I met a really nice guy at university but was too shy and afraid to ask him out in person or ask for his number, he's really shy around me too and I'm not sure if he likes me. My friends reckon it's unlikely that he'll turn me down if I ask him out for a drink or something. It was my very last day of university today, I'm graduating, so apart from possibly seeing him at the exam and maybe one after-exams uni party, I may not see him ever again.
Is it weird/creepy to look him up on Facebook and add him..and maybe ask him out? (We have two mutual friends but they're not close friends). If it's acceptable to do that...how should I go about it? Start a casual conversation on his wall first or go straight to private messaging?
Guys, how would you feel if a girl did this to you? (Assume she's friendly, and sort of the girl-next-door type)
adding him to Facebook is perfectly fine I reckon, but just try talk to him about uni stuff at first on his wall and joke around a bit like you would with a normal friend and then that should lead to chat and finally meeting up etc. take it step by step really...
What's the best first 'date' sort of thing we should do if we do get to the meeting up stage? - 4 months ago
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Well ideally it should probably be not so much of a 'date' at first, but just a meet up at first and maybe a few mutual friends but not too many so both of you can get comfortable with each other without too much pressure since you said both of you are shy. Since you've already told your friend about this guy, then maybe include that friend as a support and those mutual friends for like a drink after exams or something. - 4 months ago
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Btw that's just my perspective anyway as I'm usually really shy as well and girls tend to need to make it real obvious to me before I get it (or not get it), and I reckon I would get it if someone go through the effort to try and meet up with me. There was once a girl who just randomly asked me for my number on the street as I was walking home from university, so nothing wrong with you asking for his number after the exam if you've already met him. - 4 months ago
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I mentioned that our mutual friends aren't close friends (more like acquaintances really) so we don't hang out with any of the same people... - 4 months ago
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Well then alternatively just add him and chat to him a bit, then ask him for his number when you see him at the exam and say that you'd much rather chat to him in person. Either way, there's really nothing to lose from the sound of things as you said you probably won't see him ever again. - 4 months ago
I have had this exactly thing happen to me before. I met a girl at a party and we hit it off really well. I would have asked her out but she had a boyfriend at the time. She broke up with him two weeks later than added me on Facebook and asked me out through a Facebook message. I was stoked when she did this and was more attracted to her for taking such an initiative.
Back when Facebook was only exclusive to College students it was cool to be that guy/girl who refused to use Facebook. Somehow this transcended into it being uncool or wussy to ask someone out on Facebook. I think this is bullsh*t, this is a new age and this kind of thing will be routine for our grandchildren.
So no it's not creepy or weird to ask someone out on Facebook. If you do not have their phone number than what other choice is there? If the person likes you they will be estatic. If they won't date you because you asked them through a social network than that is just retarded. I say go for it. I'd send a private message but make it a casual private message towards the lines of "we should hang out sometime".
Add him to Facebook, it doesn't really matter you don't know him that well and is perfectly normal.
I wouldn't ask him out via Facebook, plant something light and funny on his wall to bait and see what happens. Because of the time factor you may want to pm him a bit to speed things up.
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