So I am very outgoing... talk to just about anyone and everyone. But when it comes to talking to a girl I'm interested in its almost always on her to initiate that part. I mean I like when a girl is forward and aggressive but I know that not all girls are like that and I have probably missed a lot of opportunities to make connections because I can never find a way to get the courage to put myself out there. There are girls in my classes all the time that I talk to and think are really cool and attractive. But I honestly have no idea how to go from classmates to hanging out. I know the whole we should study together and corny stuff like that... but still at some point I have to get my point across. I don't know how many guys put girls they are interested in into the "friend zone" but I definitely do it far too often.
Honestly, I would just say to be yourself. Keep a smile on your face, light and friendly, you don't want to come on too strong at first - but hey some girls like that. I can't speak for all girls, but for me personally a sense of humor in the classroom is always nice, plus you look like a cute guy. :) good luck!
That's my problem though... I get to that point and I don't know how to come on too strong, too subtle.... pretty much at all. - 23 days ago
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For these girls in your class, maybe you could invite them out with your group of friends to something innocent and fun. That way they don't feel intimidated, and they get to know you. Chances are they'll be talking to you most of the time, as they know you from class. If they like you, it'll progress from there. - 23 days ago
if you want a specific example, I know a lot of guys that I hardly even talk to in class will end up catching me after class and sort of walk out in my direction. if you can get yourself to casually walk out of the room with her and start a conversation by making fun of a professor or just asking about what her next class is, or her major, anything! I think that'd a great start. you can make the whole walking out of class together and to the next class sort of a habit, and after a few times, I think it'd be completely appropriate to ask her to grab a bite to eat after class or get some coffee on campus or something. from there, you can get her number and initiate a hang out... good luck!
I think asking someone out for coffee is a good idea because it's very low-key. You can just ask casually and then even if she turns you down, no harm is done because it's not like you asked for her hand in marriage.
I know how you feel.. I hate it that so many girls out there think they are entitled to wait around and have the guys make the first moves on them..
If it's a first approach to get to know them.. Just do it. Don't wait around for them to do it, because in most cases they won't.. Because they feel "entitled" that guys have to make the move first. Really.. If you don't make the first move.. It's a lose-lose situation in most cases unfortunately.
So just do it.. Do it for team..
Once you get to know her.. If initiating contact with her becomes completely one sided.. You might have to stop and rethink if she likes you in the first place.. And you might possibly have to wait for her to make the move, or move on.
Before I start this, I am going to point out that it is not my intent to offend anyone. However, this article is being written in a satirical manner with and over dramatization of things and playing...
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