Ok, so I just met this girl. We've met up three times over spring break: The first time was when I met her at the park, (with our other friends) and I decided I kind of like her. The second time, we (with the same group of friends, about 7 of us) went to a friend's house, and our eyes locked a few times. I couldn't really pick up on any flirting. The third time, I went to see a movie with her and her friend, and didn't even get a hug. Which I probably should have initiated. I think she's somewhat interested in me?
Either way, we're going to meet again (beach) with our friends and I really want to impress her. Should I be more physical, like put my arms around her when we walk together, or does it really depend on her? Does anyone want to share some of their tricks? Thanks!
Update: Also, I'm thinking of asking her out while at the beach.
If I do, what sort of things are best to do on a first date with someone I already met? Of course, I want to impress her while getting to know her.
9 months ago
Update: Ok so we didn't go to the beach because of the weather. Instead, the group came to my house.
I'm going to ask her out at our school mixer instead!
9 months ago
There are other ways to show a girl you like her without being overwhelming and too physical. While everyone is caught up having their fun at the beach, come over to her and initiate one on one conversation and keep eye contact to show that your interested in what she has to say. If your going to a snack stand or something, ask her to come along then offer her something to eat, your treat, if she refuses, tell her that its for keeping you company on the walk. Small extra-friendly gestures show that you care and your not just interested in "hooking up" and will make you stick out from other guys that show her interest. Compliment her, but don't be unoriginal. Tell her she has a cute nose, or some other cute feature that usually goes unmentioned. I would leave anything physical to a time when you guys are alone, kissing her or putting your arms around her will give your friends gossip for the week and she may not want to be a part of that. And before you kiss her or hold her, ask her if its ok, it goes a long way when you show that you care for a girl feelings. =]
Thanks! I'll keep this in mind! I've just been reading a lot about how touching (appropriately, obviously) is good and all but I guess it depends on the girl too. Besides, I'm not that open of a person generally so it's not really me to do that so quickly. I'll definitely try to use small gestures and stuff to my advantage. There's already so much drama and gossip going on in our circle of friends.
Oh yeah for sure! i'd like to thank you (and the others) for your input! right now, the situation has changed though, but i'll be keeping your tips in mind when I finally do go to the beach (whenever that is). - 9 months ago
Mango's reply is right on. I am not sure if your any friends know that you like her (unless of course you have confided this to one of them). Maybe have a friend an opportunity for you to go off and get something for the group. For example, while everyone is on the beach, suggest to a friend of yours to request you and girl X to get drinks for the group etc. Just make sure girl X is around you when you friend suggests that you go and get some drinks for the group. That way you to can be alone. Then, ask her how she is liking the day on the beach. And then tell her something specific (i. E. Your hair looks really awesome today) blah blah. And of course she will say "oh thanks". And then of course there will be an awkward silence, and then, that is when you look over at her and smile. Trust me, unless she is a total idiot she will understand how you feel about her. When you get back to the group, let girl X know that next time you would be happy to go with her next time to grab drinks for the group or whatever. If she feels the same about you, she will show it. And of course anytime you get to sit out and take break from beach activities. Then just sit next to her and talk. Let us know how you do. Besides, you have the perfect location for a flirt session: there is nothing more romantic than the beach :)
Mango is absolutely right. Don't jump the gun or get caught up on the physical stuff; that's where most guys crash and burn. Also, don't get too cocky: eye locks are good signs, but they don't necessarily mean anything. At this point you need to do two things: show her that you aren't like other guys, and figure out one way or another if she's interested in you. The best way to do both of those things is to pay attention to her. If you're all on the beach and the rest of the guys are playing football, sit out and talk to her instead. And when I say "talk", I actually mean "listen". Ask her all about her. Venture opinions and personal stories when they seem appropriate, but keep the conversation focused on her. Good luck and let me know how it goes!
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