Ladies: Do you tend to get more interested when a guy compliments you or when he doesn't?

Most women I know have excellent bullsh*t detection skills. A guy who is giving compliments to get into a woman's pants is usually pretty obvious, no matter how suave he thinks he is being. Or he comes across as trying too hard, and then the question is, why does he need to try so hard? So I have always been turned off guys who over-compliment because they seem phony/ not that sophisticated. Also, I feel like I can't trust them because it is hard to know whether the compliment is genuine.

The key to compliment-giving is subtlety. If a guy is talking to me and is showing an interest in what I'm saying by asking questions, I like it if he offers a subtle compliment on something I have said. For example, we are talking about bike routes and I say I have biked a particular route. Then he goes, "that is pretty impressive". Then we keep talking and he doesn't offer the same compliment to everything I say.

Conversation is best. If a guy shows an interest in what I have to say and seems to be having fun, I am more likely to be interested in him than if he offers a bunch of phony compliments.

Girls need a little moderation. Otherwise you come off as a player or a guy not interested.

ACTUAL CONVERSATION. It makes them think more because through conversation, the girl learns a lot more about you. Girls are very cautious with relationships, so they want to know a lot about you before they give out their number or go out with you. It's not like it is in TV shows!

we tend to like to start a conversation
if you start with a compliment
to a girl that basically means you want a fumble in the park
so start with a conversation then compliment

No compliments would be way more interesting

i think its really sweet if a guy compliments you cause then it shows he pays attention, but if you compliment some one too much then it makes it seem like ur trying to hard and it gets kinda annoying.

i think a little bit of both..a conversation is good but a few compliments here and there is great

At all times try to engage in an actual conversation this helps along with a pretty good compliment. later you could just simply say could I have your number so we could probly catch up some other time have lunch or something...well you get the route..I don't think girls will just give their numbers out to strangers so ofcourse actual convo with a good compliment is a good way to start

conversation. we want to know what makes you tick. complimenting over and over will make you seem like a sleezeball, which you obviously aren't if you're asking this.

just chat her up, make her laugh, talk about a funny thing that happens to you all the time etc. Never be too shy to give out your number. that's one fatal flaw that some men and women have.

Well, acctually, if you engage us in conversation, and, say, you make us laugh, you can say "you have a great laugh", or "You have a beautiful smile" just subtle little compliments are the perfect way to hook a girl. just be sure you don't give out too many, and you get a good conversation going first.

compliments make me feel really good and like I want him to hold me
but too many is weird... for example:
boy: Hey, I like your dress. It's really pretty.
girll: Awwww, thanks! That's soooo sweet!
boy: I like your shoes too.
girl: Haha, thanks.
boy: And your eyes.
girl: Ohhhkay.
boy: and the way you smell.
girl: bye.
lol I'm so random. but yeah.

some compliments and an actual conversation

If we are talking and the chemistry is good and he is not complimenting me I will start to get confused and a little bit put-off. I probably would not like it. However, if a man just bombards me with compliments before we even engage in conversation I will also be put-off. It has to be done at the right time. You can generally feel it when it's the right time... the two of you are putting your guards down a little bit (having forgotten about them amidst the banter)... =)

i tend to go with a guy who's nice and he has a few compliments. if he over kills it and says all good stuff all the time, that might make me sick of compliments and it seems ungenuine. I've met a guy who was like that-he liked my hair, my work, my personality, my voice and everything apparently in the first 10 minutes of conversation-that's an example of complete butchering of the idea of "complimenting" but if you're sincere about it as a guy, it goes a long way and might make me smile and remember you. other than that, hmmm, it depends on the sincerity, duration and how he delivers that compliment

I'm more interested in a man who doesn't compliment me. If they do, my first guess is "he wants to get laid & that's it". I prefer being engaged in actual conversation, a bit of witty banter, and I guess smiling and a bit of physical flirtation (hand on the arm, genuine smile, etc).

well I tend 2 go more with a guy that tells me compliments...

compliments are nice things to do but if you keep saying the same things over and over again in a short time , it gets annoying to me everything isn't about compliments because every guy can flirt, most important thing is to act like your different then other guys out there and that's pretty much been emotional, understanding, mature, sweet, easy going but don't ask desperate because that will be such a turn off too for a girl act like yourself but at da same time act bit , hard to get as well because if you give yourself too much then the girl won't think about you as much, well that's at the meeting up level, so like what I am trying to say don't be desperate , leave some questions in her mind so she can think about you, if you give too much as in send emails all the time get her number send sms all the time she is gonna get sick of it , do not do that at the start because 1 she is not full on intersted in you and 2 she is not your girl yet

yes yes yes yes ! I love when a guy compliments me. I think it makes girl feel liked and pretty, ha. but I don't know if all girls think that, I mean some might think your just sucking up. I would just be careful what you say.

I'm a big YES on compliments, but only if they're genuine and don't make me feel like you're trying to flatter your way into bed with me. I think maybe once or twice a day is a reasonable amount if we spend a lot of time together. Less often if we don't know each other that well.

For me, the best thing you can do is pay attention. If I'm wearing a new skirt and you notice and say something nice, I'm gonna be really happy with you. :-)

As far as how sexual, there's a balance. It's flirting: You wanna push the envelope a little without going too far. And pay attention to how I respond to guide how far you go next time. Some girls hate things like "you're hot," but I think it can work in a bar or a club if you've been flirting.

I don't usually like if some guy comes off the street and compliments me. Sometimes it works, but it usually just feels kinda uncomfortable.

depends on the compliment.
I hate HATE, you're hot. you're shirt is sexy, anything sexual is sort of annoying, like you just want in our pants. If it's something interesting, we tend to pay more attention. If you said wow you have really interesting colored eyes, a girl would remember that for a while. Compliments are good, just don't over do it. If you're a compliment factory it gets old quick.
If you want to do even better, make a girl laugh. If she is comfortable around you, you won't need lots of compliments, don't be the creepy guy who instantly starts in on how beautiful they are. Yyyuuck! Maybe offer her YOUR number, that might work too, all the women I know don't give numbers.

A mixture, too many compliments and he comes off looking like a player. I would much rather have an intellectual conversation than have the conversation about me.

A conversation doesn't define friendship or dating. A compliment does. Every girl loves a good conversationalist. But that doesn't let her know what your intentions are. A compliment lets her know you are interested and there's dating potential.

A genuine compliment can go a long way. Adding a real conversation to the mix can only increase your chances of success.

Compliments can come off disingenuous if its too often, one every now and then is definitely flattering. Personally I don't want it to be said too often or it comes across as fawning or in awe, that makes me think he'll say anything to get some action. If he engages in conversation, that's a turn on, for me its a mark that he's got an interest in you other than looks, wants to know what your all about and displays what he's all about- this is where I can gage his sense of humour and his intelligence.

I have a few friends, one guy friend in particular, who compliment me every now and then - for little accomplishments, for improving myself, for doing something to better myself or my life. Being a single adult can be lonely at times, and it's nice to share little triumphs with people who you know are in your corner.

I tend to get down on myself far too often, and having someone I like and respect remind me of my good characteristics really endears me to them. It's a two-way street though; I encourage and praise my friends as well.

I think genuine compliments from a guy who knows me well increase interest, absolutely. But for me, compliments from a stranger at the bar (regardless how hot he is) make me wary. What's he after? I would prefer a new person to engage my mind; see if we connect intellectually before putting the moves on me. I prefer substance over compliments, but they are irresistible when combined.

I'm sorry maybe I'm missing something but...who doesn't like getting compliments once in awhile? You should certainly be sincere about it, if you actually have interest in her! I can spot a fake compliment a mile away and that most certainly always hurts your odds at getting the digits!

an actual conversation is always nice. shows that you're actually interested in us, NOT our bodies.

one or two compliments are fine because that's why you're talking to me in the first place at first you're attracted to how I like so make that known, but please stop at one or two or I start thinking you're a creep that thinks I'm just like all the other girls and you're only after one thing...or you're just way to eager and/or weak...so I say give her one or two nice compliments like one big one "you're beautiful" and one little one about her personality like" you're funny or smart" something like that and then have a real conversation with her that's more of a complement than anything else

I don't really like compliments, I mean, its nice in a way, but it can also feel very artificial and can make me feel a little self concious...it also irritates me when I feel like the guy is just saying I look good or whatever it in order to get my number...I much prefer guys who just try to talk to girls as of the girls are normal humans form the same planet X-D xxxxxx

No compliment keeps me way more interested.
BUT! If I start fishing for a compliment ("OMG I can't stand the way I look today...") and he STILL gives me nothing, then I get turned off.

Defiantly a real conversation. I actually get rather uncomfortable if a guy gives too many compliments.

I will be more prone to give him my phone number if he tries to engage in a natural conversation. I prefer a guy who seems naturally interested in me. Sometimes when a guy gives a girl compliments on her looks, it just seems like a lore for her phone number. We perceive it as he is trying to score or get an ego boost. I used to see this all the time at bars and clubs. It was a big turn off.

i prefer no compliments until we've gotten to know each other. but mostly, if the girl likes a guy, it doesn't matter if he compliments or not, it won't change how much she likes him.

a guy who gives compliments in order to get something is transparent.

This is an EXCELLENT question. I am willing to bet that the answer is largely no. Women do not respond well to direct compliments at all infact they view them as signs that the guy is either desperate (which is so annoying when the job to pursue is the guys and it's hard to keep that fine line between over and under pursuit). They like indirect almost coded compliments. It's like a scam if they don't feel they had to be smart enough to read the subtext of the compliment it is a fake compliment. Yea I know.