I met this girl on Saturday and really hit it off. I went to her place yesterday again (40 min. drive) because she asked. She kept thanking me so much for coming. She took me out to dinner, I paid and everything then we just hung out at her place. Went for a walk. The whole time we had our hands all over each other and kissing. She was more the aggressor on the kissing. She kept saying she is so glad that I came up. I told her that I like her a lot. I told her how beautiful I thought she was and I wanted to see her again, so I said tomorrow. She said I could come up any time. She doesn't text me cutesy girl stuff or leave phone messages (like a lot of girls do). So I wonder if I am giving this girl too much too soon? Its very natural. She says she likes me a lot and we both make plans to do stuff in the future?
Update: She agrees with me a lot, like if I suggest something she nods and says sure. I left the other night because she had to get up for work. But she said she could kiss me all night!
2 months ago
This girl sounds too needy and clingy to be healthy. Don't give in to her every demand, make yourself overly available, or agree with everything she says. A healthy girl will respect this.
it sounds like she likes you. I don't think you have anything to worry about. alote of guys will get annoyed if a girl is calling and texting all the time she just doesn't want to feel like she is bothering you and you will call or just come over whenever you want so at least you know there isn't another guy.
Yes, she wants to come see me and wants this to be really amicable (both of us contribute). - A month ago
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First of all, the fact that you paid for her meal shouldn't even play a part in this, the guy should always pay. There are lots of girls that aren't very in to texting/talking on the phone, so that definitely isn't a bad sign that she isn't doing that. And don't listen to the advice someone gave you about letting her pay, the guy really should always pay, it's such a turn-off when a guy makes the girl pay, that's what the guy is supposed to do!
All the time and every time? We went out the other night and she insisted, absolutely INSISTED on paying like she wasn't budging. Not to play who has done more but I like that since we seem to go out a lot and we are "sharing". I know girls kinda feel like when a guy takes care of everything, they think he expects something from a girl. - A month ago
I have to disagree. At first maybe they should pay for some stuff I guess. It would be a turn off to me if he forced me to go out to dinner and then made me pay for it saying he "forgot" his wallet. It might be awkward if the guys was like he you pay for this, but the girl should at least make an attempt to pay for things. If he refuses then ok let him pay. After being in a relationship for some time, both people should pay for things or the poor guy will go broke. - A month ago
Yeah, a guy should pay in the beginning. If you have been dating for a while, yeah, the girl should pick up the tab every once and a while. I went out to eat with this guy, and when the waiter asked how we wanted the checks separated, he turns to me and says, "I don't know, how do you want to do this?" I didn't even bring money; super awkward! The waiter and I both exchanged looks, and I knew we both were thinking the same thing: he isn't getting any action tonight! And he didn't! Dumbass! - A month ago
LOL that's funny. It is awkward in the beginning being like so... who's um paying? But after awhile me and my boyfriend just kind of went hey I'll pay then the next time he will pay. No one person needs to go broke from a relationship. - A month ago
I think you need to ask her to come to your place sometime. She needs to give more not you. You have gone out of your way for her more than a couple times. I've had this happen to me the other way around and yeah a guy should do a little bit more than the girl but not as much as you are doing. Mention to her something about the economy and work into that "If we want this to work we need to split it equally" something like that.
She's been very much like, "Oh I can come down and see you" or, she'll get out her money to pay but I offer to take it. She asks about splitting it, and I said its on me. But she did pay for the taxi back. I think she's very amicable about it. I want to make sure I'm not seeing her too much where she's like, "Oh, I got this guy now... I wonder what else is out there" - 2 months ago
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Dont do that even if you feel abligded to or just want to pay for everything, that's how guys get sick of spending on girls and drop them, just let her pay for some more stuff, she'll respect you more for it, when a guy pays for everything it feels like you owe him or likes he's controlling you sometimes - 2 months ago
Oh, c'mon, don't try to play games with her. She's obviously into you and you're just gonna make everything confused and complicated if you try to mess around with her emotions like that. It isn't "giving too much" to let a girl know you like her and want to see her again. It isn't "giving too much" to call or show up when you say you will. It's common decency, man! I might think you were moving too fast if you were ignoring your own life to spend every second with her, but that's not the case. Why not just let things progress naturally and enjoy the thrill of having met someone you really like, rather than trying to manipulate her by making her think you don't like her very much?
I'm not but I'm wondering if we're moving too fast? I don't think so. She doesn't think so! I like going to see her (80. min round trip)! But is it too much for her? Is she going to get bored? Then I kinda wonder if she's using me for affection? Because I hold her hand, she's always playing with the buttons on my shirt, I know when she's ready to be kissed. We laugh, talk have same interests in shows and music. Only known her 2 days and tonight with be 3 days in a row together. Is it too much? - 2 months ago
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Well, infatuation is powerful, and it sounds like you guys have an immediate spark. If you really want to make a solid relationship out of this, you need to establish some reciprocity- can she come up and see you once in awhile, or meet you halfway? Or let her know you'd like her to make time to call you so you can talk on the phone one night, rather than driving all the way down. If she is willing to contribute to making it work, she isn't using you. - 2 months ago
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She's great! She paid for the taxi and wanted to pay for dinner, or at least go half. I said it was okay, I'd get it since she is back in town. She said how she'd like to come down and see me (since I always go up there). I said that would be great. It seems really amicable, like "Are you sure you want to come up?" "Yes" "Good. Because I really want you to..."
She's very appreciate of anything I do, like throwing away some paper towels we were eating on. It definately seems 2 people on this thin - 2 months ago
PLAY HARD TO GET GIRLS LIKE IT I HATE BOIS THA MKE SO MUCH EFFORT BIGGEST TURN OFF GOING AND SHES PLAYING HARD TO GET I NEVER EVER TEXT BOIS ONLI IF THEY TEXT ME AND I TAKE AGES TO TEXT BK I DNT MKE A FUSS SHE DEFFINELTY LIKES You IF I SED I WANTED TO KISS SUM1 ALL NITE MEANNS I REALI LIKE THEM..I MKE PEOPLE NOT THINK IM INTRESTED AND BUT MKE THEM KINDA WONDER BUT YER SHE DOES LIKE You AND DNT GIVE HER TO MUCH PLAY HARD SERIOUSLY I TRY TELLING BOIS THIS ALL THE TIME THATS Y GIRLS GO FOR BAD BOIS AND PLAYERS BECOS THEY DNT MKE THE EFFORT AND DNT REALI BOTHER PLAY GAMES A LITTLE BIT MKES IT FUN
So how do I play hard to get? What should I do? Be busy? I'm going to see her again tonight (3rd night in a row). I tease her alot, make her earn stuff like dates and so on. - 2 months ago
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Did I screw up by telling her I want to be with her? - 2 months ago
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Dnt tell her you want to b with her that's the worst thing to do play hard like dnt such a fuss of her..act like ur not that bothard about her like take ages to text bk wait for her to text you first sumtimes mke her wonder if you like her or not but dnt tell her you want to b with her just wait for her to say it she will say it in time if you want sumthink that will last you have to play games to mke it that person really want you add mi msn if you like manziiex@hotmail.com - 2 months ago
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Yeah, she texted me, I didn't text back for an hour. Yesterday I said I'd be up at her place at noon, I didn't get up there until early evening (I'm pretty sure she was going, "Where is HE?!" because she wasn't doing much). So should I go up to see her tonight? I probably won't see her the rest of the week because she's leaving town. - 2 months ago
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GO AND SEE HER TONITE DNT PLAY TO HARD OR BE MEAN TO HER JUST PLAY HARD BECOS MI FREIND HAD THIS PROBLEM HE REALI LIKED MI SISTER AND MI SISTER HATES BOIS THAT ARE EASY SHE GOES OFF THEM SO I TRYED HELP HIM AND HE DNE THIS PLAY HARD TO GET THING BUT HE MESSED UP BUT IT DID ACTUALLY STRT TO WRK HE JUST RUINED IT BY TELL HER HE LIKED HER AND THAT TO MUCH BUT BELEAVE ME IT WRKS THAT SERIOUSLY Y GIRLS GET OBESSESD WITH PLAYER NOE OFFENCE TO MOST GIRLS BUT THEY JUST DNT HAVE A CLUE - 2 months ago
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Okay. But I know she really likes me, I can see it in her eyes. She looks at me and it doesn't matter what I say, she's say yes. Or agree with me. So I try to be good to her, like she had to go to work early so I said I have to go (even though I really wanted to stay) so should could get some sleep for work. - 2 months ago
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MAYB NOT ALL GIRLS THINK LIKE ME LOOL..BUT TO DEFFINETLY MKE SUM1 LIKE You ALOT You HAVE TO PLAY HARD TO SUM GIRLS THEY FIND IT A TURN OFF WEN THEY NOE THEY CAN HVE HIM EASY..WELL GD LUCK ANIWAIS :) - 2 months ago
Sounds like she likes you man! My boyfriend is always asking me why I'm not a cute or sweet pushover type of chick, it isn't my personality. She was telling you she liked you by kissing you all night and saying comy by whenever you want. If a girl wasn't into you she DEFINITELY would not say she could kiss you all night (unless she's an @$$hole). Maybe SHE'S scared of leaving those voicemails and texts and that YOU will be the one to get turned off. I always treat a guy like a friend first and flirt casually. just kick back and see what happens. it look good though. good luck!
Well, I don't want to scare her off either. She lives 40 minutes away, and I'm going to drive up there again tonight (then probably drive back 80 min. round trip) just to see her. I am wondering if its too much. - 2 months ago
yeah I'm gonna say what every guy reading this is thinking...
STFU!
this girl seems like a dream, your not giving her too much. besides many girls wouldn't just accept stuff like that they would DEMAND it. so basically it looks like your relationship is going well so just try and not over analyze it, because that's what your doing. you're totally over thinking this.
just let things go where they may at this point it really sounds like it could be worth it.
Personally, it doesn't sound like too terrible of an experience. You may be putting too much into it too fast, but it realistically sounds like you have a good thing going on there. I would just take it as you see it, and deal with everything in your own stride and way.
Okay, I will begin by saying everyone who commented on this is both wrong and right.
Firstly, this girl is definately needy. And I use the term needy here, allowing for the negative connotation, because there is something wrong.
Secondly, she is not being fully honest with you in some way. My guess is that she just got out of a long term, and wanted a rebound, you might be the rebound. If this is the case, you should be making her prove herself to you, and really open up.
Thirdly, have you had sex with her yet?
And lastly man, I think you should take a few days away from her for the health of your relationship. It sounds like you guys are having lots of fun, and I bet it's pretty good for both of you right now, but too much too soon will leave you guys wondering what's next too much, which is going to end up detrimental to your relationship.
I can help more if you update this with more of what you've spoken about.
She seems kinda that way but I'm not sure, she's very pretty but I think she hasn't had a lot of relationships. I was kinda thinking maybe the rebound thing, she asks me when I can visit her next and all that. She asked if she could visit me tomorrow and I said its okay. We've talked a lot and have a ton in common. No we haven't had sex with each other yet.
She's going to be gone for week so I think that's why we're spending so much time together right now, it feels natural. - 2 months ago
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We talked alot. What she likes, her family, my family, both same taste in music, both want to go outdoors together to bike or camp, both like the same movies, she told me personal stuff and insecurities, I told her some of mine. I was worried that it might be too much right off the bat. I don't know, it just feels like steam is building, like we haven't even scratched the surface. She's really appreciative that I go up to see her, and she wants to come down to see me (to even it out). - 2 months ago
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Then you might be good. Use that week to recoup. Get your feelings under control before you bounce in.
If it feels natural, I won't be the one to say it's not worth it.
No, I'm a poor guy. She paid for the taxi and offered to pay for dinner but I told her its not necessary. When she takes me out, she can pay. I think its a very amicable relationship. - 2 months ago
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Well dude just stay a little bit mysterious do give too much - 2 months ago
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Don't ** - 2 months ago
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Yeah, I think I do, thanks for the advice. - 2 months ago
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