How do you start conversations with girls at parties?

Like what tcheyenne53195 said, Pick Up lines used to be a turn-off because they are cheesy and now they just make me plain laugh my head off. Or be bold and go up to a girl and just comment on herhair, shoes or clothes. Don't be too perverted though. sometime its funny. mostly though, nooo. comment on their eyes and make them smile. if you can make them laugh, your halfway their. hha I like this pick-up line:

u: how much does a polar bear weigh?
her: I don't know...
u: enough to break the ice (Stick your hand out for a handshake and smile)

truthfully I like it when guys use pick up lines, or say something really nice and sweet ot make me blush. makes me want to get to no u, or talk to you.
find sumthing you can say to a girl that you no would make them smile
most girls like to hear about there eyes and smile
dont say there hot or sexy or bangin big turn of use gorgeous and pretty, beautiful.
anything to keep them intrested!(:

The easiest way is to always start with some corny joke. It not only break the ice but shows you've got a sense of humor.
and just show a ton of confidence, its what makes people feel at ease around you.

We're all just people! You're on the same level as everybody else! You're just talking to your peers, not going to a job interview! Just rellaaaxxxxxxx! Things will be so much easier if you just learn to relax and have fun instead of trying to force conversation

If you want to try to start an intresting conversation with a girl you like or just a girl in general, then the best thing to do is just start by saying hi or hello, then once she replys start asking how she is and that then she will probaly reply with good thanks you? or something like that. then the best thing to do after that is to just talk about each other, and get to know each other abit better I think anyway, then towards the end of the conversation and you like her then ask if you can contact her again and just go from there. Good Luck.

i've noticed that the most popular way a guy will start a conversation is by pointing something out. like the music or any aspect of the party that the girl can relate to. I think it's a friendly way of starting something and I usually always respond without being creeped out

. because if you go in with a compliment or a line, some girls might think you're hitting on them and not give you the time.

If you're at a party you can just join in the conversation of any random group of people. It's supposed to be a relaxed atmosphere so just try not to worry about it too much. All these pre-planned conversation starters are often a bad idea because you'll be thinking about saying your line(s) right instead of just talking to her like a normal conversation. Also, pick-up lines are a definite no-no. They're so stupid and make you look sleazy.

Just be yourself, be confident and act normally.

Don't think to hard about saying something "cool" or "flirty" because it may come across like you're trying to hard!

Just speak to girls normally lkw you would talk to a friend. You don't need to flirt or use chat up lines that usually comes accross as sleezy.
Just ask them how they are and about interests and stuff like that

By not worrying if you sound awkward! I would actually avoid trying to sound cool or flirty, because a lot of girls will think you're spinning them a line. Most initial conversations are awkward. The way to get through the initial awkwardness is not to care. That is what being confident is about.

I have to meet a lot of people in my job and the way I do it is start off with a handshake and introduction, "hi, I don't think we've met. I'm ..."

After that, it might help you to think of some questions to ask people. If you practice them, they'll come more and more easily. The secret is to ask questions that the other person can respond to. That way, the focus is off you. Once you are exchanging questions, then voila! You are having a conversation. Don't even worry about your questions being cool. The point of meeting someone is to get to know them. So of course your questions will be boring at first (like, "how do you know xxx" (the guy who is holding the party)). But you'll reach a point where someone says something where you can go off-script (like, "oh, you're from New York? So am I...").

Hope this helps. Good luck!

Be yourself and the whole world unfolds.

tell them...I can do keg stands!

Have a couple of beers to loosen you up. I know a lot of people think this is a stupid idead but that's because when they did it that drank to much and made a ass of them selves.Alchole is a social lubricant use it. Drink just enough to make you relexed as you keep saying you have deep social anxiety we need to take more direct action. remember there is a fine line between enough liquid courage and too much.

I like to go over and pretend I'm looking for someone, you walk over to her, look around over your shoulder as you go over and say, have you seen my friend? he's such and such (just make up a description) its better to make it up as its likely she'll say no. then you just have to say thanks anyway, then say I'm (then your name) by the way and try start a conversation from there. Hope it helps somewhat :P

"cool or flirty to say"

That's a mistake right there. Females aren't some alien life form that needs 6years of experimental learning to converse with. Try the following.

It's Bill's party.
1: "Hi I'm Frank. I know Bill from school. How do you know him?"
2: "I hope Bill's going to be okay in the morning, that's his 8th beer"
3: Bill: Aiice this is Frank, Frank, Alice. Don't think you two have met yet. Frank's doing astro physics at the same university you go to Alice.
4: "Thank god it's holidays! Got any plans?"
... and so on.

The key is to be polite, sincere, and (if you can) ask a open question. (IE, a question that can't be answered with 'yes/no/true/false/blue/6:30pm"). People tend to like, and feel comfortable, talking about themselves (both genders).

Things like "Your father is a thief he stole all the stars and put them in your eyes" may work for 14year olds, but I doubt they do anything except get you laughed at from that point on.

if it's a holloween party then say this "what are you suppose to be :)" when she asked you back told her a funny character like "i'm bruce lee can you tell..?i got two chopstick in my pockets wanna see? " lol and they will crack up thrust me it happend to me cause I'm asian without a costume so I had to say that lol
hint: never plan what you going to say just go with the flow and be happy :)
Hint: you don't need to be too tipsy because it will make you look like an idiot :) they won't take you seriously lol
If you at a regular party: then say are you having fun? then introduce yourself and your buddies to her.. and also talk to other guys too.
Hint: it's always good to bring some guys friends with you but its even better if you bring a cute female friend with you.. because at the party a bunch of guys kept asking me is she your gf? and other girls wonder who is this guy "does he even have a gf?" lol I told them she just a friend and her name is this and that ...and what's your name? and my name is this and that
it's easy and simple :) try it you can do it

wow dude in a party is the easiest sh*t
go up and say hi and just talk about anything (ask her what she is studying or with who she came to the party with or what is she drinking is it good blah blah blah )
and anywehre else just find one thing you can talk about but don't pick something about herself like don't be like nice eyes just ask questions about the situation one thing girls love talking about themselves so yeah one thing will make her go off forever

Say something that shows her how much you dig her chili. Eg: "Hey, my mom has that same dress". Or: " Mind if I hang out here until its safe back where I farted" ..."havent I saw you on the bus?"..."want to see a trick I learned in prision"...

It's not easy, but it is kinda a practice thing. I can tell you from experience that (and its on-going) the more I do that kinda stuff the more comfortable I feel with it. Practice in the mirror at home when you are alone. What I tend to do is start with the obvious. Observe what she's wearing. She might be wearing a necklace with a blue pendant on it. Say something that has to do with how much you like blue, or that you have a friend that has a blue car, or that it's your birthstone (if it really is) etc. It really only take one topic and like a minute for it to become appropriate to say "I'm Jon, and you are". Then you start with simple life questions. What do you do for work. Try to talk about her because it's an easy line to go over as far as seeming selfish. I have learned that girls just want to not feel pressured, they wanna go with the flow. That's why they say smoothness works. Anything else leaves a girl feeling rushed, and pressured. As much as it sucks to say, even as a pretty good looking guy, a girl can find a guy easier than vise verse.

If I am attracted to a girl and want an ice breaker, I will say "ok, so how big is your boyfriend?" If she says "pretty big", you know she isn't interested. If she says she does not have one, it time to flirt your ass off.

Good Luck,
James

Hey mate, good question! I was trying to figure that out, I realized something that may not seem obvious but works well.

You need to be the fun guy at the party. Not the guy who is 'too cool for skool'. I found these dating conversation tips pretty helpful link There was a load of information but basically I realized reading them that all you need to be is the fun guy at the party.

Hope this helps mate

I usually say...

"Hi, I'm Tad. What's your name?"

Then just talk about mundane things on your mind. But most important, be yourself.

Keep it simple but interesting like...

"I feel like a shy little girl (guy) when I do this...but HI, my name is..."

It's not what you say, it's how you say it

if you see a girl who happens to know one of ur friends and you see her talking to him/her just join in on the convo...thats the best way...really...if you go up to her when she's alone...shell automatically think: "hitting on"

Hi, my name is...

At a party I look around and if I see something I know, I walk up to it and if the person next to it seem interested I start there then ask their name and how they knew about the party, and introduce myself and so forth

You picked the Holy Grail of questions. Many books have been written on the subject of how to pick up girls, how to talk to women, etc. You could buy those books, pile them up and light a match to them That's how viable they are.

Women LOVE CONFIDENT men! Women LOVE CONFIDENT men. Doesn't matter how tall or short you are, fat or thin, young or old, it all works the same. If YOU are confident, women will be attracted to you.

And forget about "pick-up" lines. They are over-used and insincere. Just making an honest complement about her hair, her eyes, her laugh, her smile. DO NOT make any comment with sexual undertones. Don't comment on her figure or weight. You'll back yourself into a corner so fast, you'll never recover enough to date that lady. Stick with hair, eyes, laugh and mouth (smile). These are guaranteed ice-breakers.

Oh yeah, you don't need to be cool. Confidence IS cool to females. Confidence takes some practice, but believe me NOTHING works better. I am very confident, and women pick up on that. For that reason, I have been able to date some of the most beautiful women you'd ever laid eyes on, from girls next door, to Playboy bunnies, to models, and many in between.

I read it in some pick up book (lol...) but it actually works,
The best way to start a conver is through asking opinion.. and actually going on from there... like hey guys, wot do you think of guys in pink shirts...lol. HAve a little conversation, and tell her how you and your friends were debating..
Then quickly move on to how do you they know each other, how you know the party organiser
If she is from out of town, build from there,
If she is from same town, how come you've never seen her, tease her that she doesn't get out much, Plus don't do anything that may convey you're hitting on her..

Then continue talking about interest, Then I have to get back to my friends, Or intruduce her to your friends..

But the ONLY way to improve your conversations at parties is to PRACTISE, PRACTISE, PRACTISE...
You need to go out more and get into these situations.
The first few times will DEF be awkward, but after that, you'll get used to it.

First practise on girls you are not interested in, just normal conver, about what ever, just like how you would start convs with other guys..

ANother thing, hang out with a guy who knows how to start conversations, that person will introduce you to other people, as you know those people you introduce them to your other friends, etc...

Dude, I tried to start a conversation once when I was really drunk. Big mistake, all I remember was that the group of girls just started laughing and turned away. So make sure you aren't too drunk to make sense. Nothing is a bigger turn-off than an alcoholic.

<------Is an alcoholic.

Hi, I don't think we met yet! I'm _____.

At parties: Depending on how sober the girl is, you can use corny pick up lines and it will just make them laugh.. if you know its corny, then she'll think its funny.. but only if the girl isn't sober.. Some girls think corny lines are funny no matter what.. but the key is for you to be sober.. don't go up to a girl when your all messed up from drinking.. you'd just be embarrassing yourself..

Anywhere else not involving alcohol: Like at a bus stop, ask where she's headed and then tell her where your headed.. Tell her a little about what your doing that day or why your headed where you're headed..but keep it short.. and then ask her a question about her.. and just listen. Listen as much as possible and pay attention!.. Ok that's the bus stop so what about in front of class?

An example: I went to my first day of class and this really amazing looking girl was sitting in front of the room with her ipod on listening to music.. Now, there is nothing harder than trying to approach a girl who is listening to music because she can't hear you right away. So, I sat a few feet away from her and said "hey are you in this class".. she didn't hear me but she saw me and took off her earphones and said "what" .. so I was nervous but I said.. "are you in this class".. she said.. "yea" .. and I said "oh cool me too" and I drew a blank so I noticed the book in her lap and talked about the book.. and from there, we talked about the teachers who teach the subject of her book and then we talked about the teachers of that college in general.. and the rest just flowed smoothly. And this is exactly how I asked her number.. before entering the classroom.. "hey what's your number".. that's it.. it worked and it always works Unless the girl is just not into you or just in a bad mood.. then, your just out of luck..

- I'm assuming the next step is getting her number.. When you are about to part, go you separate ways, just ask her straight up.. don't play around at all.. don't do anything cheezy at this point.. the only thing you say is "hey what's your number?".. that's it.. you don't have to show any awkward emotion or hesitation.. ask that question like you would ask any other question..

Just like Annette83 said, the only way to get past the awkwardness is to ignore it. Awkwardness is expected.. so see it coming and let it pass.. move on to the next question.

If your at a party say where's the liqueur or how do you know whoever (only ask nicer than that) and build from there.

You can also just have a look for a group conversation and join in.