Word of advice to girls who flirt with shy guys but aren't actually interested.

Okay I can totally see where you are coming from, but I think you need to take into consideration that some people tend to have flirty personalities. Girls that flirt with everyone in the room, its not because they find everyone in the room attractive, it just happens to be part of their personality and how they communicate. If she showed signs of interest such as getting to know you or asking to hang out and then pulled that I can understand why you would be p*ssed, but if it was just flirting it sounds like it may have just been a misunderstanding.

We have all had some bad in our past, what does not kill us makes us stronger, ok flirting there is not actually anything wrong with flirting you tell us not to do it with shy guy's cos you get the wrong idea it's just as hard for us because a lot of already taken men flirt with you which we don't know in less there waring a ring, it's like us saying taken men should not flirt with us, but you know that's not going to stop right.

As for telling the difference on weather she is just flirting with you or like's you just look around see how the girl talks and flirts with every one notice there is one guy she will treat a bit different to the rest, that guy is the guy she likes. hope this helps :)

I mean, some girls flirt because they find it fun. I've been known to do that, it's not a crime.. but I can see what you mean, if you're flirting with a really shy guy, she should realize that she's probably putting ideas in your head that she likes you or that she's interested when in reality she's just flirting.. nothing more, nothing less. I wouldn't sweat it, I mean if you're embarrassed that you found it out the hard way. There's nothing wrong with you asking her or asking her out because she was flirting, you thought she was interested and now you know. But don't critisize her for flirting, maybe that's her personality.. if she does it to everyone then you're going to be a target, too.

she's insecure, probably been treated nastily by some arse and is now looking for validation were she knows she will get it.

It's pathetic but a very common theme, she even may like having to "let you down gently"... "Aww poor boy, he's crazy about me"

She may grow out of it, or she may get worse. But what you do know, she ain't no friend of yours!

It's purely a self-esteem boost. She's probably just gotten out of a bad relationship or been put down by a guy, so now she's targeting you because she knows she can get you interested in her. Then she boosts her self-esteem because she's proven that guys still like her and she gains a feeling of satisfaction from the power of letting you down.

Because she is a woman, and she is trying to boost her own ego. Why are you so shy and how bad can your past have been, did you have a bad break up or something, cause if you did, guess what most people have had bad break ups, I know I have so what's the deal?