What do I do about a guy that loves staring at me all day long but isn't making a move?

There's an old expression that goes something like this:

"a liar's curse is that she cannot trust others, for she believes others to think the way she does, to be as dishonest as she. Thus, any act by an other, no matter how honest or sincere, is given a deeper meaning and hidden motive."

I think the expression better translates to:

"we like to believe that others think the same way we do"

When a guy is looking at someone, do you know what it means? Nothing. Well, it could mean a wide range of different things. Maybe the guy is wearing a nice item of clothing and he's wondering where he got it from. Maybe the girl has a certain look he wants to observe and suggest to his sister, friend, girlfriend. Maybe the girl is really ugly and he's noticing the features that compuse this quality they call ugly. Maybe the girl is just average and he's making note of her behavior. Maybe the girl is pretty and he's just appreciating her. Maybe the girl is smoking hot and he's being beyond just looking to actively staring. The point is, when a guy is looking at someone, be it a man or woman, it couple mean so many different things, so the fact that he's simply looking is inconclusive; it means nothing.

A man knows this. So when a girl is looking at him, or smiling at him, or doing anything she believes is an "obvious signal", it's completely meaningless to him. He has no reason to look any more deeply into it than what it is on its surface. All he can infer from a girl looking at him, is that a girl is just looking at him; because that's how "he" thinks when he's just looking at people.

On her end, she gets frustrated that he's not noticing her subtle "hints". What's one possible next step? Playing hard to get and giving off totally different signals?

Logic: If my credit cards are almost maxed out, the best way to reduce my balance is to charge even more on them!

Logic: If he's not noticing my subtle "hints", the best way to get him to realize I'm interested in him is to make my hints even more cryptic and subtle, give no hints at all, or even send off signals that I'm not noticing him or completely disinterested in him!

(those are both logical equivalents btw; and equally hilarious)

Truth be told, even if you walk up to your average guy and tell him "wow! I think you're gorgeous and so cute, I'm madly in love with you!" He'll smile but think "umm, was that a joke? is she making fun of me? am I on some hidden camera game show?"

I think the best way to "let him know he's at least on your radar" is to "TALK" to him. Talking to him let's him know that you're aware of him. After that point, WHAT you talk about, and more importantly, HOW you talk to him lets him understand what kind of "potential" you see in him (ie. friends-only, or more than just friends). Unless he's actively looking to have sex, no man would make a move on you without feeling some reassurance of your interest in him first.

You've done your part. Now wait for him to call you. If he doesn't call within the week or gives you an explanation why he didn't call, then he's not interested. Good luck.

maybe he is truly busy, I mean he is shy, maybe you should call him or talk to him ya know...we guys, we are stupid sometimes, especially when we are being shy. I have ruined many chances being like hime, but it would have been so much easier if she had made the moves.

i mean this is the 21st century ya know, so why does the guy still have to make the moves. women want equality, but a lot of times us nice guys are as shy as you girls

Well you've made your feelings known, so if he doesn't call, then at least you tried.

If he is the shy time, be more direct. I am sure he is wishing he knew how to ask you for his number. Walk up and say, "hey, does your phone have a camera?" If it does, tell him to take your picture, so it will POP up when you call... if he can't connect those dots, move on.

Good Luck,
James

Talk to him compliment him. He think your hot he likes to look at you. Let him know you like to look at him, think he's hot. This all sounds very lust based. Nothin wrong with that but keep it in mind. Maybe he has a girlfriend or another girl on his heart he's hoping for. Maybe he's too busy for a girlfriend. He's just using your body for a fantasy in his mind. Maybe he doesn't like your personality. Maybe he thinks he has no chance with you he can look but he can't touch. You need to let him know ur open and available so ask him a question about anything. That way he knows he won't get shot down. Many males have had a rejection or been made fun of by a very beautiful girl that left a deep scar, I would say all men have experienced that but some more than others

Move.

Ha ha I mean make a move for him or literally move so he can stare at something else.

probablly come off stronger as guys we can be completely clueless to these things.

I remember this game, its called Bust A Move.

Come off stronger, guys need to get it through our thick-ass skulls that you like us. Then if we can get the balls to ask you out. I know the other answer was good but stronger is better in my opinion. So if a girl is really getting it through my head. I'll ask her out the next day probably. (:

Well it doesn't look like playing hard to get will work, so why don't you ask him out?

Come on stronger. What may seem obvious and blatant to you is subtle to men. We don't notice... much. Just put it out there clear as day and see how he reacts.

Why not give him your phone number, and see if he calls? If he's interested but shy, he should definitely call if you give him the okay to do so.

Going out heavy drinking, that way there's no shame! Well that's my approach.

For something more respectable, sexual innuendo jokes to build sexual tension or slight hand touching.

Ask him out. Subtle isn't something MEN do - they need a NEON sign blinking on your forehead that reads "I like you boy!"

Ask him out, quit wondering - don't play hard to get that's such a bad move - men do not want to chase you - they don't like it for long periods of time. Do not ignore him. Be yourself - the one he became attracted to is the girl he wants - not the girl who starts acting odd around him.

Be comfortable and be normal and just say hey whatcha doing this weekend/plans? Then let the conversation go from there. He'll get the drift...

GL.

I don't neccessarily think he's playing games he said he was stressed from work maybe you should give him some time.

the ball was in his court. but since you seemed persistent he is going along with it anyway, but I don't know if he is that interested to be honest and not just doing it because he thinks you want him. I mean it shouldnt have taken him that much for him to notice you were interested ya know

Write your number down and hand it to him and walk off see what reactions you get if he will call or not or if he asks where you going.

Why don't YOU make a move? Go up to him and chat, get to know who he is and let him know who you are. Be friendly, but still play a little hard to get. Guys may say they don't like girls that are "difficult to get", but once they get them, they give them extra value cause it was hard to get.