There's this guy I like and I'm about 90% sure he likes me back too. We'll be hanging out as a group and he'll have to do EVERYTHING with me. He has to sit beside me, he has to be the one to make me laugh, he stares into my eyes and he appears upset when I ignore him or I'm not talking to him but someone else. He carries around little presents I give him with him all the time, we write notes to each other and he keeps them all in a safe spot in his room, etc.
Yesterday I got him to get AIM. (It's a big deal because he is the poster child for anti-AIM) and I spent 2 and a half hours talking to him. Now, here's where I get confused.
We start talking about this girl he likes but yet he "doesn't like her". He told me she uses him, and he hates her but he keeps coming back to her. He's tried to move on but he "can't". I told him he obviously could but there is one part of him that obviously doesn't want to move on. He also knows that she is totally not interested in him.
To add to all this I told him he was totally oblivious to what was going on around him (I was referring to the fact that I like him). He said "Just because I don't act on it doesn't mean I don't know about it. " I'm not sure if he was just acting or being serious. But I think he knows I like him.
So basically my question is: Where to from here? Do I tell him how I feel? Not rush anything? Move on? Just give me your input on this whole situation.
Update: Thank you for the great advice guys and gals. (: You're right - I should not be advising about other girls. It really does send out the wrong message now that I think about it. Amazing how another perspective makes you realize your errors.
4 months ago
Ask him to clarify your relationship. He obviously likes you. Some guys (and girls) don't like to commit to an exclusive relationship until they have to. If you aren't comfortable with that, tell him. Many times people like this will make the commitment when faced with the possibility of losing the other.
I think that you need to tell him how you feel and make sure you guys are on the same level. By the way he acts around you I really think that he's like madly in love with you. LOL. And that part about keeping all your little notes in a safe place means that he likes to think about you and the good times that you've had. It really seams that as much as he likes you, he can't see that you feel the same way about him. The guys that I know are shy about revealing how they really feel, cause there like in high school and to guys it seams like there really embarrassed when they reveal their true feelings. i think you should tell him how you feel. I know it won't be easy but it would clear the air between you 2. I think you both are a little lost in the whole situation, and I would be too. It hard sometimes to read how someone else feels toward you. I think when he text you that he was trying to make you say something, or like let it slip that you like him too. If you don't want to tell him right away I think you should be more obvious about your feelings toward him and make him see that you feel the same way about him.
Sure he likes you. But if I were you, I'd try to stop giving this boy advice on his relationship with other girls. That places you in the middle -- not a great place to be. I mean, you want to be his girlfriend, not his adviser, right? So I think you should give him space to work out his issues with other girls on his own time, without any help from you. Maybe say you are not comfortable providing any more advice in this area. Otherwise, keep being friendly, smile a lot, don't push too hard, and see where things go....that's more or less how I'd handle it.
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
For the first date I would take her to decent restaurant, nothing too expensive, but still nice. I would pay for the meal then take her out to do something fun, maybe go to the park, bowling, or some other activity. I would wear nice shoes, jeans, and dress shirt, maybe a blazer. It would end with me taking her home and walking her to the door.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
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