How do I deal with being in love with my best guy friend?

He's definitely interested in you but he's scared that something will happen and he'll lose you as a friend. Tell him how you feel, make him feel secure in knowing this is the right choice. Also, make sure he understands that if you move on, that'll be it. Once you get another boyfriend he may be jealous but they're'll be nothing he can do if you give him the opportunity. Really reach out to him is the best way to put it.

hes probly telling the truth or he's afraid of intimacy and is lying . I am guessing he really likes you as a friend, but he's behavior is more boyfriend like. but if you have known him for awhile -very long he knows you so well he may see you more as a sister than a girl...because there's no mystery there he knows everything about you and that makes attract less likely for a dude. some guys do treat their female friends like this and are just cuddly touchy feely. my advice if you want him to like you more than a friend start showing interest in another guy and pretend you like another guy even if you dont...ask matt advice on how to get this guy you like(even though you dont) if he really likes you more than a friend hell get jealous and will start showing romantic interest in u. if he really does not care you like another guy at all, then he really does like you just as a friend

If he is worried about loosing you, then he should step up and be your boyfriend. What makes him think your NEXT boyfriend is going to allow you to have him as such a close friend.

He may loose you either way, he may as well go for it and enjoy wherever it leads.

Good Luck,
James

stop being a wimp and make a move, what law says that you HAVE to be "just friends" anyway?

Hmm, I wish I had time to give a fully elaborated answer on this. I'll post what I can now and will add some stuff later.

The situation sounds very confusing. I'd normally say that maybe you're blowing signs out of proportion because you like him, but you're not. Holding you during scary movies, playing with your hands, legs and feet - those seem to be clear signs that he likes you.

Now, I rarely say this about guys, but I do believe there's a strong chance of him being sincere about not wanting to lose you. He might have a lot of issues with himself and just not be ready for a relationship at the moment. If all he can give right now is a short, tumultuous relationship, he's not going to want to lose you in an ugly breakup. He might feel he needs to concentrate on himself or that he needs to experience some more casual flings before getting all serious. Or any number of things.

I assume you've already told him that he's not going to lose you as a friend. If you haven't - do so and be sincere about it. I had a very similar situation with my best (female) friend many years back. Our talk, during one of those intimate moments, convinced me that I wasn't going to lose her and made me decide to go for it and we were together for over two-and-a-half years and lived together half that time. We're still great friends today.

If that doesn't work, though, you won't convince him. This is where you should value your self-respect and show him (not tell him) that he can't have it both ways. Make yourself a little scarcer and genuinely start looking around for other options - not in a spiteful way, but in a sincere way. Odds are this will make him realize that he misses your proximity and will work to win you over.

Now for the cliche-parts: If he doesn't realize this, he doesn't deserve to be with you and you'll be well on your way to greener pastures. And you'll never know what happens later down the road. Keep being yourself and expressing your feelings honestly and all will be well :).

It he really cared about you as a friend, knowing you like him, he wouldn't act cuddly/boyfriendy with you because it just confuses and gives you more romantic notions towards him, leads you on...

He's not that great a guy in my opinion. If he was, he'd keep his hands off you.

say something about how you feel!
maybe get someone to ask or drop hints if he likes you?
this happened to me with my bestest guy friend and next month it will be 2 years us going out.
going out with your best guy friend is great!
goodluck !

trust me, been there done this.
i was totally in love with my best guy friend.
but we knew we so did not want to risk are friendship,
now two years later we are still best friends and I still
have a thang for him.
if you want it to work you have to make it work.
take advantage of every oppruntity to be with him.
eventually your going to have to talk to him about you loving him.

Well, back in the day, we typically didn't have guy friends. If we did, they would clearly be some family friend or person that we would never, ever consider for a boyfriend and vice versa. I see a lot of posts about inter-sex friendships now and I see it causes endless confusion and the friendships are really just thinly disguised budding romances to one person or the other.

So, there you have it, this guy probably would be interested in you for more but he recognizes the risk involved. Once you move past friendship, you can never go back. There is no just forgetting it all and becoming friends again. The new history you would have with each other from even one date would be enough to create awkwardness. He doesn't want to risk that. You should consider that as well. Keep in mind a lot of people you date never turn into boyfriends. Even if they do, relationships turn sour as well. Do you really want to risk the friendship for the gamble of something else?