The best thing you can possibly do is not play hard to get. You can be friends with him and be straightforward with him and tell him you like him.
I can't imagine a situation where many guys are going to tell you "oh this is a great way to tease us and lead us on, please do this". Guys hate that. Why did you think playing hard to get would be a good idea?
Here's the deal with guys. We are very simple. We don't like to play games, we don't like you to send signals. We want you to be upfront with us. If you're playing hard to get, we think you aren't interested and we will move on. So if you want a guy to like you, DON'T PLAY HARD TO GET.
Here's the thing, if playing hard to get is your main strategy, I don't think you will get very far. Sure, it does have some seductive qualities to it by making you appear to be an unattainable desire to pursue. However, I feel that this "hard to get" attitude doesn't work as well on men of quality in this day and age. When approaching and meeting new women, I often opt not waste my time with the ones who play hard to get, it takes up too much time and can often find women of equal physical and mental beauty with less effort.
However, if you intend to continue with this strategy - that of the "Coquette", then you must understand that you are always walking a fine line of offering hope followed by frustration. Essentially, you must continually bait him further and further along just enough to keep him coming back for more. Each time you bait him though, you will have to make the promise of reward stronger and stronger.
Now hopefully you aren't going to make this guy chase you forever, so eventually you'll want to deliver on the reward;)
Haha there's only one simple thing you need to do. Flirt and get him all happy one day, and the next don't really talk to him. Basically "flirt" and then "ignore", this will send so many mixed signals that the only thing that will be on his mind is caxc247 :)
not kidding hard to get is a hard game. if you play hard to get and make him think your not interested he will move on and you will never get to even kiss him.
my suggestion: playing hard to get is not a good idea. it makes guys worry, wonder, and sometimes they will take it the wrong way. chances are he's not going to think "omg, i want her soo badly" like you want him to think he's going to go "whats going on does she like me? is she not interested? i'm soo confused". he might just get fed up and stop liking you altogether.
honestly a girl was playing hard to get with me earlier in the week. i'm done with her. she made me worry like crazy if she liked me or not i spent an entire day where i couldn't concentrate on my work because of her so i'm just not going to bother with her anymore.
Yeah but the guy I'm tryin to do this for talks to a bunch of other girls and it seems like the more I act like I like him the less he likes me - 7 months ago
Yeah, honestly some guys seem to like it when guys act all aloof. I am in a similar situation - the more promptly I return his text messages the less he seems to like me. It's like if I ignore him a litle bit then he likes me more. I suppose then, sometimes I suppose it adds mystery cause then the guy really has to work at getting attention. Some guys, sometimes just like to chase & when they finally peg the girl down they don't want anything to do with her. It's so WEIRD. - 7 months ago
Honestly I don't think this is the best strategy, at least for your current age group. Guys at this age tend to be a little oblivious, at least from my experienced. Although, this is just a general opinion, so if you think it's the best way to go based on your circumstances, then by all means plow ahead.
The trick is not to make him think you're not interested, because a lot of the time, it will make HIM not interested. Drop hints that you like him, but then pull away. Flirt with him one day, then maybe spend the next only glancing at him from across the room. Smile at him when you guys pass each other, but don't say anything. Maybe drop him a compliment or two. But act independent, like you don't need him (even though you probably obsess about him secretly, I know the feeling). Basically, I think the best approach is to let him know that you're interested, but coax him into making the first move. Keep on him on his toes. Keep him guessing and wondering about that mystery woman he just can't figure out.
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