If a guy JUST meets a girl at the gym, then for the next 3 days, she leaves him facebook comments, IMs him all 3 days, tell him she wants to go get ice cream with him constantly, and sends him her number via facebook without the guy even asking for it, was it wrong for me to try to hook up(make out, not try to have sex) with her on our first date? Because she just kinda turned her head. I apologized 2 weeks later for making her feel uncomfortable and she said its fine. But ever since she hasn't really contacted me except for when I saw her at church on sunday she texted me as soon as she walked out and was like I JUST SAW You AT CHURCH, HAPPY EASTER and las week I saw her at the gym again and she kept wanting me to work out with her and then go to the grocery store wit her? I don't know and then I asked her to hang out las week and she said she would let me know and she never did. SO I don't know I'M VERY CONFUSED. (and I'm not not just looking to use her for sex, I'm actually interested in her. )
Thats a real tricky one, when you do meet up with her just be honest and say that you really like her but your not sure on how she feels. I'm confused too because I would definitely kiss the guy if I liked him. Its not like she seen you in person and then went oh no I don't fancy him because she keeps asking you to work out with her etc, ah nip it in the bud and ask her out straight is what I say.
She must be one of those girls who doesn't kiss on the first date. I don't think you did anything wrong intentionally, if she didn't give you any sign that she wasn't into moving things fast. Not every girl is the same, some kiss on the first date others don't. I think what turned her off is that you didn't contact her/apologize/whatever for TWO WEEKS. She likes you, that's obvious because she went through all that trouble to go out with you and still is trying to keep in touch, but she's probably weirded out by your attitude. Maybe she thinks you're not really all that into her because of the time that went by after the date. She might also be scared that SHE turned YOU off by not hooking up with her and is embarrassed.
You should let her know exactly what you did us. You're interested in her genuinely and not for sex. Girls aren't mind readers, and besides that again we are GIRLS which means we read a lot into every little action/word/detail. We think too much and that is probably what's keeping her from hanging out. Seems to me like she's the one who's always pursuing you. Why don't you turn it around and text/call her once in awhile. Leave her a comment on facebook (I hate when I leave Myspace comments to guys and they NEVER leave me one, shows lack of interest).
Sounds like you came on a little too fast on your first date, that's all. Be patient! Keep smiling and being friendly and texting and what not. Keep it light and social. And when you are with her, go easy on the touching for a while. If you take it slower, you will probably have a much better chance with this girl.
Forget it, this girl doesn't know what she wants and sounds, frankly, nuts.
NEVER say your sorry - you had every reason to think she was interested - she is the one with the problem - ignore her and act like she's just another little kid running around at your feet - because she is.
we had this long conversation like way into the night texting and she sent me a picture mail too, then she said she'd text me the next day and she did...
Let's face it, they call it the dating game for a reason. The mating ritual between males and females, human or otherwise, involves some serious interplay. Guys have to be strong, strut their stuff...
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 9 months ago
asked 5 days ago
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