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Why don't girls talk to me?

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polynesian (Age:18 to 24)     When: 5 months ago
Views: 268     Category: Flirting
I'm a high school senior and my dating life is pretty much non existent, I hear from people that I'm attractive, but still girls don't talk to me, I'm a pretty tall guy ( 6'3") and I'm shy and quiet, do I look scary or something? Or am I the one that needs to start the talking?

Oh and am I attractive? Please be honest, there are pics and my profile

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blufrenzy93
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blufrenzy93 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 28 days ago
are you attractive?
of course!
you're very good looking =3
plus you were a model?
just sweep me up right now.
tall, shy, quiet guys are actually people I'm attractive to ;]

as for the girls
yes, you would have to be the one that goes up to the girl
and start the talking
they're most likely shy and overwhelmed
that they couldn't possibly go up to someone like yourself
just be yourself and go up to them
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landoan
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landoan (Age:25 to 29)      When: A month ago
Why not pick out a girl you know, maybe a relative,and ask her? Or pick out a girl you like and ask her. The worst that can happen is she will refuse to answer but I really doubt that would happen. Be careful because she might not give an honest reply, but listen CAREFULLY to what she says. She might hide what she really thinks a little to avoid hurting your feelings, so you might have to read between the lines. You know what I mean.

If you don't like what she says, do the same thing with one or two more. The word will get around that you are asking and someone who's actually interested in you will probably seek you out to talk to you!
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likeyeah
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likeyeah (Age:Under 18)      When: A month ago
I'm not being rude or nothing but are you fishing for compliments. because you obviously are hot lol maybe girls don't talk to you because of this.when I clicked onto your pro after reading an answer, I honestly thought probably goes for girls of a really high standard and most girls have confidence but will still put themselves down around someone like you my best answer for you is probably approach girls- all girls including the bigger ones the less attractive ones all girls and talk- it will make you more approachable. plus, I hate to say it but in some of your answers you come across as a bit arrogant like "you look like the female version of goofy" I am not guna judge that- you might know her and all but still girls do take things like to heart so if you have a rep for saying stuff like that- it makes you more unapproachable. Hope this helped x
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Beefris
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Beefris (Age:Under 18)      When: 2 months ago
WOW! You're REALLY hot! And you sound like my ideal guy. You're definitely NOT scary! Yep the shy and quiet part would be it. But I absolutely love shy guys. Yeah my dating life is non existent because I'm too shy. I'm sure there are girls that like you. They're probably shy like me and can't approach you because your hottness intimidates them. lol ;) How old are you?
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C-Key17
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C-Key17 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 3 months ago
Well you should be the one that starts the conversation. To me you are attractive, and cute. But you need to understand yourself before you go and get into a relationship.
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ALWAYSclassy
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ALWAYSclassy (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
It's because you're shy and quiet. Seriously, if that is you in the picture you have nothing to worry about! If you approached more girls I'm sure 90% of them would accept it. Right now, they probably think you're not interested in them or you have a girlfriend.
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thicklatina4you
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thicklatina4you (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
Girls are probaby scared you won't like them. I would be the same way...Jeez you're yummy lol, pardon me and I'm older than you are...I wouldn't have a problem dating you..except I wouldn't make the first move because I would be just as scared. From first though I'd think you're already taken or you're picky =\. But who would I be to judge when I wouldn't know your personality. Don't worry! it isn't you.
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sparklesista
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sparklesista (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
Hey, you have no worries about not being attractive-your very good looking! Your tall dark and handsome-which many girls state as their "Ideal". I'm sure your not scary, I think the problem is that your shy and quiet. Speaking from experience this can confuse a girl. If a girl likes you and she's not really getting any feedback from you it might put her off making a move as she probably thinks you don't like her! Speak more and just start a general conversation, I promise you the more you do it the easier it will become, then as you feel more comfortable, your personality will shine through and if it is someone you have feelings for and you think they like you back go ahead and ask them if they want to go and get a drink or something to eat with you. Remember:. Just think of getting to know girls as friends first-it'll make you less nervous! Good luck :)
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Foxy-Sox
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Foxy-Sox (Age:25 to 29)      When: 5 months ago
You definitely need to start the talking. Shy guys are cute. But a lot of girls your age won't talk to you because of it. Even if you are good looking.

Most girls want guys to dominate the relationship and to be the more aggressive ones. So give yourself a confidence boost and open up when your trying to talk to a girl you like.

Oh and there nothing wrong in the looks department for you.
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Da-One-n-Only-
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Da-One-n-Only- (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
Well you're not bad looking but I will say that they are scared that you won't like them back from my experience I liked this one guy he was great a football good looking and all I was to scared because you know how it is he's the guy that everyone wants to b and every girl wants to be with but its just because you're too good looking lol good luck.
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Belleza
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Belleza (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
Yep your very attractive but if I were your age I would definitely be intimidated by you cause dude your 6'3" - not a bad thing but in front of a short girl like me yea you would look like a basketball star to me and no your not scary your actually too attractive so maybe that's why girls are too shy to talk to you thinking that maybe you might be a player who'll break their heart!!
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ajbrown8
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ajbrown8 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
Maybe girls are intimidated at the fact that you are attractive. Do you know what I mean? I know a lot of girls who won't talk to guys that they think are super attractive because they're really scared of getting shot down. Basically they think that they aren't good enough or don't have a chance so why bother. So maybe start conversations with some girls you think are cute, and I think you'll notice a change.
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KaytiLyn
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KaytiLyn (Age:Under 18)      When: 5 months ago
Okay ill give it to you, your not bad looking (at least in my eyes)
you say girls don't talk to you. Do you ever make contact or initiate a conversation? Maybe they just don't think YOUR interested? Give it a try. If you have your eye on one girl, let her know. That might break the ice.
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deadwait
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deadwait (Age:25 to 29)      When: 5 months ago
I'd shoot for older girls - high school girls are a waste of time imo - start hanging at your nearby university or community college - Tell them your 24 or something, you look like more of a man then I commonly see in the 21-25 male age bracket

Also, maybe grow your hair a couple inches and go for more of an unkept look - get a 5 o'clock shadow going on - do not be afraid of girls being afraid of you - they are, and always will be - and if you like a girl and she likes you, remember to go after her if she doesn't come right back, and walk her back to where you were - see, this shows some ownership, and that you aren't willing to be walked on - girls will respect you for that

Just be confident - and stand your ground - when you talk to girls, look them in the eye - if they act rude to you - their the ones with the problem - clearly you are the man to have, and you know it - don't be too cocky, but yes, be a little bit of a dick if they act in any way bitchy - pick who you want, doesn't matter if you think they don't like you.

Of course, all the so call "independent woman" here will scoff at this - getting dating advise for a guy from woman is like going to a female doctor for men's health issues
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juice
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juice (Age:Under 18)      When: 5 months ago
Be confident don't be afraid and start talking pretend like if they all liked you and treat them like if they do talk to them and make them friends eventually the girlfriends will come naturally
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Just-A-Random-Guy
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Just-A-Random-Guy (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
No homo, but you're a good looking dude. Barring any psychological or behavioral anomalies, I don't see why they wouldn't talk to you. Remember, that girls need men. MEN initiate things. You are a MAN. Talk to them. But what do I know, I'm Just A Random Guy.
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