Some time ago I asked a question about my crush-does he like me or not. Well, he told me on last week that he didn't have a girlfriend. However, on today, he told one of my friends something different. Our mutual friend is an older woman on our job that's been trying to hook us up. This afternoon my crush told her that he was feeling down because he was let down by a certain woman. Of course, she thought he was talking about me, but he wasn't. He was talking to about an older, divorced woman with two kids. She rejected him or something. He said that he was saddened by it.
Okay, I am upset because he told me that he didn't have a girlfriend. He admitted to our mutual friend that he was trying to talk to her. For the past few weeks, I thought he was just "too shy" to ask for my number or to ask me out. I was wrong! He was already involved with someone!
Why did he lie to me? If he was involved with someone or trying to become involved, then why didn't he just leave me alone?
Two things, firstly like you said he was trying to become involved with someone, that doesn't mean he was, so as far as he is concerned he didn't lie to you. In actuality he put you on hold, he might like you, if you want to find out, pursue it, but don't be surprised if you find out that he simply liked her more. That is what it seems like. Your friend tried to hook you up without knowing that he was interested in someone, he pursued that to its end and now since he obviously is going nowhere with it, he may turn his attention to you.
Is it a mean thing to do? Yes. At the same time though, if things didn't work out with her, and he turned you down in the first place, then would he even have a chance with anyone from his point of view? No. And so he kept his options open with you.
Your comment makes a lot of sense. Honestly, I am so disappointed because I really liked him, and I feel like I have made a fool of myself by flirting with him. He flirts as well, but I guess his flirting wasn't as sincere as mine. Thanks! - 5 months ago
Hun, he may not have lied to you, and he may not have been technically "involved" at the time, but he certainly did mislead you (to say the very least). As Lordian suggests, he was probably just trying to keep his "options" open. But that means you were second best (or perhaps less than that) in his eyes. If I were you, I'd move on, and forget about this guy. If you got involved with him, you would always have this nagging doubt in the back of your mind. And so would he. Better to start fresh with someone new. You are still young. Find a guy who will love and cherish you, rather than treating you as his back-up choice. Good luck!
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