Why does shyness have to hurt a guy's chances so much?

we do like shy guys, but the shy guy that approached us! that tries to get our attention, its cute, be shy but make moves! otherwise you are just a cute shy guy over there. half the girls will not make a move on a guy, good looking or not. so, even if you are shy you will get nowhere if you just sit there and say I am shy.

There is nothing wrong with being shy. There is a difference between nervousness and doing nothing. Sometimes a shy guy won't ever approach a girl. How do you expect to get a girls attention if you just stand there and say "Hi.". There are times when you need to suck it, go up to a girl, and possibly start small conversation. Soon you'll be comfortable enough around a girl and you can take things further! ... I love shy guys!

Being shy hurts a girl's chances too. Shy people tend to hide their feelings for others, so they don't show that they're interested, and most people won't approach someone if they don't think that person is interested. And if you keep to yourself and don't show your personality, how is someone supposed to figure out whether or not they like you? They can judge you on appearance and make assumptions about your personality, but that's a lot of guessing--they might be totally wrong for you in the end. Honestly, it's easier to be with someone who's not shy. They're more likely to be noticed than someone who's shy, and they're more open about their feelings.

If you're looking for girls who will cater to your shyness, it will probably be a long wait. You're better off working on your confidence instead.

Well maybe she might take the shyness into you just not liking her so then girls normally give up, girls love shy guys but they love then even more when they know that they guy do like them.

It's about getting noticed, not getting judged because you are shy. The problem is that the outgoing guys often beat out the shy guys because the girls notice the guys who are outgoing. Also, sometimes it is hard to tell if a shy guy is attracted to a girl. A lot of girls lack confidence in themselves and are therefore likely to interpret shyness as dislike.

You probably need to get out and meet girls. If the bar scene seems too crazy, maybe you should try joining a club (salsa dancing, maybe) where the atmosphere is more relaxed. Try to approach girls and introduce yourself, then ask them about themselves. That way, the focus is not on you. Good luck!

I agree with cekendria most girls don't like to persue guys because it gets them nowhere and I know from experience they like to pretend they don't like me once I bring up the flirtyness or whatever to them so I just leave it alone but just gain some confidence and be sure of yourself I like shy guys but sometimes you can be so shy that it makes the other person think you don't like them

Well she won't approach a man so you have to find it deep down to approach a girl you want most girls say they like a shy guy but can't find one because they somewhat hide out from others but don't take this the wrong way get some balls and you go out and find you a nice girl to be with.

Because most of the GOOD women are being taken by the guys that have the balls to go up and talk to her, and ask her out.

Shyness is something you must get out of, or you'll be just crippling yourself socially.