Well its like this. There's this girl I've worked with for the last 6 months. I like her and want to be with her. She recently broke up with her man.
I can sense she has had feelings for me based on things she has said and done. I know those feelings are still there. Based on that I need to make a move and fast. Yes, I know we work together but she's leaving the job in a few weeks so that doesn't matter.
Now is my time to act. What do I need to do to get her in my arms NOW?
If you know she has feelings for you and if you're SURE she's ready, just go for it. Flirt with her a little, and then ask her out somewhere. If she says no, be nice about it, don't make it out to be a big deal, and keep things from getting awkward. Keep teasing and flirting with her though (but not in a really pushy way) because sometimes when we say no, we're still thinking about saying yes.
I agree that RedRoan311's advice is good. But it might be okay to push a little faster if you want to go for it (and sounds like you do...) This girl is making a lot of changes right now (leaving a relationship and also leaving her job) and her head may be spinning. It's probably the wrong time for her to jump into a new relationship, but maybe the right time to get to know you better. Maybe ask her out for coffee or lunch (less serious than drinks or dinner), let her talk, and be a good listener. Start with that, and see where it goes. But stay relaxed, and don't pressure her. Good luck!
I agree with RedRoan3111! Putting a rush on getting her into your arms may set a future relationship between the two of you up for failure. She might use you as a rebound (especially if she is not completely over her ex) or she could possibly even reject you outright for various reasons including her not being reading for another relationship just yet! I think RedRoan311 has it totally right with what she suggested you do, because honestly that should put you in the best position once she has finally completely removed herself from her previous relationship and is ready to start one with you, with all your support and gentle affection through the hard time that follows any breakup :)
Don't rush anything. Tell her that you'll miss her when she leaves, and see how she reacts. If it's a good reaction give her your number (or get hers), and offer to take her for coffee sometime or something. Especially if she just broke up with someone, she might not be ready for a relationship right now. This way you could be there when she is ready for one:)
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