Do guys really prefer girls who NEED them ?

No, you should not even consider being more girly! Some guys just like the feeling of being needed because they don't have that in their life. But being more independent is a much better quality, you just have to wait for a guy who likes that in a girl. Which there are tons. Most of my friends hate girls who are Needy, which are commonly known as stupid, lol, but personally for me I don't prefer a girl who needs me, but it is nice every now and then. Yea, and the gas can thing. That's so weird, because that happened to me a few weeks ago at Speedway. But I just looked at her with pity. And another negative to acting more girly is sooner or later he's going to find out, and it's pretty harsh finding out who you have been dating for a period of time is someone totally different. So keep up your own personality because it's great, and someone will come.

I wanna elaborate on what I meant by 'it's nice to feel needed sometimes.' I don't want a girlfriend who doesn't know (or doesn't want) to do anything. It's nice to feel heroic, but removing the gas cap is a little trivial. I like to help my girlfriend with something that she genuinely needs help with. I'm talking about the emotional support that couples should provide for each other during life's problems. If a girl really doesn't know something about a car, then I'd love to help out (although I don't know a lot myself). But if I girl wanted me to remove her gas cap (or something else as simple), I'd be thinking 'she wants something from me.'

Let me start by saying, no you should not make yourself more girly-girl. That's not something you force on yourself, either you are girly or you aren't. You won't be happy changing who you are, even if you find someone.

The way I feel about it is, it's nice to feel needed, but at the same time, I don't wanna be a girl who can't do anything. I don't think your independence will cost you a relationship. Just like everyone else, you need find somebody who shares your interests. I really can't picture an outdoor-type guy not wanting to date you, especially since you can do so many things together.

Though I do have to say, that when you find the right guy, you'll probably find that you need him more than you thought you would, and you might get a rush out of doing some of those "girly" things for him. Not like the super-stupid ones, but most guys, regardless of their overall attitude, really like feeling helpful, and they're not always good at picking up on things like that by themselves, so yeah, a suggestion helps them help you. =P if that made any sense at all.

Girls like that are a dime a dozen, which is fitting, because guys that need girls like that are also a dime a dozen. But the good guys (or at least the ones I can respect) are the ones who like girls like you. You're looking at the wrong guys, methinks. So when you do land a good man, he'll be someone that will make your friends jealous of you.

First you should never change yourself to attract a guy. If you are independent, then stay independent, you will be better of because of it, trust me.

Now to answer your first question, I do think that guys like girls that need them, likely because they enjoy the feeling of being needed. I think some guys like to feel like the girls needs them to help take care of them. I'm not sure why guys do this, but I think it might have something to do with being macho and manly. Now this is just my opinion, so don't mean to offend anyone.

Don't ever change yourself though. If a man wants you to need him, then he is not the right guy for you.

Wow, unfortunately, most men need to feel needed. If you are too independent, they tend to shy away. I am the same way you are and I am as single as a dollar bill, smile.

So, when you think about it, try and include a guy in your activities and if you have to fake not knowing how to do something just so he feels like you need him, do it. It makes me nauseous but I too have to pretend to be a damsel in distress at times too. Men eat it up and beat their chests like King Kong when they help their woman do something.

Yup I feel the same way, I'm pretty independent and some what smart and I know lots of things about life, I'm kind of like street smart with stuff and sometimes I feel like I've to be more girly and act like I don't know just to get a guys attention but I realized that I shouldn't change because that's not me and it just means it takes a lot for guys to get our attention cause we're so independent. Just think that your special in that way, that your independent and don't always need a guy to help you out.

No need to change the way you are. There are plenty of guys that would look for these traits in girls. For instance, my boyfriend and I go hiking and running together. Almost everyday I hear him say that he loves how I am. The idea that I'm not girly and worry every time I break a nail, makes him like me even more. You just need to find someone that likes the same things you do, or at least can live with them. Girls like us are a dying kind, and we shouldn't have to change for everyone else. Just enjoy life as you are, and someone will happen along that can take you, as is.

Most guys like to feel manly and competent and in charge (at least some of the time). A girl who plays "helpless female" lets her guy feel "manly" by letting him solve problems for her (even tiny little problems like holding the door for her, or removing gas caps at filling stations). Girls have done this for a looooong time, so I guess it works pretty well for a lot of girls, and a lot of guys. Do girls really need the help? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. But they play the game anyway. You might try it once in a while, and see how it goes. Don't change your whole approach and style and look and behavior. But, once in a while, ask a guy for a little help, and let him help you, and see what happens. What do you have to lose? Good luck!