Confidence. Is low self esteem bad?

Yeah, low self esteem is bad. But at least you can admit it. Its more unnatractive when someone tries to hide it under a mask, a faked personality.There's no easy answer to this anywhere, but you can start building your s-e and overall confidence by imagining the negative thoughts draining from your mind and replacing them with positive ones. I do this when I feel nervous/panicky and it helps alot. The more long term solution is to give yourself reasons to feel proud of you. That's how a lot of ugly people are so successful, confident and full of life. They are hard-working and take care of their responsibilities, so they have every reason to have a good self-image. Hope this helps :)

Low self esteem is horrible. I could never fully commit myself to a woman like that. There would be a lack of trust, and being around her would bring my own morale down. I could never take the relationship seriously. I apologize if I'm harsh, but it would be a deal breaker for me.

Low Self Esteem is the worst thing on this planet. For men and women. Low self esteem is solely responsible for depression. When you live your life, you create your own reality. If you think that you are wonderful and everything around you is wonderful, life will be wonderful. When you hate yourself and think lowly of yourself, than the universe will think so too. Low self esteem will just create a negative feedback loop, every time you are down on something and anything bad happens it just further encourages negative behavior. When positive you look at something bad as "another mountain to conquer" instead of "another bad thing in my life". This definitely carries over to dealing with men. If you believe these comments are insincere than that will always be your reality. Whether the man is sincere or not, it doesn't matter, you've already made the decision, the outcome will always be 100% negative. You must believe you are the only thing in this world that matters, or you will never find a man who will.

Something that's stuck with me is the advice of radio personality Leykus about "dating," which he equates with "porking," which is this: look for the highest Looks / Self-Esteem ratio. Why the latter? Because she will put up with more, potentially, on his theory... and expect less.

Needless to say, from the woman's perspective--that's you--you don't want to be involved with the kind of men who are looking at your L/SE and don't want to go through life feeling down on yourself. So, yes, improving self esteem would be good.

Self esteem doesn't come from what others say about you (although that can have an effect). It comes from what you say about yourself, in your mind, in your heart, and as a little nagging reminder (or boost) whenever something goes wrong (or well). So, don't expect any guy to fix you; he can't. However, he can be a good person and a good partner, and you should make that a priority, looking at it objectively, when thinking of dating material.

Low self esteem isn't bad, but it can be detrimental in the sense that you may never let your guard down enough for when someone who is genuine. It's okay to be guarded, but there is a point where it becomes damaging to a relationship.

it is not bad to have low self esteem, but when you constantly complain about yourself and things that's when its bad.

yes you have to learn to love your self start buy looking in the mirror, and start liking what you see now I'm no good looking chick but take a look at my pick on my profile page but I will do this and play with it pull faces at your self and learn to like yourself better. now I will walk through the streets I might smile at a few you usually get a smile and/or hi back after time you will learn to do this naturally without feeling uncomfortable this will help boost your confidence. and then once this happens you will start to notice that men will start approaching you more. And when you go out with your friends don't be thinking oh will I pull oouhh what if I don't the point is your going out to have a good time with your friends and if you do pull well that's great but if not so what that's not what you went out for right :)