how he feels but I'm scared he's gonna knock me back or that I've mis read the signs and that it'll ruin the friendship that we managed to keep when we broke up. It's just this has been going on for so long now and neither of us have been with anyone else since we split. It's driving me mad and I want to sort it out but not sure how, I'm usually quite direct and can be quite honest about feelings but with him I'm hopeless!. I could do with an outsiders opinion. Help!
Update: What do you think guys,would you put you're ex down as a significant other if you didn't still have feelings for her?
6 months ago
He broke up with you because he didn't want you cheating on him while he was away.
He's back, and he wants you - if you feel the same way - touch his arm, put your head on his chest, put your face about 6 inches from his while parting your lips slightly and looking at him, see if he kisses you.
There ya go - if you two can't talk with words, talk with body language.
The fact that he told you that he had put your name on the list does sound rather significant, doesn't it. And that, I suppose, is where the trouble is. In girl world, writing someones name down on a significant other list is a momentous occasion and signifies deep, true feelings. In guy world this is not the case, writing someones name down as a significant other list could simply mean that you're important to him and he gets the chance to show off a little bit to you and boys almost always show off for girls whether they have dated said girls or not. But if we put this situation into context, your context, it becomes something different. Your man broke up with you right before he went to be his world-traveling self. This suggests that he broke up with you because he would be leaving you for an extended period of time and probably didn't want to hurt you or have to keep secrets from you about his activities on foreign soil. It doesn't look like he broke up with you because he didn't like you or wasn't attracted to you anymore. Soooo, I think you should give it another go with this guy. Your instincts are telling you that he may still be interested and you know that you are still interested. You may have to jump the gun and take the initiative and ask him out again yourself. I know you said you were worried about losing the friendship you guys have worked to keep so take it slow feel out the situation and then make a move, most importantly tell the truth and just be you.
Thats kinda like my situation except mine is more complicated! Read it. I can't let go. But without a doubt he def has feelings for you. I'm exactly the same with my ex, I know he has feelings for me but its like there is something holding the two of us back when there shouldn't be because we have such strong feelings and chemistry with one another. I can't understand it myself, but ur lad seems way less complicated than my one so I think you should 100% say something to him. I'm thinking he doesn't want to say anything either because he is the one who dumped you so maybe he's waiting on you. I'm sure you have loads of friends so you don't need another one who you fancy and want so much. Those friendships never work in anyways so just say it to him. Let us know how it works out!
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When: 6 months ago
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