She is a really really great person (not to mention absolutely beautiful) from what I attained through our few conversations, but I can't get a clear signal from her. I've been interested for a couple months now and probably moved too slow by all means in trying to pursue her. There are times when I think she doesn't give a damn who I am and wants me to go away (i. E. Not answering the phone or calling me back; I've only called a few times and that was last month. And then there are times when I am talking to her that I may be getting somewhere. As far as picking up on signs of interest I am clueless, but I am too quick to jump to the idea of being rejected.
It's been a long while since I had a real girlfriend, and for the most part is was never a priority and I have been ok with it, but now I'm kinda wanting a companion to do things with other than just a friend. I am not one to need people or constant company of groups, I prefer to be the one called upon. Bottom line its extremely difficult for me to get a girl. I'm a really nice/great guy and pretty darn good looking if I must say, but somehow I intimidate girls whenever I show any interest in them and they push away or so it seems. But when I have no interest in a girl they are the ones that go after me. Some are very pretty but shallow, but for the most part and I am not trying to mean or anything, a lot of them a great people but that only goes so far, if you catch my drift. For some reason I have very strict/high standards that's mixes personality/morals/looks and its very hard to find someone who fits within the parameters of those standards. Especially since personality/morals ever really mix with looks. The person I am tells girls that here is guy who would be a serious long-term relationship/husband type and that's not what I'm looking for at all (I don't foresee being married for a long time), but I am not looking for a spring/summer fling type thing either (one night stands are out). I believe that whatever happens, happens. How do I show her this? Should I just come out and be straight with her? I have no problem being blunt, outright or honest and telling her how I feel. After all, that's how I met her and got her to meet with me in the first place. Or should I just give up on her, she does leave back home for the summer in a few weeks but I was hoping to maybe ignite a flame that could have a chance to carry on till she comes back. I'm done with shallow and pretty girls. God knows there is plenty of them here. I want a real relationship. If you got some advice I would more than appreciate it. I'm getting very discouraged here, this has not been the first time girls have left me hanging or let me down.
Next time you're talking to her, when it's appropriate, look into her eyes, smile, and tell her she's an amazing girl or something to that effect. That should get her thinking.
I think I tend to send mixed signals at times too. Not that I mean to, but because sometimes you just don't want to come across as obvious and forward...we're pretty terrified of messing up too.
Also definitely try to work something out before she goes away for summer, cos I've been through something similar and we just ended up back at square one after I'd been away for awhile.
So my suggestion would be, let her know how amazing you think she is, that you love hanging out with her, and take it from there.
Hey, I think you're honesty and openness are great. I can't claim to know what this girl is thinking or feeling. But it sounds like you need to put yourself out there and let her know how interested you are. As odd as it sounds, flat out rejection is better than never being sure. If she isn't interested, let it go, and move on. I'm not saying find another girl to pursue. But if things don't pan out the way you want, be strong and wait for a girl who lets you know how she feels. You sound like a great guy, and there is a great woman out there somewhere for you. Whether it's this one or not, I can't say. But let her know what you're feeling and thinking, and take it from there. Good luck :)
If she's a great person and she's beautiful, why would you want to pass up the opportunity to be more to her than just a friend? Girls can sometimes send mixed signals, I have to admit, I do it a lot, and usually to guys I really like.
I'm in a similar situation right now, and after "crushing" (ha) on the same guy for a few months, I realized that if I want him I can't just wait around until he realizes he wants me too. I recommend that you pick up the pace - ask her to hang out with you more. If she makes excuses (like "uhh I think I might be busy that night" or "sorry, thursday nights are my grocery shopping nights") then she's not that into you.
If she's single and you're relatively good looking, respectful, and make her feel comfortable even if she doesn't fall head over heels for you right away you might have a way of growing on her. If you've had "conversations" with her chances are she likes you too. Seriously, go for it. Don't profess your love right away (creepy! ) but make it clear that you want to hang out with her because you like her. Most girls like it when guys like them.
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